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How Happiness abounds Here.

Updated on June 24, 2014

Okay it is true, sometimes chocolate makes us happy.

Sometimes breaking the rules makes us happy.
Sometimes breaking the rules makes us happy. | Source

Happiness does not just happen.

How happiness abounds is not just a matter of luck. Happiness is not just a natural state of being. Happiness in a family takes a lot of work and happiness for single folks even more work. Happiness resides where it is nurtured and taught. Happiness does not come from things or circumstances.

Happiness passes. But it can pass quickly to another happiness. Joy is a lasting happiness and is a way of life. Happiness is like a baby joy. When one is constantly happy it can grow into joy.

Children can be taught to be happy or they can be conditioned into unhappiness.

You can be crazy and still happy

Once upon a time there was a child.

The child decided that he did not want to take baths in the evening. And so whenever it was bath time the child would whine and cry. The child's mother would argue and there would be great commotion. This went on for weeks until one day the dad got angry. So he would not tell the boy it was bath time. He would just swoop the boy up and plop him in the water in the tub. Sometimes fully clothed and sometimes not. But here is the interesting part. The boy was very happy taking his baths.

You see in the beginning the boy would be playing away happy with toys and would not want to stop. This is what made him upset. As time grew he just got in the habit of being upset when it was time to take a bath. So much so that just mentioning the bath made him unhappy.

Within just four days of being swooped up for the bath the boy looked forward to the swooping which became a great game and from that point the boy was happy to play and to take a bath. Happiness was taught.

Sometimes we are so happy we do not move on to the next happy and that can be a problem. We can get stuck in one happiness until we do not know how to move on and grow and do what we need to do. It is the doing of the thing that makes us happy and not a deeper joy within.

But on this we must only think about it. There is no great rule or final lesson to be learned from this natural fact. But we do know one thing. It is a great problem to not want to leave one happiness for another.

How about you, do you hold on to happiness too long?

Can you let go while you are still happy?

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Sometimes happiness is found in just hiding from the world but please no when to re-enter.

This child was quite convinced we could not see him. Ostrich anyone?
This child was quite convinced we could not see him. Ostrich anyone? | Source

Anticipation

Anticipation is one of the hardest parts about happiness. Anticipation is the art of living in the future. It is one tough boogeyman to conquer.

Just think of a mother getting ready for a wedding party. Does worry and anxiety destroy the happiness of the moment of getting ready? Does it require everyone else to worry and anticipate only problems? Is the mom hopped up on Valium? Do folks avoid her. Can she ruin the affair by unhappy anticipation. Well that scenario is what makes experts tell us to stay in the moment.

But happiness can be found in the anticipation of great things and times to come. Yahoo we are going to have a party. The time for anticipation is in fact the moment and it should be loved and cherished.

When the event comes that is a separate moment and can be happy or unhappy but it is a different moment. I have never ever been disappointed and I am serious.I am happy anticipating the moon and happy when I get a small slice of cheese. Why not. I was taught to be happy with the moment and so I can even be happy with a failed outcome. Can you imagine happiness from within instead of from without. It is an art that requires training and discipline and a big Let Go!

A Happy couple

At least they laughed a lot and loved.
At least they laughed a lot and loved. | Source

Edginess is the archenemy of happiness.

Happiness is not serenity. Nearly the opposite! Happiness is an extreme. Get over it. You have seen the Olympics on TV. Picture the downhill ski racing. The downhill with speeds of over 80 miles per hour and ice as hard as marble. At the starting gate the racer can only think of the course below and what he must do. He must have an edginess about him yet keep his body in a "loose" state and not too tense. In fact he must block out all else and not see problems or think about the troubles of the day. In fact he must be serene.

But we would not at that moment say he was happy. He may well be but he must block that out for now. In a matter of seconds when he is done he will be happy. For then he can afford to be.And if he is wise he will be happy at the end of the course no matter what his time or ranking, because he will be happy that he tried and that he is alive and safe at the bottom of the run. For this high speed high danger competitor happiness is a choice that he can make.

All of us have the same ability. Sometimes happiness is not called for. Serene at a funeral is fine, happy would be insensitive to others who mourn.Sometimes people do not think you are not serious when you are happy so smiling and being all happy while taking care of another's serious business is tricky at best.


Trouble and Happiness

A couple is having financial problems. The husband remains happy. The wife is upset. The wife gets more upset because the husband does not act all upset. The wife accuses the husband of not taking is seriously because he remains happy. She wants to see him suffer like she does.

Believe it or not, that scenario is the reason for divorce when claimed to be "financial" problems. Finances do not cause divorce, unhappiness does. It would seem that this particular case really drives home the notion of happiness. And how sad of a commentary that is on modern life.

Be happy with you own stuff.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Welcome back to your writing home. That little guy is just like that all the time, what a treasure. Thank you for the read and nice comment.

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      Judy Specht 3 years ago from California

      Catching up on my HP friends after a splendid summer. This hub made me happy that someone realizes happiness is active and not passive. Of course any talk about downhill skiing makes me happy. Enjoyed the fun happy looking little boy the best.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Yahoo -- surf lessons and swimming lessons and beach time and hiking time and we still have time for home schooling and those pesky addition tables !!!!!

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      This little guy should give you a lot of reasons to be happy.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi John, I call that prophylactic moderation of elation. I think it is a good mechanism as long as we can turn it off from time to time. Thank you for adding that great comment to my humble hub.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lady, I fudged on one thing, people really can make us happy -- you are proof.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Happies to you our Gallup way Tim. For sure it is a mixture. I firmly believe that both nature and nurture are to blame for my happiness.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for adding such happiness to the hub ;-)

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Good message Eric. Happiness is hard to define and different from one person to the next. I would say I am content most of the time and actual happiness comes and goes. I may have a defense mechanism built in due to some very devastating events in life. It seemed that if we got to a point where we were exceedingly happy, some bad event would occur to bring that happiness crashing down. Now I think I have subconsciously set a maximum level of happiness for myself so that it is not such a big fall when something goes wrong. Thanks for this hub.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      Typical EricDierker to talk about happiness and about going from one happiness to the next. It's true, but it's so hard for us to believe sometimes, even if we know it. Thank you for the reminder.

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      Tim Knowles 3 years ago from Gallup, New Mexico

      Like most things in life, it's complicated. I've known people who have had very little in life, yet they were very happy. Conversely, I've known millionaires who were very unhappy and totally paranoid about losing it all. Lincoln said most folks are "as happy as they make their minds up to be." Given some ability and motivation, most people do make up their minds to be happy. The late Prof. David Lykken, studied dozens of twins and concluded that there's a "happiness set point" and that one's "happiness" is a mixture of heredity and circumstance.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Very nice hub with a good message!

      Happiness can be found in spreading Happiness!

      Happiness can be found in least expensive things of life---the smile of a child, the blooming flowers, the wrinkled smile of a granny are some of them.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this insightful hub! Voted up!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Sparklea, you just inspired me greatly.

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Ericdierker: I love your writing...you are so very, very unique...I always feel like you are sitting with me at a table, drinking coffee and just sharing great insights about life to me. Great hub, as always. Love your comment, "Finances do not cause divorce, unhappiness does." Truer words never spoken. SUMMARY: Happiness is a CHOICE...and our thoughts have a lot to do with that. God bless, and thank you, Sparklea ;)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      DDE, you seem to have done well finding that sweetness again. Thanks

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shanmarie, Joy back at you. (you may want to share that joy as I think you may have plenty ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ologsinquito, I must say I am grateful for you and the knowledge you share, thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill you have the surest way of being happy -- you spread happiness daily.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I have always been a happy person after my move to Croatia I lost that mode and have rediscovered my happiness over time all over again.

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      shanmarie 3 years ago

      Good message, friend. I like the distinction between happiness and joy. I actually read something the other day to that effect. It said something like "happiness is short-lived, but joy is long lasting, so I wish you joy."

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      Happiness is just being grateful for what you have. You are so right about edginess being counterproductive.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Happiness was once elusive for me. Today it is much easier for me to find. Love the message my friend.