Do You Feel Guilt from The Loss Of A Loved One?
Death is something we all must face in this life
I think guilt is a part of the grieving process. We all wish we could have done something to prevent the loss ie; maybe we should have done this or that. Maybe we could have prevented it.
Grieving is a normal/natural process because loss is devastating anytime love is involved. We no longer have or can we be a part of that persons life in the physical sence. We believe that bond has been broken. I believe bonds can never be broken. Maybe in the physical sence but never in the heart. Our hearts will carry this bond until the day we die.
We may not be able to speak to or touch or share but the driving force that inspired us is still within us...LOVE... and that my friend will never leave/abandon us. I believe one takes love with them no matter where they go.
Our sence of security lies within us and all we need to do is reach for it. It's there. It may be clouded with hurt, loss and guilt but it's still there. Memories are precious. They are meant to be cherished, not lived in/consumed by. They are a gift and no one is left without them. No one has been abandoned in the spiritual sence. They are meant to remain with us to comfort us and remind us of the love we shared.
Many live in/remain in their grief do to guilt which prolongs the healing process. Don't let this happen to you. Don't allow grief to destroy what has been most precious to you. There will always be something we could have done better. There will always be "if onlys". Don't let them destroy you because these kinds of thoughts will eat you alive and cloud your judgement.
You can't be everything to anybody. We were'nt made that way. Why we can't even be everything to ourselves! It's impossible because we're not perfect. Don't get me wrong, we should strive for perfection but our expectations can be too high and one should not punish him/herself for not aquiring it. I encourage you to read my hub "Expectations".
There is only one thing that is perfect and that is love. No matter what we may have lacked in, we had love. Love can make us want to leap bounds, go beyond our capacity and try to achieve the impossible because love is powerful! We will never be able to measure up to love and guilt will make us try. Guilt will try to overpower love, but it's impossible. That battle will never be won!
Nothing comes close to love. Nothing will ever be equal to it. Nothing will ever destroy it! Love always remains the same.
So if you find yourself burdened with grief, remember the love. Love is in your heart and it will remain there to comfort you until the day you die. That is love's purpose. Even tho we may not be able to touch in the physical sence we have touched in the spiritual and that has more meaning in the end. That is solid and it can't be moved!
Love has wings and it can go anywhere. It can leap bounds in the spiritual sence and Love never dies!!!