- Mental Health
Advice for my Younger Self
what I wish I knew then
This hub answers the question posed in the HubPages Answer section, which asks "If you are over 40, what 3 pieces of advice would you have for your 20 year old self?" While I don't usually dwell on the past, I love this question! It's a fun way to look back at what you were, and see how far you've come.
I believe in the idea that God created us and has a plan for our lives, but also that we have a part in that plan. Our free will gives us the ability to make decisions for ourselves, to shape our lives in some way, to help determine who we become. If I had the chance to know at 20 what I know now, I wouldn't be the same person I am today. But what I've learned along my life's path would have been great to know way back when!
First, I'd tell myself to listen. Maybe that's too simplistic. I'd tell myself to listen to others more, to read between the lines and be more sensitive. I'd tell myself to listen to the earth more, to be more aware. I'd tell myself to listen to myself more, to my gut reactions, the flutterings of my heart or my stomach that really, REALLY wanted to be heard.
Then, I'd tell myself to act more on what I was hearing, rather than what I thought everyone else wanted me to do. Or what I thought I was supposed to do, or think, or say. I'd care less about pleasing others.
Finally, I'd tell myself at 20 to practice living in the Now. To stop looking for that next great moment, thing, or experience, or trying to run away from that past horrible moment, thing, or experience. The only thing that exists is Now. Quit wasting the life you have!
"Regret and fear are twin thieves who would rob us of today." -Robert Hastings