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Get Rid of Stress and Worry
My Problem with Worry
I use to worry about everything, starting as soon as my eyes opened in the morning and lasting off and on throughout the day. It was like I was carrying a physical weight on my shoulders. Although I had some serious problems in my life at that time, the worry never accomplished anything.
I worried about my children, my bills, my parents, the house and most of all my impending divorce. The bulk of my “worry time” concerned tomorrow, as I had a lot of fear and did not know how to change the feeling of impending doom. My X-husband was volatile and threatening toward me, so my fears were legitimate, but it was still up to me to come up with solutions that were good for me and my children.
Mark Twain said: My life has been filled with calamities, some of which actually happened.
Lessons I Learned
I don’t remember the name of the book I was reading, but it suggested that you write everything down you’re worried about and put it in a jar. Wait a week and open the jar. I did this and almost every worry had never happened. That didn’t cure me, put it did help put my life into a better perspective.
I began to realize that all my worry were affecting me physically. So, I did join a group support group. That helped me because I realized I wasn’t the only one living this way, and I made new friends that would tell me the straight truth. When I wanted sympathy, I could always call my mom and get the “poor baby” response, but when I wanted straight talk I discussed problems with a friend who was not so emotionally involved in my life.
Over time my problems started being sorted out, and I literally made a decision each morning that I was going to focus on just this day. I didn’t stop worrying immediately, but I was starting to sleep better.
Most of the things we worry about never happen and now there is a research study that proves this point. It is not abnormal to have a few worries, such as being in college and getting ready to take a final exam. The University of Cincinnati did a pilot research on excessive worrying in adolescents between 12 and 17 years of age. They concluded that 85% of worries never happened. Additionally, of the 15% of the worries that did happen, 79% of the time they were surprised at their ability to handle the situations.
You Are Okay
Developing New Habits
They say it takes 30 days to develop a new habit. I don’t know if that is true, but being consistent with my new way to live sure made me feel better. I started trusting that little feeling in my tummy when making a decision. The result was I was trusting my instincts and making better decisions.
When we’re worried or are under stress, all we see are problems, but once we’ve quieted the brain, control will shift from the lower to the higher brain where creative intelligence kicks in. That is when we start to see solutions.
Bobby McFerrin - Don't Worry Be Happy
Possible Physical Effects
Worrying has such a negative effect on your health as it makes you tired, stressed, speeds up and aging process, and it can make you more prone to depression.
Worry has the same physical effects as the way we respond to danger. So, what happens physically to your body when you are under stress?
- Your brain releases stress hormones, such as adrenalin and cortisol.
- Your heart rate increases.
- Your blood pressure rises.
- Your breathing rate increases and you perspire more.
- You become pale as the blood is diverted to your major organs.
Insomnia is another side effect of worry, as is loss of libido. Sometimes people become more absent-minded also. The physical effects of stress are hard on the body, and if you are living under a lot of stress it is time to make some changes.
Ways to Overcome Anxiety
Identify the anxiety source as understanding the anxiety, source will help you find a solution. Decide if there is something you can do about your problem. If it is an imagined fear, then it is time to make a conscious effort to forget about it. If there is an action your can take, then do not hesitate. Take the action, whether it means confronting an individual or making a plan as to how to get out of debt. You have to begin to take control of your life if your want relief.
Deal with one problems now at a time.
Consider the worst possible outcome of your fear honestly before you panic or react without thinking through your actions. Thinking critically should always occur first as most problems can be solved in a reasonable manner.
Accept the fact that you can’t control other people, and you can’t know the future. Set boundaries as necessary. Make positive decisions that feel comfortable to you. Try to focus on the positive.
Obviously, no one likes to live being worried all the time. Life is too short to be stressed. There are solutions to most problems, even though they don’t always appear as quickly as we would like sometimes.
Be kind to yourself by eating healthy, getting enough sleep and exercising. Exercise is a great way to help relieve stress as it produces the healthy brain hormones. Watch a funny movies or go out with some enjoyable friends.
© 2014 Pamela Oglesby