- Quality of Life & Wellness
Get out of your comfortzone: it's gonna kill you
Live extreme and be happy for once
I've gotta say something. I hate people and their comfort zones.I really, really do.
Every person on the planet seems to have something to complain about, that's all good and well, fine. I understand some things you cannot change by just willpower, but if you live in a decent place, you have all your limbs and there's no impending doom cloud lingering over you, you need to get off your buns and break your comfort zone. From what I see, most people inflict their own suffering (if you can call it that), they get too comfortable with their mundane lives and never find out just how awesome they can be. Frankly, I'm sick of it. Yes, I --a total stranger who doesn't know all the facts-- am fed up with hearing people complain about their weight, their job, their friends, the person they miss, yada yada yada, the list goes on and on.
It all sounds very simple when you say it. If you want that banging body then go get it. If you miss a certain someone, tell them. If you're an emotional eater, cut out whoever/whatever causes you the distress that leads to binging. If you hate your job, quit. Do what is in reach, do what makes you happy, do whatever you daydream about, but don't you dare complicate your life, you don't deserve anything less than the best.
Sounds very straightforward, sounds simple. We all know it's not like that at all. For a lot of us, the comfort zone is our killer.
Your comfort zone is where you feel no anxiety, where you go through familiar motions, you might find it hard to concentrate while in your comfort zone, you feel safe in your comfort zone and you're under the illusion of security. You are 100% in charge of your comfort zone because it exists mentally, in other word, your comfort zone is you setting up mental barriers. Because your comfort zone entails doing things that are familiar, you will not move forward in life while stuck in your comfort zone. You created it and now you need to destroy it temporarily in order for you to progress in your life.
My inspiration for this hub came from myself. I want to illustrate the damage a person can bring upon himself by remaining comfortable for too long, I will use myself as an example. About five years ago, I was depressed and suicidal. I quit everything and locked myself in my house, I broke off every single friendship I had by purposely starting fights over irrelevant things. For some reason, I wanted to make myself as repulsive as I could so I cut all of my bar-strap length hair to two inches long, I wore big, ripped, stained clothes, I showered rarely and I pushed my weight up over 180 pounds (I'm a 5'2 female, so you can imagine). I have no idea why I wanted this, I just did. These days I've been thinking that I might have wanted to be left alone, but I took it to an extreme, I took it way too far in the wrong direction. I let this lifestyle continue for years, this was my comfort zone and I didn't want to leave it.
It wasn't until three and half years later I got a wake-up call. I was desperate to get away from the people I was living with, I was considering something called wwoofing to travel around for cheap. While researching wwoof, I came across a youtuber named Leija Turunen who totally changed my outlook on the world. Leija was wwoofing in Hawaii when I first found her on youtube, she was such an interesting individual that I perused her channel for the next few months. I was completely taken aback by how in love with life and people she was, I always thought the world was corrupt and out to destroy me the second I turned my back, but she bounced through days grateful to be breathing. I wanted that kind of happiness so badly and watching her motivated me to go get it.
Fast forward one and a half years: I'm still pushing through all the emotional baggage and getting closer to my goal all the time. I still have so much I need to do but I did lose 40 pounds, I did get a job to save up enough to travel for six weeks, I have started hubbing, an etsy store and I uploaded my first youtube video today despite my anxiety. I am making progress. I am in a better place now than I was two years ago. I broke my comfort zone and I'm going to keep it broken until I know I've reached the life I dream of.
While I know all the depression, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, and emotional eating really shaped me into a much more compassionate person; I wonder, where would I be today if I didn't take a five year detour? Where would I be if I had stepped up to the plate years ago? If I had broken out of my comfort zone before I sank into depression, would I be more successful today?
More than anything, I hope my little story here resonates with someone. Inspirational quotes don't cut it for me, I need to look up to someone who's already living the results I want.