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Ho'oponopono- What Is It, And How Can It Help You?

Updated on October 22, 2013
Freedom From Self
Freedom From Self

What is Ho’oponopono?

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian healing tool that is becoming very popular due to its simplicity and the profound effects being reported around the globe.

Essentially, it comprises of 4 statements:

· Please Forgive Me.

· I Am Sorry.

· I Love You.

· Thank You.

These 4 statements are said each time we have a reaction to someone or something outside ourselves that manifests as anger, blame, judgement, criticism, guilt, fear, and so on.

Dr Hew Len practised a version of Ho’oponopono called Self- Identity through Ho’oponopono, and this version teaches that we are 100% responsible for everything that we see and feel. As we come to understand that everything outside of us is a reflection of a part of us that we are sometimes not aware of, we begin to understand projection. We project onto others our unresolved conflicts and emotions. If someone is making you angry, they are simply showing you a part of yourself that you are angry with. All your reactions are your responsibility.

Therefore, each time you have a reaction to something outside of yourself, you need to go within and find the part of you that it is reflecting. If the person in front of you is making you angry, enquire as to what is making you cross? If it is that the person is not listening to you, where do you not listen to yourself? If it is that the person is selfish, where are you selfish? If the person is being unreasonable, where are you unreasonable and so on. The way to use Ho’oponopono in this instance would be to say silently to yourself:

To the part of me that doesn’t listen to myself

· Please Forgive Me.

· I Am Sorry.

· I Love You.

· Thank You.

What is important is to say the sentences consciously and feel the underlying repentance, forgiveness, and letting go. Practising Ho’oponopono brings about a sense of peace and physical relaxation, and it can be used at anytime and anywhere.

Here are some examples of issues that you may be projecting onto others:

· Bossiness

· Laziness

· Emotional unavailability

· Selfishness

· Weakness

· Controlling

· Forgetfulness

· Ungratefulness

· Unwillingness

· Refusing to hear/see you

· Unloving

· Co-dependence

· Violence

· Victimhood

· Martyrdom

If you are experiencing an issue repeatedly, for example, partners that do not respect you, then Ho’oponopono would be a good tool to use as you explore the part of you that does not respect yourself. If you find that your life is filled with people that use you, where is the part of you that uses others? If people lie to you, can you find a place inside that you know lies to others?

This work requires honesty and will encourage a self-awareness that will enable you to have more integrity, the more you use Ho’oponopono.

An example of the power of Ho’oponopono is when in 1983, Dr Hew Len was asked to become the psychologist in a high security unit that was inhabited by criminals and many of them were in seclusion and shackled because they were violent individuals and a threat to the other inmates. There were absolutely no family visits. There had been a large turnover of staff, and the morale of the staff that remained was very low, and sickness and absenteeism in the staff was a common occurrence.

Fully understanding that peace begins with self, he took the job, and decided to work on himself. He repeatedly used Ho’oponopono and worked on his own perceptions. He worked on whatever was going on in him that perceived the unit to be as it was, and he did this repeatedly over a period of three years.

Gradually, the inmates began to take responsibility for their own rehabilitation. Slowly, the shackles began to come off, and family visits were re-introduced. Within 3 years, the unit was empty, as the inmates had been released.

Dr Hew Len says that he had no intention to clear the unit. This was the side effect of working on himself. He worked only on his perceptions and not on the inmates in any way. This demonstrates that we do not see other people as they truly are, we see them through our perceptions of them, and our reaction to them, which have both been moulded by society, our parents, our peers and so on.

How often do we really look at the person who we perceive is offending us, and ask ourselves why they would treat us as we perceive they do? There is always a story behind why others mistreat us, and why we mistreat others. Exploring the other side of the coin can allow us to see that we have felt the same way, or behaved in a similar manner.

Underneath all our masks, we are all the same. We all want to be loved, appreciated and to belong, and we have adapted different methods to achieve this end. Sometimes these methods can cause conflict with other people’s methods, and we react.

What Ho’oponopono offers you, is a simple and effective way to clear your misguided perceptions, and find clarity and freedom to see yourself and others as they truly are- precious and free.

Start using this wonderful tool today, and begin to see the positive effects in your life instantly.

Written by Caroline Nettle.

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    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you Melovy! I agree, it is usually painful to go through the process, but when you get to the other side, it is always a great relief! Love and blessings, Caroline xxx

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      Yvonne Spence 

      7 years ago from UK

      Hello Caroline, I love Ho’ponopono (even if I can never pronounce nor spell it - copied and pasted it here!) Your hub does a great job of explaining it. Sometimes it can feel challenging to remember to look inside, but it is always worth it.

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      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Hi again. Well one thing that is sadly true, and that is that spiritual growth is not an easy path to choose. Learning to accept our part in things and changing our perspective is tough no matter who you are. If more is coming up then I suggest you welcome it as lessons have a tendency to repeat themselves if we ignore them loudly enough. When you say this is hard, it reminds me of my journey. Sometimes it is easy, but not often. However, when was something that came easily to you valued by you? We are complicated beings and I believe we chose these lessons....However, tread gently and try to watch yourself doing the same things expecting different results. Eventually, it becomes amusing- oh, there I go again! Good luck and let me know how you are doing! Love and blessings, Caroline xxx

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      Delboy 

      7 years ago

      Hi Spiritual Growth yes I have been 'cleaning' my relationship niggles and issues using ho oponopono. The issues are getting worse and a lot of underlying stuff is coming to the surface and I am continuing to 'clean' this as it arises. My main problem was in thinking the ho oponopono was not working as it was bringing out a lot of negativity around me but on reflection I see this just means further work has to be done! Phew this is hard!! Thank you for responding, and thanks for your interesting insightful posts.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Sorry Delboy, not really sure I understand what you are asking. Are you saying that you are trying to sort some relationship issues out and they are getting worse? If so, this can often happen when one partner grows or changes, and the other one feels threatened by the change. I think that we keep having the same situation through our lives until we understand what we need to learn. This can be hard to see at the time however.

      Please let me know if this is what you are asking. I wish you well with whatever it is that you are facing. Love and blessings, Caroline xxx

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      Delboy 

      7 years ago

      hey there is it normal for probs that we have 'cleaned' on to get worse? Like the relationship issues I am working on are so much more heightened when I 'clean' is this normal, I am concerned maybe I am doing it wrong as some horribly negative situations have come up!!

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you ed77burns. Hope it helps you! Love and blessings

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      ed77burns 

      7 years ago

      those are great information and very informative.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thanks Erica. Glad to hear it has been helping you!

      Love and blessings.

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      Erica Longdon 

      7 years ago

      I have been using this healing modality for a few months now, and have noticed some very positive shifts and improvements in relationships with others, their lives and behaviours.

      Trust it works.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you Shelley and I agree, it is so simple and yet so effective! I am glad that it is positively affecting you and those around you.

      Love and blessings,

      Caroline

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      Shelley  

      7 years ago

      Hey Caroline,

      You were the first to introduce me to this and it has come from another source as well, figured it was time for me to use it and I have, it is amazing the power it has for me personally but the power it then has in others lives has blown me away and i am very thankful for you for bringing it to light.

      Blessing and light

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you Betsey, I also love using it! I am finding more and more incidents where it can be applied, and it is really helping me too.

      Love and blessings,

      Caroline

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      Betsy Brown 

      7 years ago

      I love using Ho'oponopono. I've had a long standing hurt and anger toward a former employer. I started using Ho'oponopono in this regard, and have continued to healed more and more each day. I also use it when I'm having trouble sleeping.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Dear Xen,

      Thank you for your kind words, and I was glad that it explained it to you in a way that you will help.

      Love and blessings,

      Caroline

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      xen 

      7 years ago

      I had been using the above, but realise now it was like having a tool and not knowing what it is for. This article hit me in the solar plexus as I recognised so much and appreciate that is exactly what I need to know at this moment to help me on the journey. Caroline has written in a clear,(brief)non-judging and supportive way and what comes through most is her desire to be of help in the challenges we are all facing. Thank you , angel.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you kindly Prasetio! I appreciate that it is helping lots of people, as indeed, it has helped me!

      Love and blessings,

      Caroline

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      prasetio30 

      7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      I never know about this before. This is new for me and like affirmation to support our self. I learn much from this hub. Thanks for share with us. Vote up.

      Prasetio

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you stephhicks68- do try it because the results are great if you would like more peace in your life!

      Love and blessings,

      Caroline

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you Creativeone59- I am glad you found it useful.

      Love and blessings, Caroline

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Spiritual Growth 

      7 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you Violet Sun for your comments and for sharing it on Facebook! I have meant to read Zero Limits and never got round to it.

      Thank you for your kind comments!

      Love and blessings, Caroline

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      Stephanie Hicks 

      7 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      I have never heard of this therapy before, but it sounds useful and promising!

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for a lot of great and informative information. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      VioletSun 

      7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      I read Zero Limits twice, and often practice Ho'ponopono. Have been meaning to write about it for Hubpages, but glad you did, as you have done a superb job!

      Have bookmarked this hub, and shared it in FaceBook, as many of my FB friends are hubpages writers, and a few into spiriuality and healing.

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