Got Unnecessary Anger Issues? How to take control over your anger and your life...
Have you got anger problems that you cannot control? Has your anger gotten you into unnecessary situations that could have just been avoided if you had just calmed down? Anger is a normal emotion everyone experiences, but when it starts to become destructive to your life you must take control of it as soon as possible. It is time to start now, if you haven't already, so that you don't come up in any situations that you could have just avoided by controlling your anger. If you are worrying, DON'T worry...having anger issues is very common and normal, but learning how to overcome these issues will surely brighten up your days and make life a little better for you and everyone around you. Anger is an emotion that we all have, but when we let it get out of hand, it can take control over our lives. You don't want that to happen, so I am offering some of my tips on how to control your anger. I myself get angry easily, and have been like that since I was very little, but with a little help from my mother giving me tips, and my own ways of coping as I got older, you would never know that I have anger issues myself. I always walk around with a smile on my face, and I am very nice and friendly. It happens to the best of us, but do not let it control you. There are a few ways that people use to overcome their anger, and I will be discussing one of the ways which is: calming yourself down. There are many ways to calm down. Anger is a natural emotion that can be very strong and can take over any situation faster than you will realize. You can practice controlling or calming some of your anger and outbursts of irrational emotions while you are not angry by using some of my tips when you are calm. That way, if you do get angry you will have had practice controlling it already. It may sound silly but do it! Remember, practice makes perfect! :)
Small tips that can make a difference
Count to ten. When your feeling a little steamy, sit yourself down and count to 10 in your head or out loud, whatever works for you. Believe me this little trick works and can help to calmly stop angry and irrational situations.
Just stop yourself. If you feel like your getting all rawled up over something that you know you shouldn't be getting that crazy about. Stop. Think about something else. I'm not saying to avoid anything, but angry people need to stop when they are angry and calm down. Try to think of calm things, like think of your baby niece or a beautiful beach or something. Whatever will work for you. You know what might calm you. If thinking calm doesn't work, then don't think of anything. Take deep breaths. Clear your mind and relax. Then, whenever you are calm and/or have thought it out, approach the situation again.
Now,this may not be the best approach to some people but it works for me: Walk away from the situation. Take some time to be by yourself and sort things out in your own head, and then when you are ready you can approach the situation better.
Listen to music. Calming music. Happy music. The last thing you should do when you're angry is to listen to angry or depressing music, though. So make sure you don't do that, because it will make you more upset/angry/etc. Listen to some happy dance music or something. Or put on something that brings back happy memories.
Remind yourself that angry outbursts just make matters worse. If you are getting all crazy in your head, and you are about to say or do something you normally wouldn't do, but your so angry you just might do it. Ask yourself, is this worth it? Will it make matters better or worse? Most likely it will make matters worse, so rationalize, take precaution and don't do it. Relax.
Now remember, you have to see what will work for you the best. Everyone is different, so some of these tips may not work for you, but its worth it to give it a try, so your life can be better and happier. Take a second and think about how your anger is helping your situations. I bet it's not. If you realize that you are letting your anger control you more often than not, try to take control of your life again by controlling your anger. I know many people don't like the idea, but seeing a therapist or counselor could be a good idea for you as well, if trying to control it yourself doesn't work. Talking to someone you don't know who can guide you to take back the control of your life for yourself is a good thing, and a good therapist can help you do that. I know many people think that they are not crazy, so why go see a therapist. Therapists are for everyone, crazy or not, they help us overcome life's problems as well as finding our own solutions to our problems. Well, hope I helped and remember, happy is the way to be:)