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Got Unnecessary Anger Issues? How to take control over your anger and your life...

Updated on August 16, 2012

Have you got anger problems that you cannot control? Has your anger gotten you into unnecessary situations that could have just been avoided if you had just calmed down? Anger is a normal emotion everyone experiences, but when it starts to become destructive to your life you must take control of it as soon as possible. It is time to start now, if you haven't already, so that you don't come up in any situations that you could have just avoided by controlling your anger. If you are worrying, DON'T worry...having anger issues is very common and normal, but learning how to overcome these issues will surely brighten up your days and make life a little better for you and everyone around you. Anger is an emotion that we all have, but when we let it get out of hand, it can take control over our lives. You don't want that to happen, so I am offering some of my tips on how to control your anger. I myself get angry easily, and have been like that since I was very little, but with a little help from my mother giving me tips, and my own ways of coping as I got older, you would never know that I have anger issues myself. I always walk around with a smile on my face, and I am very nice and friendly. It happens to the best of us, but do not let it control you. There are a few ways that people use to overcome their anger, and I will be discussing one of the ways which is: calming yourself down. There are many ways to calm down. Anger is a natural emotion that can be very strong and can take over any situation faster than you will realize. You can practice controlling or calming some of your anger and outbursts of irrational emotions while you are not angry by using some of my tips when you are calm. That way, if you do get angry you will have had practice controlling it already. It may sound silly but do it! Remember, practice makes perfect! :)

Small tips that can make a difference

Count to ten. When your feeling a little steamy, sit yourself down and count to 10 in your head or out loud, whatever works for you. Believe me this little trick works and can help to calmly stop angry and irrational situations.

Just stop yourself. If you feel like your getting all rawled up over something that you know you shouldn't be getting that crazy about. Stop. Think about something else. I'm not saying to avoid anything, but angry people need to stop when they are angry and calm down. Try to think of calm things, like think of your baby niece or a beautiful beach or something. Whatever will work for you. You know what might calm you. If thinking calm doesn't work, then don't think of anything. Take deep breaths. Clear your mind and relax. Then, whenever you are calm and/or have thought it out, approach the situation again.

Now,this may not be the best approach to some people but it works for me: Walk away from the situation. Take some time to be by yourself and sort things out in your own head, and then when you are ready you can approach the situation better.

Listen to music. Calming music. Happy music. The last thing you should do when you're angry is to listen to angry or depressing music, though. So make sure you don't do that, because it will make you more upset/angry/etc. Listen to some happy dance music or something. Or put on something that brings back happy memories.

Remind yourself that angry outbursts just make matters worse. If you are getting all crazy in your head, and you are about to say or do something you normally wouldn't do, but your so angry you just might do it. Ask yourself, is this worth it? Will it make matters better or worse? Most likely it will make matters worse, so rationalize, take precaution and don't do it. Relax.

Now remember, you have to see what will work for you the best. Everyone is different, so some of these tips may not work for you, but its worth it to give it a try, so your life can be better and happier. Take a second and think about how your anger is helping your situations. I bet it's not. If you realize that you are letting your anger control you more often than not, try to take control of your life again by controlling your anger. I know many people don't like the idea, but seeing a therapist or counselor could be a good idea for you as well, if trying to control it yourself doesn't work. Talking to someone you don't know who can guide you to take back the control of your life for yourself is a good thing, and a good therapist can help you do that. I know many people think that they are not crazy, so why go see a therapist. Therapists are for everyone, crazy or not, they help us overcome life's problems as well as finding our own solutions to our problems. Well, hope I helped and remember, happy is the way to be:)


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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thank you IntegrityYes:) :) you are awesome!

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      IntegrityYes 5 years ago

      That is so useful,awesome,and interesting. I voted way up.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Going for walks helps me out as well, it is calming and also good for you. Thank you for your comment klanguedoc!

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      Kevin Languedoc 5 years ago from Canada

      Anger is irrationale. I go for walks when I can however quick temper is harder to manage and I usually try to find a quiet place inside myself. My own little paradise.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thank you love doctor so are yours! :) That's a very good stress reliever, and it's good for you too! Keeps you healthy...

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Voted up useful! I hit the gym as soon as I find myself getting angry. Not too often, but every once in a while. Lol. thanks for the tips. Your articles are really good.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Yes, they are good traits to develop for many different circumstances, especially anger management! Thank you for reading jellygator!

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      jellygator 5 years ago from USA

      Self-discipline and self-control are some very good traits to develop, especially when it comes to handling anger.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thanks MelisAnn, we all know sometimes out of anger we react or say things we didn't mean to say so calming yourself down for a bit will surely help non-wanted situations from occurring! Thanks for commenting and for reading :)!

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      Melis Ann 5 years ago from Mom On A Health Hunt

      Good advice for taking a few extra moments to calm down before reacting explosively. Great topic!

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 5 years ago from NYC BABY

      Yes I agree, therapists for some people are really helpful! Glad yours helped you! Thanks for reading @zionsphere! I used to get crazy angry but I learned how to control myself so now I'm not that bad anymore :)

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      zionsphere 5 years ago from Oregon

      Some people won't let you walk away from the situation, and I have had angry outburst knowing that they would make things worse, but being unable to help it at the moment.

      Sometimes there are events that really are that angering.

      However, this is all really good advice, and this is a well written hub.

      My therapist has helped me a lot. I don't have anger control issues, but I have been through enough to trigger an outburst a time or two. Therapy has helped me stay motivated even through the worst events in my life, and I agree that everyone can benefit from talking to someone that doesn't know them.


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