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How Happiness abounds Here.
Okay it is true, sometimes chocolate makes us happy.
Happiness does not just happen.
How happiness abounds is not just a matter of luck. Happiness is not just a natural state of being. Happiness in a family takes a lot of work and happiness for single folks even more work. Happiness resides where it is nurtured and taught. Happiness does not come from things or circumstances.
Happiness passes. But it can pass quickly to another happiness. Joy is a lasting happiness and is a way of life. Happiness is like a baby joy. When one is constantly happy it can grow into joy.
Children can be taught to be happy or they can be conditioned into unhappiness.
You can be crazy and still happy
Once upon a time there was a child.
The child decided that he did not want to take baths in the evening. And so whenever it was bath time the child would whine and cry. The child's mother would argue and there would be great commotion. This went on for weeks until one day the dad got angry. So he would not tell the boy it was bath time. He would just swoop the boy up and plop him in the water in the tub. Sometimes fully clothed and sometimes not. But here is the interesting part. The boy was very happy taking his baths.
You see in the beginning the boy would be playing away happy with toys and would not want to stop. This is what made him upset. As time grew he just got in the habit of being upset when it was time to take a bath. So much so that just mentioning the bath made him unhappy.
Within just four days of being swooped up for the bath the boy looked forward to the swooping which became a great game and from that point the boy was happy to play and to take a bath. Happiness was taught.
Sometimes we are so happy we do not move on to the next happy and that can be a problem. We can get stuck in one happiness until we do not know how to move on and grow and do what we need to do. It is the doing of the thing that makes us happy and not a deeper joy within.
But on this we must only think about it. There is no great rule or final lesson to be learned from this natural fact. But we do know one thing. It is a great problem to not want to leave one happiness for another.
How about you, do you hold on to happiness too long?
Can you let go while you are still happy?
Sometimes happiness is found in just hiding from the world but please no when to re-enter.
Anticipation is one of the hardest parts about happiness. Anticipation is the art of living in the future. It is one tough boogeyman to conquer.
Just think of a mother getting ready for a wedding party. Does worry and anxiety destroy the happiness of the moment of getting ready? Does it require everyone else to worry and anticipate only problems? Is the mom hopped up on Valium? Do folks avoid her. Can she ruin the affair by unhappy anticipation. Well that scenario is what makes experts tell us to stay in the moment.
But happiness can be found in the anticipation of great things and times to come. Yahoo we are going to have a party. The time for anticipation is in fact the moment and it should be loved and cherished.
When the event comes that is a separate moment and can be happy or unhappy but it is a different moment. I have never ever been disappointed and I am serious.I am happy anticipating the moon and happy when I get a small slice of cheese. Why not. I was taught to be happy with the moment and so I can even be happy with a failed outcome. Can you imagine happiness from within instead of from without. It is an art that requires training and discipline and a big Let Go!
A Happy couple
Edginess is the archenemy of happiness.
Happiness is not serenity. Nearly the opposite! Happiness is an extreme. Get over it. You have seen the Olympics on TV. Picture the downhill ski racing. The downhill with speeds of over 80 miles per hour and ice as hard as marble. At the starting gate the racer can only think of the course below and what he must do. He must have an edginess about him yet keep his body in a "loose" state and not too tense. In fact he must block out all else and not see problems or think about the troubles of the day. In fact he must be serene.
But we would not at that moment say he was happy. He may well be but he must block that out for now. In a matter of seconds when he is done he will be happy. For then he can afford to be.And if he is wise he will be happy at the end of the course no matter what his time or ranking, because he will be happy that he tried and that he is alive and safe at the bottom of the run. For this high speed high danger competitor happiness is a choice that he can make.
All of us have the same ability. Sometimes happiness is not called for. Serene at a funeral is fine, happy would be insensitive to others who mourn.Sometimes people do not think you are not serious when you are happy so smiling and being all happy while taking care of another's serious business is tricky at best.
Trouble and Happiness
A couple is having financial problems. The husband remains happy. The wife is upset. The wife gets more upset because the husband does not act all upset. The wife accuses the husband of not taking is seriously because he remains happy. She wants to see him suffer like she does.
Believe it or not, that scenario is the reason for divorce when claimed to be "financial" problems. Finances do not cause divorce, unhappiness does. It would seem that this particular case really drives home the notion of happiness. And how sad of a commentary that is on modern life.
Be happy with you own stuff.
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