Ho'oponopono- What Is It, And How Can It Help You?
What is Ho’oponopono?
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian healing tool that is becoming very popular due to its simplicity and the profound effects being reported around the globe.
Essentially, it comprises of 4 statements:
· Please Forgive Me.
· I Am Sorry.
· I Love You.
· Thank You.
These 4 statements are said each time we have a reaction to someone or something outside ourselves that manifests as anger, blame, judgement, criticism, guilt, fear, and so on.
Dr Hew Len practised a version of Ho’oponopono called Self- Identity through Ho’oponopono, and this version teaches that we are 100% responsible for everything that we see and feel. As we come to understand that everything outside of us is a reflection of a part of us that we are sometimes not aware of, we begin to understand projection. We project onto others our unresolved conflicts and emotions. If someone is making you angry, they are simply showing you a part of yourself that you are angry with. All your reactions are your responsibility.
Therefore, each time you have a reaction to something outside of yourself, you need to go within and find the part of you that it is reflecting. If the person in front of you is making you angry, enquire as to what is making you cross? If it is that the person is not listening to you, where do you not listen to yourself? If it is that the person is selfish, where are you selfish? If the person is being unreasonable, where are you unreasonable and so on. The way to use Ho’oponopono in this instance would be to say silently to yourself:
To the part of me that doesn’t listen to myself
· Please Forgive Me.
· I Am Sorry.
· I Love You.
· Thank You.
What is important is to say the sentences consciously and feel the underlying repentance, forgiveness, and letting go. Practising Ho’oponopono brings about a sense of peace and physical relaxation, and it can be used at anytime and anywhere.
Here are some examples of issues that you may be projecting onto others:
· Emotional unavailability
· Refusing to hear/see you
If you are experiencing an issue repeatedly, for example, partners that do not respect you, then Ho’oponopono would be a good tool to use as you explore the part of you that does not respect yourself. If you find that your life is filled with people that use you, where is the part of you that uses others? If people lie to you, can you find a place inside that you know lies to others?
This work requires honesty and will encourage a self-awareness that will enable you to have more integrity, the more you use Ho’oponopono.
An example of the power of Ho’oponopono is when in 1983, Dr Hew Len was asked to become the psychologist in a high security unit that was inhabited by criminals and many of them were in seclusion and shackled because they were violent individuals and a threat to the other inmates. There were absolutely no family visits. There had been a large turnover of staff, and the morale of the staff that remained was very low, and sickness and absenteeism in the staff was a common occurrence.
Fully understanding that peace begins with self, he took the job, and decided to work on himself. He repeatedly used Ho’oponopono and worked on his own perceptions. He worked on whatever was going on in him that perceived the unit to be as it was, and he did this repeatedly over a period of three years.
Gradually, the inmates began to take responsibility for their own rehabilitation. Slowly, the shackles began to come off, and family visits were re-introduced. Within 3 years, the unit was empty, as the inmates had been released.
Dr Hew Len says that he had no intention to clear the unit. This was the side effect of working on himself. He worked only on his perceptions and not on the inmates in any way. This demonstrates that we do not see other people as they truly are, we see them through our perceptions of them, and our reaction to them, which have both been moulded by society, our parents, our peers and so on.
How often do we really look at the person who we perceive is offending us, and ask ourselves why they would treat us as we perceive they do? There is always a story behind why others mistreat us, and why we mistreat others. Exploring the other side of the coin can allow us to see that we have felt the same way, or behaved in a similar manner.
Underneath all our masks, we are all the same. We all want to be loved, appreciated and to belong, and we have adapted different methods to achieve this end. Sometimes these methods can cause conflict with other people’s methods, and we react.
What Ho’oponopono offers you, is a simple and effective way to clear your misguided perceptions, and find clarity and freedom to see yourself and others as they truly are- precious and free.
Start using this wonderful tool today, and begin to see the positive effects in your life instantly.
Written by Caroline Nettle.
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Caroline Nettle is passionate about healing, recovery, and assisting others to grow. Her website www.spiritualgrowthtools.co.uk is the culmination of many years of seeking answers about her own health and well-being, and studying the human condition. She writes articles, is a healer and gives talks about subjects relating to spiritual growth and personal development.
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