Have You Been Hugged Today?
Have you been hugged today?
If the answer is "No," then you have been touched deprived. Everybody needs to be hugged. Think of the child within us all who needs love, safety, support, care and a warm touch. We, as adults, are reaching out for those same needs.
Dr. Leo Buscaglia, author of several books on the subject of love is also considered the "Hug Doctor." He believes people should not be afraid of touching, feeling or showing emotion. Hugging is a way of letting people know you care. You don't even have to be involved with someone or need to know someone personally in order to give a friendly hug to cheer, to dispel loneliness or to overcome fears.
The Hug Therapist Book, written by Kathleen Keating illustrates through drawings and articles that hugging is an absolute necessity for our physical as well as our emotional well being. Throughout the pages of the book, hug therapy is depicted as the practice of administering hugs for the purpose of curing or healing, or of preserving health. Hugging is the perfect and simple treatment of disease. Keating says, "Hugging is an instinct, a natural response to feelings of affection, compassion, need and joy." Hugging is a science, a method of support, healing and growth with immeasurable and remarkable results. Many people have learned that in its highest form, hugging is also an art.
There is power in the touch. Research supports the theory that touch is necessary for our physical and emotional well being. Touch is a therapeutic tool for healing. In some large medical centers, it is now a part of nurses' training to be able to touch to help relieve pain, to ease depression and anxiety and to give patients the will to live. Hugging is good for all of us...young, old, male, and female. It opens doors to feelings, and it makes us feel good. it eases tension and is good exercise because hugging keeps arms an shoulder muscles in condition.
BEAR HUG - traditional hug; bodies touch in a powerful, strong squeeze that lasts five to ten seconds or more.
CHEEK HUG - a tender gentle hug that often has a spiritual quality.
SIDE BY SIDE HUG - side by side hug is good to provide a joyful moment while walking.
What is a hug? A hug is defined as an affectionate embrace. We must keep in mind, however, that there is a big difference between a hug of compassion and a hug of passion. A caring, comfortable hug is no way like a lover's hug. A hug is almost always welcomed. Sometimes you will receive verbal permission from someone who wants a hug such as a child entering school for the first time, or from an adult who did not get that last promotion. how about that teenagers who did not get his driver's license the first, second, or third time he tried? Don't you think a hug would be in order at that time? Act accordingly, but if you sense someone doesn't lie to be hugged, don't force it. Hugging is good for the hugger and the one being hugged.
According to Barbara Tooney and June Bierman, in their book, The Diabetic's Total Health Book, "Hugging rosters a feeling of self-worth. It makes you more accepting of yourself by helping you realize that you are a good person, a huggable person. It makes you want to take better care of that good person in order to keep that good person on the planet as long as possible.
There are many different kinds of hugs. The traditional one is the bear hug. Bodies touch in a powerful, strong squeeze that lasts five to ten seconds or more. The cheek hug is a tender gentle hug that often has a spiritual quality. The side by side hug is good to provide a joyful moment while walking. The type of hug depends greatly on the hugger, the person being hugged and the situation.
The next time someone asks you, "Have you been hugged today?" perhaps the answer will be "Yes." If it's "No" share a hug with that person. When approaching someone for a hug, there are several things you could say. Choose the one that is comfortable for you.
- "Give me a hug."
- "Let me give you a hug."
- "May I have a hug?"
The bottom line is that we all need hugs.