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How Can I Find True Happiness? - Some Guidance

Updated on May 24, 2013






How Can I Find True Happiness?

99.9% percent of your unhappiness is your own doing ... that's right, 99.9% is caused by you.

If you think about it, it's a choice right? Therefore, we choose to be either happy or unhappy don't we? Then in answer to the question - How can I find true happiness? - I say, you don't need to find it - it's in you already.

Unhappiness is a self-inflicted problem that affects a massive amount of people all over the world and is growing as we as a species seem to be intent on immersing ourselves in as much of it as we can.

A bit extreme, I know but it is the truth.

We are spoon fed the worst news that the world has to offer on an hourly basis by the press in its many forms, from T.V, to newspapers and the internet and yet we embrace it as if bad news is something we can't live without. I long ago gave up watching the news and reading newspapers. The only news I am interested in these days is sports and good news like the latest developments in technology or the improvement of our environment and guess what? I have never been happier.

Give Up the News and Free Your Mind So You Can Begin Working on YOU

We are brainwashed to believe that it is just and right to want to stay up to date with the wars and the suffering going on all over the world, and I believe that at one time long ago, staying up to date did serve a humane purpose. However, currently, it does nothing but pollute our minds with negativity and dissatisfaction. We become what we think about the most, why waste time thinking of bad news when we can think of growth, improvement and purpose?

That is just the first step towards finding true happiness.

"Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented, and happy attitudes and your days will tend
to be pleasant and successful." - Norman Vincent Peale

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Find True Happiness by Pursuing Your Bliss With a Burning Passion

Your Bliss

What is your bliss? Are you making an effort to make it a big part of your life or are you leaving it until the tomorrow that never comes like many other people?

"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. " - Joseph Campbell

Don't set goals. Follow your bliss. When you follow your bliss you don't need goals because your intuition and sheer joy for doing what you love will naturally guide you on your journey to a happy place. If you are working and don't have as much time as you'd like to spend on this then cut out all those trivial pursuits that you DON'T need. You know what they are.

We all need to earn a living, but surely there is some spare time for you to focus on what you love, what makes you happy most of all. It is well-known that happy people are healthier, more popular, more daring, more resilient and achieve far more than those who are unhappy and dissatisfied with life. We all have a voice deep down inside that keeps on asking us to stop wasting time and start doing something worthwhile ... but sadly we ignore that voice or we tell it "tomorrow."

Listen to that voice, now. Follow your bliss and TRUE happiness will come to you naturally, not through some amazing new technique developed by Psychologists.

The biggest regret that people have when they are older is that they didn't follow their bliss, they didn't write that book, or travel to that magical place or start their own business.

Don't tell anyone else that you plan to follow your bliss. That is very important. Most people, because they themselves are not following their bliss are still stuck in the "if you work hard, you'll make something of yourself," category and they won't approve or they'll just present you with a look of apathy. Of course there are exceptions, your loved ones, for example, but on the whole, most people won't support you.

Take responsibility for your own happiness. Do everything you have said you "will" do but never did and do it today because:

"You pile up enough tomorrows, and you'll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays. I don't know about you, but I'd like to make today worth remembering.” - Meredith Willson, The Music Man.

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      Richard J ONeill 5 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

      Thank you for that, Penlady.

      You are right, of course. Happiness definitely is a choice and just because we stay up to date with what's going on in the world, doesn't mean we should be unhappy.

      However, because the main focus tends to be on what's wrong in the world (mostly), people allow themselves to get dragged down and lose hope. Perhaps those who are unable to 'choose' because the unhappiness runs so deep could stop watching the news so that they may develop some happiness.

      Thanks for commenting. I appreciate it. :)

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      penlady 5 years ago from Sacramento, CA

      I believe that you can be up to date on matters and still be happy. The key to doing this is to not take the world on your shoulders. We're not God, so we can not solve all the problems our society is facing.

      Also, happiness is definitely a choice. I've known people who weren't current on matters, yet they're miserable people. This is because they didn't deal with issues in their own lives, be it from their past or present.

      So, happiness is definitely ours to choose regardless of our awareness level about society.

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      Richard J ONeill 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

      Wow, msorensson! Very insightful comment. Truthfully, I had to read it 2 or 3 times to get the gist of it, such is my mindset in regards to happiness and self-improvement.

      I see that you are far more spiritual which is good because more and more, I am leaning in that direction too. Science explains these matters sufficiently for most people, but there are others out there like you and myself who see it from a more spiritual point of view.

      Both are equal perspectives, merely choices but I like the intuitive way of spirituality. There is more feeling, more heart.

      Your example is excellent! I only recently discovered unconditional love, due to the insistent voice inside me continuously prompting me and urging me onto this path.

      Subsequently, I have NEVER been happier or more confident than I currently am.

      I must go read some of your hubs as you appear to have some deep and profound insights.

      Peace and thanks for the comment!

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      msorensson 6 years ago

      It is a challenging question in the sense that real happiness, that which is reflected by peace, and by peace I mean imperturbable peace, can only be felt and no matter how we try to explain it, it is not the same as experiencing it..

      I will use food as an example..

      If you want ice cream then you have some and you satisfy a desire, in that moment..and you are "happy" in that moment..

      Real happiness is knowing you can have ice cream anywhere, anytime..

      One is temporary..the other permanent.

      It is the reward of unconditional love..