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Getting Sober - How I Did It And How You Can Do It

Updated on January 21, 2012

TAKEN THOSE FIRST STEPS TO GETTING SOBER

In this Hub I am going to try and explain getting sober how I did it and how you can do it as well.

Being addicted to alcohol or any harmful drug for that matter, takes a toll on your body, your life, your families and your friends. We the alcoholics never realize that we are not the only people being effected by our addiction to alcohol or drugs.

It never even crosses our minds, because we are so involved with our addictions, such as, when the next drink will be or the next high will come. We focus on those things and tend to forget about what should be the most important things in our lives.

One important thing is your own life and followed by our families and friends that have great concern for our well being and our life as it is being effected to these harmful substances.

Getting sober in the addicted persons life is not top on their priority list, but getting drunk or high tends to rank high up there.

I speak here from experience and speak from my heart and want everyone to know that getting sober is possible only if you want it to be and I am living proof of this.

That statement, "Getting Sober is possible only if you want it to be" is the first words and the first steps towards your sobriety. As we all know, if you are not willing to quit drinking alcohol then you will never get sober and that is very self explanatory I think.

Think long and hard.
Think long and hard.
Make it be your last drink
Make it be your last drink

WHAT COMES NEXT ?

So, you have decided you want to quit drinking alcohol and now you are wondering what comes next. The ball is in your court and YOU are the only one that can take full control of that ball. It is You that can only change your own life, so grab that ball, hold tight and just run with it and never let go!

Well, the next step and how I did it is like this:

ONE THING i WOULD LIKE TO MENTION BEFORE i BEGIN MY HOPEFULLY HELPFUL LIST OF STEPS TO GETTING SOBER IS THAT i DO REALIZE THAT EACH PERSON IS EFFECTED AND ADDICTED MORE OR LESS THAN THE OTHER, AND SOME MAY BE ABLE TO FIND SOBRIETY ON THEIR OWN AND OTHERS MAY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP.

I AM ONLY SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCES AND HOPEFULLY HELP YOU IN YOURS.

ONE THING i MAY ADD IS WHEN YOU BEGIN TO LOOK AT YOUR LIFE, PLEASE DO THIS WHILE HAVING A CLEAR MIND AND NOT UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL OR DRUGS, BECAUSE THE ALCOHOL OR DRUGS WILL IN FACT BE IN THE CONVERSATION THAT YOU WILL BE HAVING TO YOURSELF AND HINDER ANY POSITIVE DECISIONS YOU MAY WANT TO MAKE ON GETTING SOBER.

  • I sat down " being sober" and took a real good look at my life as I lived it that day.
  • I looked at my life and where my life was headed if I were to continue drinking alcohol.
  • I looked at the Pros and Cons of drinking alcohol and Not drinking alcohol.
  • See which one out weighs the other and I think Not drinking alcohol will win, at least it did for me.
  • Take a good hard look at others, such as your families and friends, and think to yourself what they have been going though along with you and your addiction.
  • You MUST change you attitude and start thinking Positive thoughts.
  • You need to have a Strong desire to get sober.
  • You may have to steer clear of you drinking buddies as they will tend to Not help in your decision to become clean and sober.
  • When making that decision to stay away from your drinking buddies, you and they may feel as if your friendships have stopped. You have to do this for your own well being. This will make your life much easier by being away from the temptation to drink.
  • THIS WAS THE HARD PART FOR ME:
  • You will have to make a PROMISE to yourself that you may never be able to pick up or tilt that bottle again. Everyone knows that breaking Promises is a No No and especially breaking a promise to yourself, that is a definite NO NO.
  • You have to Believe in yourself and when you do Believe you WILL Achieve anything you set out to do, including Getting Sober.
  • Stick to your guns and don't ever let anything, anyone, including drinking friends stop you from achieving your dreams and goals of Getting Sober.
  • Never be a quitter.
  • Don't get disgusted or depressed because things are not moving and changing as fast as you would like.
  • Never give up on your dreams and goals of getting sobriety back into your life.

SUMMARY

These are a few of my ideas that helped me in my journey to getting sober and I certainly hope you think about them and hopefully apply them to your journey to finding your own sobriety.

Nothing is impossible in life if you truly want it bad enough. Getting sober and living the clean life again is by far the best thing I could of ever done in my life and it can be the same for you as well if you really want it bad enough.

Give your body and your life a second chance. You will thank yourself in the end and life will be better than you could ever imagine, take my word on it!

All you have to do is to take that first step, the first step that will change your life forever.

SURRENDER TO YOUR INNER DEMONS and LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE.

If anyone has benefited by my hubs on addiction and sobriety and has a success story to share I would love to hear from you. You can contact me here on Hubpages.

ENJOYING YOUR LIFE AND YOUR FAMILY
ENJOYING YOUR LIFE AND YOUR FAMILY
DON'T LET LIFE PASS YOU BY !
DON'T LET LIFE PASS YOU BY !

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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Ashley - Thank you for your comment and what will help you achieve sobriety is to keep looking at the little girl and husband of your and tell yourself that they love you and need you in their life for many of years. This will not happen if you continue to drink. You have to believe in yourself and tell yourself that you can and will get sober. It is only as hard as you make it. I just made up my mine and I stuck to it and believe me once you get through that hard part in the beginning you will have it made, but din't give in just keep your mind on your family and that wonderful life you will have with them as all being sober.

      God Bless you and stay strong and believe and then you will achieve.

      Mark

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      Ashley 

      6 years ago

      Going through this now. So scared and tired of trying to hide or mask this. It's out of control. I'm so unhealthy. I'm ready to be me again. I have a husband and a 6 year old daughter who need me. I'm totally absent because of this. I make appearances, but I'm never truly there.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ Ashantina, No I didn't because all my drinking days I knew what started it and as time passed I just got more addicted to the drink and finally one says to themself enough is enough and I put the drink down and never picked it up again

      Thanks for you comment and I wish you and your family a Very Merry Christmas and a Very Happy and Safe 2011

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ VioletSun, Thanks so much for one more uplifting comment. Yes it would be interesting to see if anyone has benefited by my experiences and writing.

      Hope you and your family have a Blessed Holiday Season.

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      Ashantina 

      7 years ago

      Did you have to go back in time and look at what it was that actually made you start in the first place? I admire your strength, and your decision to REMAIN addiction free. A big hug :)

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      VioletSun 

      7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      Mark, Another very well done hub! I would love to read comments one day by someone that was helped by your hubs - there has to be readers who are recieving encouragement in having a life of soberiety after reading your work.

      Rated up!

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