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Try a Little Kindness

Updated on May 10, 2014

Real or fiction? We are Bound by a Higher Law

When I went down to the "dungeon" (my man cave as I call it) yesterday morning and began to open my emails there was one from Sharon, an old friend of mine. In the email she shared a video which was such a blessing to me as I opened and viewed a few minutes later. It can still be seen on you tube and it is a presentation by Dr. Wayne Dyer where he is sharing, the Teddy Stoddard Story as part of one of his programs.

You may or may not want to watch the video but I wiped the tears from my face as I watched and listened to this story, I have done a little research on the content and found it is really a work of fiction but nevertheless the principle which it reflects are ideals worth striving especially in our day and time. To be an encourager and a motivator requires nothing more than simply taking the time to love unconditionally, observe, listen and be sensitive to the needs of others.

I have always appreciated those in my past who have listened, who understood and were real friends and made a difference in my life. You and I have opportunities everyday and can only make a difference if we will take the necessary steps required and let our hearts guide us. We all have choices; we can make it a good one which will reap positive benefits or like many, simply ignore and be passive.

I remember so well a family who lived in our community, the Simpson's (not their real name). The parents were cotton mill workers and the family quite large. My father in law drove the bus they rode to school and oftentimes after picking them up at their bus stop, they would make a hasty exit at the next bus stop and go back home. Of course they were made to come on back to school once discovered back home and the parents had to then drive them and force them to stay.

The family moved into the city and in the years that followed some of the boys became street people. I would see them hanging with the crowd of vagrants and winos in town sometime begging for change or cigarettes. One day while waiting in my vehicle for my wife at the grocery store, I saw some of them looking into the Pizza Hut dumpster across from the grocery store. A huge smile came across one's face. He had just found a whole pizza that had been cast into the garbage and it became breakfast for the group. Each of these boys may have turned out differently if someone had only taken the time to become involved in some positive way of encouragement to listen and love. Sadly most, even me, looked the other way and never offered to help.

After my retirement from GE, I drove a van for Vocational Solutions in Hendersonville, a really great organization which helps the physically and mentally challenged. I observed that Carl, one of the Simpson boys I had known years before, was working there and living in a group home where some of the residents were brought to Vocational Solutions to work. They only earned minimum wages but it was an opportunity for dignified labor and each employee received help in many different ways from the compassionate staff.

Carl had been beaten up so many times and once left for dead in a back alley of one of our towns streets. Carl's year’s of alcohol and drug abuse had left him only a shell of a man but at this juncture in his life because someone took time to help in a positive way a huge difference was made in his life, He was now happy and appeared fulfilled. I observed him each day as he boarded his van to go back to his group home and the contentment and happiness shown on his countenance told the real story. Carl passed away about a year ago and I wept at his passing, knowing that his last days on planet Earth had been his best.

Shortly after Carl's passing I ran into a business owner who told me he had arrived one morning to open his appliance repair shop on a busy street on the outskirts of our town near where the Simpsons live. He arrived to find Carl sitting in the doorway. The business owner, Johnny Johnson smiled as he remembered what Carl had told him when he had arrived. "Good morning Johnny! I've been sitting here all night because when I came by, your door was unlocked. I was afraid someone might break in and steal some of your tools. Johnny said Carl had touched his heart being mindful and guarding the shop.

Recently I discovered there are about 300 young people in our county who are homeless. Many are high school students who have no permanent place to study or lie down to sleep at night. I worry many are malnourished. Steps have been taken to build two separate dormitories, one for boys and one for girls and I hope this project come to fruition. Currently with the help of two civic organizations, teens and children who are homeless are receiving backpack meals. On Friday afternoons the backpacks are filled with enough food that can easily be prepared without too much effort. Ours is a caring community and no doubt help is on the way for these precious youth.

Words of encouragement are great but sometimes it takes more. We shouldn't shy away when we have opportunity to roll up our sleeves and pitch in to help. You never know what a difference and the positive effects your labors will have.


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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      This is very touching. The economy is so bad and the poverty trickles down from parent to child. It is so sad. Very well written!

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Wow - this was a very powerful message. It just goes to show how the difference of one poistive action can have on a person... but vice versa, a negative action can have the same effect. The question is - which one will you give out. I hope you continue to pass on your positive vibes!

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      Rosemary Sadler 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      A wonderful down to earth hub. It is so sad when our youth are lost to the streets when there are so many people out there who could prevent this by just taking an interest and offering encouragement and a little love. These children are our future. I used to foster care for teenagers, our friends couldn't understand why we went for teenagers instead of cute little ones, till we explained that there were many who wanted to take care of the cute little ones, few wanted the likely troublesome teenagers. I was great to watch these kids go through changes and grow into great people. And it so rewarding when they still drop in for a visit.

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      RobertElias Ballard 5 years ago from From the Blue Ridge Mountains of Western North Carolina

      Thanks for stopping by to read and to comment. Being a teacher enabled you to see first hand especially with those special needs children. May God bless you for all you did during your working careers to be a positive influence on so many,

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      whonunuwho 5 years ago from United States

      As teachers, and working with special needs kids for more than two decades, my wife and I have always had tender hearts and open minds, no matter what others may say about us being gullible. We follow our own hearts and souls, and will always. We taught school for twenty-five and 29 years in our chosen field, and were blessed in so doing!

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      Yvonne Spence 5 years ago from UK

      I think this is a lovely hub. It is so good that you got to see Carl live happily at the end of his life. I loved the Wayne Dyer clips too. Years ago I read about a study done in an inner city, possibly Chicago. The researchers had followed up several children who lived in circumstances that put them at risk of growing up to be criminals (neglect etc). What they found was that it took just one person who showed a positive interest in the child - eg a teacher or neighbour - to make the difference that kept those kids out of jail. So a little love goes a very long way.

      Thank you for this hub.

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      Joanne Kathleen Farrell 5 years ago from Rensselaer NY

      A well written thoughtful article. Thanks.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Yes we all could have but most of us weren't for one reason or another. It's very sad what happened to those kids and what happens to a lot of kids due to parental cluelessness. It breaks my heart. My daughters are both teachers and they share stories with me about their students. Heartbreaking. All it takes is one person not to ignore the signs. You did a great honor to these kids by writing this article.

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      RobertElias Ballard 5 years ago from From the Blue Ridge Mountains of Western North Carolina

      Thank you Sunshine. But for the grace of God, we all could have been there.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Cousin Fudd...Wow. Your article was very well written, to the point and the dang truth! We should never, ever turn our backs on another human being. It could just take one simple smile or a gentle pat on the back to change your day or possibly their life around! Thank you for sharing and opening our eyes to lending a hand to someone in need. You rock!