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How I Am Dealing With Two "Bullies" Who Show Up Every Day Of My Life

Updated on January 24, 2013

The guy standing up, tormenting the weaker kids, is a bully. A bully does well when he or she goes against a weaker person.

I cannot, with a clear conscience, tell you that I "love" bullies.
I cannot, with a clear conscience, tell you that I "love" bullies. | Source

This hub is lovingly-dedicated to Livingsta, a dear friend and very-appreciated follower. Thanks. (Kenneth).

This pathway that I am on is treacherous, hard to see at times, tough to remember its rules and easy to forget that “I” do not walk this way alone.

Not all can walk this pathway. But so many others do besides myself. Still though, this mysterious, fog-laden pathway is seriously-lonely at times. So lonely that the only friend I have are the almost-muted sounds of my own heart beating.

I apologize for sounding dramatic, but these “are” my true feelings about the two incurable diseases I have, Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy.

To briefly explain these two “bullies,” Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy, the first, Accelerated Fibromyalgia is a disease of the muscular system that defined means that a person with “this” disease suffers and endures constant-pain around the clock, year ‘round. It is very similar to having an abcess tooth inside your body and never finding relief.

To further explain, my nerve sensors in my brain do not fire correctly to send my body the necessary messages for my body to heal itself. Case in point, “I” can only take my medications every day of my life and take spinal injections in a nearby town every three months until I leave this stage of life.

Neurothopy is an incurable affliction of the nerve endings that cannot be cured. Yes, there also is round-the-clock pain, day in and day out. Not something I would wish on my worst enemy.

A few symptoms of Accelerated Fibromyalgia are:

1.) Soreness in your muscles that feels like you are recovering from falling off a ladder.

2.) Stiffness, especially after riding for more than two hours.

3.) Lack of strength.

4.) Shooting pains run from the soles of your feet to the crown of your head.

5.) Depression from having to explain to people who only judge you by your outside, “oh, you look fine,” but if they only felt what you feel on your inside.

My personal depression came from knowing that my coming and going as I pleased was either going to be severely-limited or gone for good.

To make matters worse, I was faced with the fact that I couldn’t work at a job anymore, thus, not being able to support my wife, two great hotbeds for clinical-depression.

Neurothopy is comparable to having your nerve-endings hurt like a stubbed toe, except twice as bad, especially on the soles of your feet.

NOTE: Accelerated Fibromyalgia can be a “deceptive mistress,” in the fact that one day you feel fine. Fine enough to say, “I am cured!” But beware. In a day or two, this awful disease will attack with a vengenace--with pain twice, or maybe three times as bad.

I do not talk that much about my diseases that I refer to as “bullies,” due to the fact that I fully-realize that there are more people, young and old, from all walks of life, on and off of HubPages who are suffering worse diseases that I have--namely cancer, leukemia, aids, and other “bullies,” that love to torment us human beings simply because we put up with it.

Am I wrong? I don’t think so.

In 2003 when I was diagnosed with these two diseases, at first, I was confused because at that age, 46, I had never suffered such diseases as Accelerated Fibromyalgia or Neurothopy. Needless to say, I was stunned to go along with the confusion. I guess the overall shock of knowing that I was never going to be well, took the edge off of my curiosity of wanting to find out more about these physical ailments.

“You are never going to be well,” explained a very-gifted physician at Kirkland Clinic in Birmingham, Alabama. “you can just treat the symptoms and learn to live with it,” he added.

I did appreciate his honesty, for up to then, I had only been told by other doctors in other clinics, “we will have to run this test or that test, until we ‘nail it down,’ Kenny,” and let me share this with you: That can be very, very frustrating over a year’s time.

But in a short time, I began to do online research and talk to others who had Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy, and from this work I came away with a few new “weapons,” which I began to use in my “warfare,” against these “bullies,” just so I can experience maybe a few hours of (some) quality of life.

Humor me as I share these “weapons” with you, those on (or off) of HubPages who might be facing a life of pain with diseases such as Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy.

1.) DON’T GIVE UP - although this sounds “corny,” it is pure wisdom in three words. Giving up means you are defeated. Listen to me. Your life is a priceless gift. Learn to fight for it.

2.) BE PATIENT - as much as you can while you learn to endure these diseases. I realize that patience isn’t a cure, but by being patient, you are giving medical scientists and research clinics the necessary time in which to find cures, or methods for “us” to use to find “that” area of peace and some degree of relief.

3.) KEEP INFORMED - as much as possible. Go online and read information given on medical-based websites that deal with Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy. As a dear friend and follower, “catgypsy,” has told me, “one day you might find “that one” paper or story that will be your answer to your suffering,” and she is right. Just be diligent in your searches for information that will help you. Or someone in your family who has Accelerated Fibromyalgia or Neurothpy.

4.) MAKE YOUR MEDICAL APPOINTMENTS - just because you “might” have a version of Accelerated Fibromyalgia, doesn’t mean that you should just stop going to your doctor or pain care specialist. These professionals keep themselves abreast of the most-current findings on these and other diseases and they pass them along to their patients. Trust your pain care specialist because they have “your” best interest at heart.

5.) HAVE FAITH - in our Maker. Yes, our Maker. You do not have to be a priest or high-ranking church official to talk to God. He is “the” BEST listener in the universe. I am not preaching any you or anyone, I just know from first-hand experience that My Heavenly Father is always near. Always there, willing and more than able to give me and you the peace and comfort we need as human creations to live as peaceful and happy as possible.

6.) DO NOT COMPLAIN - and yes, this “is” tough to not do when your entire body is screaming for relief in the middle of the dark night. In my case, when these urges come for me riddle the air with “why me?” or “I don’t deserve this,” or other mortal phrases, I am learning to just quietly quote my heart, (one of) my favorite Bible verses, Isaiah 54:17, “ . . .and no weapon shall be formed for our destruction,” even it takes numerous times, it works. God governs His Word and how it is used.

and this final tip that I confess I use a lot.

7.) DO NOT RUN - from these “bullies,” Accelerated Fibromyalgia or Neurothopy. Why? Because they love to see “us” cower with fear and trembling in their shadows. You see, diseases such as these are not geared for people to stand firm and say with a stubborn tone, “I am not running from you for I am not afraid of you anymore!” I have done this a lot over the past nine years and such as in the case of the proverbial school yard bully of old who pushed weaker kids around and stole their lunch money, these painful “bullies,” are not that big or bad. It’s “us,” who have the power to stand firm.

And with the above tip, do NOT be meek, timid or weak in your stance. Get down-right mean about your quality of life. Be as aggressive as a northwest Grizzly protecting her cubs. Show these two “bullies,” Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothpy that you are serious about staying-put, not moving or hiding in the foggy evenings of your life.

A person is sometimes defined by their pride. In themselves and how they handle adversities such as these sicknesses.

Be brave. Be tough. And most of all, be unmovable.

I sincerely hope that this one hub has been of help to only one person who shares Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy with me. That is my aim: to know that one suffering soul has found some peace of mind and a new way to face the “bullies,” in their life.

And until the day comes that modern medical science finds a cure for these diseases I am learning to live not in the personal defeats of my past, but on the horizons of hope of whatever tomorrow’s God may have for me.

This is the location that "I" am fighting hard to NOT visit.

a hospital bed. Some who suffer from Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy have been known to have regular hospital stays for help with these terrible diseases.
a hospital bed. Some who suffer from Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy have been known to have regular hospital stays for help with these terrible diseases. | Source


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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      May 1

      Dearest skye,

      Wow, what a touching comment. I am without proper words to express my feelings of gratitude to you, but please, give the thanks and praise to Our Heavenly Father, who's ways and thoughts are so much higher than ours it's mind-blowing.

      Even with his super-IQ, the Apostle Paul penned (under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit), "God's foolishness is greater than OUR wisdom and God's weakness is stronger than OUR strength, so that tells me, Jesus IS THE complete Savior, Friend, Guide and Rabbi.

      I am so thrilled at having you in my life as well in my followers list I just want to thank God right now.

      I am going to send YOU a Thank You Note in a few days to show you how MUCH I appreciate your following, and THIS comment.

      I will do my best to share God's might, power, love and grace as life goes on.

      Thanks, my dear friend and sister in Christ, for being here for me.

      Yours in Christ Always . . .KENNETH

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      5 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Kenneth Thank you for sharing your heartfelt and touching story. I really believe many will be led to share their hearts through the great courage you have displayed.

      I was so grateful to read you have faith and talk to God. Yes dear one He is the best brother. He has purpose for your life and plans. One day you can look forward to no pain. Keep your eyes on Jesus and keep sharing your heart. I am touched and humbled. We never know what tomorrow could bring. We need to make the most of today like it is our last.

      I am praying for you and I bind the enemy our souls from your healing. I pray for a healing from our Great Physician, Jesus Christ. Keep going Kenneth. Grace and Peace to you and yours. Love, Skye

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dearest Giselle,

      Thank you, dear ally, for your sweet comment and terrific friendship. I do my best, but honestly, I have days of defeat, but thanks to friends such as yourself, I'm doing good.

      Love you lots!

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      Giselle Maine 

      5 years ago

      Thank you for your openness and honesty about these difficult diseases, or "bullies" as you so rightly call them. I wish you all the best and hope that you are able to do things and enjoy your good days whenever they come. Kudos to you for battling these "bullies" on the bad days. You are so positive and upbeat, this is an inspirational hub that anyone and everyone can learn from.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Greetings to tsmog,

      So glad to hear from you. And so glad that you are having your sword tuned and sharpened. Those things are needful in our matches against dragons and demons in our society that normal people cannot visualize. You take care and stay in good spiritual shape.

      Thank you, my valiant friend, for your comment.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Well, hello, AnnDavis . ..

      just where have you been for the last few months? I have MISSED the fire out of you. I wondered one time if you hadn't jumped ship and moved to Canada. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

      I am so sorry that you didnt get a laugh from this piece, but you can get a laugh from a recent hub of mine: "Why Can't I Be a Real Housewife Of Alabama?" And that one may do the trick for you.

      Again, dear Ann, I have missed you.

      Come again and do not stay away long at a time. Okay?

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Judith W.,

      glad that you enjoyed this hub and received some help out of it. It is the God's truth. Many is the day that I actually talk in vocal terms to these "bullies," and actually dare them to hurt me all they can and you can believe this or not, they stay where they are.

      Something is happening in this homemade remedy . . .something of a deeper level, and I am not a quack either, but do believe in the hidden values and powers of our universe.

      Thanks and visit with me again.

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      Tim Mitchell 

      5 years ago from Escondido, CA

      Hello Kenneth. It seems Sannel read your hub and it influenced her. She said in a blog post that chairs were her bullies. I did not think of that. I changed up the hub on FM and included this as the first FM link in it.

      How are you feeling these days? I dropped my sword off at Wayland the Smith's shop to get a new hone on it. I plan on some work in the months ahead and needed a tune-up kinda'

      Look forward to reading more as my new work schedule mellows out.


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      5 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

      Hi Ken. Once in a while I check in and read a hub when I get the chance. Today I needed a laugh, so I thought I'd check on you. And what did I get? Dang bullies! Well, maybe this will cheer you up. I miss you sometimes. Maybe soon you will start to feel the warmth you need. Punxsutawney Phil says you will. Ann Davis

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      Judith W 

      5 years ago

      You have given wise advice. I can read about how to deal with chronic pain but when the advice comes from someone living daily with it for a long time, it means more. It is sincere, has strength of conviction. I have recently become afflicted with osteoarthritis, and I know about the advice you have written. It is not new. But coming from you, given your story in the preamble, makes the information all new again, and powerful. I will return again and again to read this. Thank-you for voicing this!

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, starstream,

      Wy' thank you for the Grizzly remark. LOL. Actually, I am big as one and hairy to boot. That made my day to hear that. I am considering alternative med's to combat this and you can rest assured that when all of this is over, this Accelerated Fibro and Neurothpy WILL KNOW that they have been in a rumble for they didnt get to push me around.

      Rock on, starstream, rock on!

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Teaches12345,

      I am so sorry about your daughter-in-law having FB. It sucks to be hurting and watch life pass you by, but tell her that dealing with FB is mostly with prayer, meditation, and a pure attitude.

      And the hardest part of the battle is to accept that there ARE things She and I will never be able to do, while there are things that maybe we have forgotten, the little mundane things, that might rekindle some fun and peace in our lives.

      Thank you kind, Teaches12345, for your comment and the job you do as a teacher.

      You, I admire.

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      Dreamer at heart 

      5 years ago from Northern California

      You are a mighty Grizzly! Kenneth remember you are surrounded by The Healing light day and night. I encourage you to seek alternative medicine with ways to fight this bully. Sending you prayers.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Warm greetings, Tsmog:

      I wonder if I am even worthy of your kind and respectful words? I am honest with you. Your thoughts cause me to think and probe my soul and heart to see how I can garner such wonderful words.

      I do thank you, king Tsmog, dear friend and warrior.

      You, yourself, are to be admired, not "I," because I am sure that in your life, you face many "dragons," some real. Some of metaphorical base, and still continue to stand.

      Bravo, Tsmog, for your friendship and bravery.


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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dearest Susan . . .

      Thanks so much for your kind and caring comment. I feed upon your words throughout the days in my life.

      And thanks for the prayers for me and others like me, who are in a battle with Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy.

      I appreciate YOU so much, Susan.

      And covet your prayers for others who have this, and then pray for me, because Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy come in various stages of pain . . .some bad. Some unbearable, but all of it grows worse as time goes by.

      Thanks, Susan. You are a true gem of an ally.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Minnetonka Twin,

      You and your words are an inspiration to me. And I thank you with all of my heart for them.

      Attitude about these "bullies," or anything in life, job, relationship, school, etc., is all-important.

      If I lose, but have done my best, I will fight again tomorrow.

      If I win, and forget the word it took, then what have I won?

      Thanks for such an uplifting comment.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Sunnie Day,

      Thank you sincerely for the input. And I am so sorry about your mom. I saw an uncle die from chemotherapy he was so weak, but even in his last hours, he was a warrior. That impressed me.

      Now it's my turn. The circle has turned in my direction to suffer a while in this life, and compared to the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual suffering Our Lord did for us on His way to the cross, I have no right to complain about this constant pain.

      I even pray for God to stop my tongue from giving into the temptation to tell friends (LIKE YOU), how bad I am.


      I can fight as long as I have will and strength.

      And good friends like you and my followers to keep me positive.

      Thanks again, Sunnie.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Gypsy Rose Lee,

      And thank you, dear friend, for your encouraging words. I appreciate them so much.

      I do use humor and laughter to be "tools" to not only make my followers happy, but create an atmosphere of ease around me and my PC friends, so we all can be relaxed and happy--although only for a little while.

      Take care and keep in touch.


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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello Jillian Barclay,

      I sincerely appreciate your time in reading my hub and commenting on it with such insight that I am in awe of your words.

      You are right. People, like I told Catgypsy, who never have these diseases, do not see why WE look good outside and suffer inside.

      And you are righ too about the mind versus the body . . .the body almost always wins that coming out of the gate.

      But someone told me years back that keeping the mind sharp and occupied will detract from the pain manufactured by Fibro and Neurothpy.

      I am doing that as much as possible.

      But I am only flesh and blood. And can do a little,but not a lot.

      Holding onto life for me is the #1 goal and with God's loving care, I can do that.

      Love ya,


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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Catgypsy,

      Thank you, dear friend, for the sweet comment and advise for me to "be gentle with myself," I love that. And you are right. People just dont understand why "I" sometimes look good outwardly, but inside I am in a hellish war against these "bullies."

      I suppose with social education, someday people who do not have these diseases might realize that understanding can go a long way with people like me.

      Thanks, and say hi to Honey for Festus.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, Angela/sis,

      I am sorry about your brother's stroke, but I admire his outlook and viewpoint.

      I am like he is. I am no more special than anyone else to suffer pain when there are plenty of little kids in St. Jude's Children's Hospital in Memphis that are on borrowed time, but uplifting others with the same disease.

      Speaking of Cancer . . .I really HATE this disease as much as I hate Satan. Cancer took an two aunts, three uncles, a great father-in-law, two of my wife's uncles and some of my friends . . .I curse cancer with all the hatred I have.

      I hope to live to see a cure for cancer.

      Angela, thanks for allowing to rant. And thanks for your kind words.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, Livingsta,

      You are welcome for me sharing this. It has been on my mind for a long time to do this, and you re-ignited the idea about two weeks ago and for that, I am grateful.

      I am also grateful for an understanding friend such as yourself.

      It's communication and sharing that helps me a lot of the time and Im thankful we met on HP.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Hi and I appreciate your comment that taught me that Fibro and Neurothopy arent the only "bullies," on the school yard.

      Thank you for sharing what you have that is equally-painful and hard to deal with.

      I guess, to me, coupled with the never-ending pain, it's the uneducated people who say to me, "Gee,Ken, you sure look good," yeah, on the outside, but my joints, muscles, bones and nerves, well, they are NOT good. They hurt 24/7 even with medications and painshots, but I want to be a supporter, encourager of someone, maybe you, or another person on HP, with these diseases.

      We all "can" have a quality of life, IF, we are bold, brave and learn to say, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      @ writinglover: GREAT! I feel better now.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      I agree. Bullying in any form, either disease or human is awful and needs to be dealth with; fought against and put in its place: away from humanity.

      Thanks, my friend, for the great comment.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      You are one sweet girl. There is NO WAY that I will forget you. And as for tough, I am more stubborn than tough, but thank you for being so sweet and kind to me.

      I am HONORED that I was blessed to meet you. I wonder that if by some miracle, I were blessed to meet you one day? Wouldn't that be great?

      I wouldn't come down from "cloud nine" for a week!

      Oh, here is my number: 1-205-921-4159, you can file this away, do not give it to anyone, and YOU may call me at anytime you like. I mean it.



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      5 years ago from Lost...In Video Games

      I hope not! Aside from my dad and stepmom, you're probably one of the toughest people I've gotten to know here on HP!

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      You are right to not trust "some" doctors. I am with you. "Some" cannot be trusted for their lingering want to run test after test with the same results. The one doctor at Kirkland Clinic, Birmingham, Alabama, was so honest that I almost cried.

      He was "that" straight-forward and should be a great doctor someday.

      And Hatter, thanks for all of your comments.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, writinglover,

      Now that comment "is" a sweet comment and I know that it's from your heart. Listen, my dear friend, I will in no way, forget you or your sweet words.


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      Kenneth Avery 

      5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      @ WillStarr,

      Thanks a million, buddy, but my aim was to encourage those who might be fighting this stuff as I am, and to make ONLY ONE person get bold and brave enough to say, "is that all you got?" to the Fibro and Neurothopy, or whatever disease might be hurting them.

      Thanks for the comment. I appreciate it.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      5 years ago

      My daughter-in-law has been dealing with Fibromyalgia for over twenty years now. She has her good and bad days, but she keeps a positive outlook and it helps. You, sir, are a brave and strong person to look upon these bullies in such a wonderful spirit.

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      Tim Mitchell 

      5 years ago from Escondido, CA

      Ken, I admire you immensely for a small step spanning as wide as the grand canyon with courage. A friend you may remember, Sannel Larson, has shared words, I have researched even publishing a hub here on the pain of FM, yet this hub speaks of boldly with wisdom and offers deep felt encouragement. Healing one may even say.

      On a personal note I have been busy with afar, economy business, and stuff. You are a mentor of sorts, as I seek your words of wisdom, even though I comment less than most. Hopefully I will learn to write less and comment more - smile. For now I must share with a Dearest Best Friend, Sannel.

      I bow as a Knight of the Order of the Sword, the last, of the Ninth Realm, Honor, Sir Avery, 'tis to serve those knowing of those villains. Our swords seek those villains of malady while offering blessings of the wisdom's tunic . . .

      Sir Sremmus of old, Mitch to one or more, you know me as tim

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      Tim Mitchell 

      5 years ago from Escondido, CA

      Kenneth, friend, I have to scoot to work being near 7:30 and the hall beckons for 8pm. I have noted and will read tonight, faithfully.

      tim or Mitch to some and ??? to others - LOL

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      5 years ago

      Dearest Kenneth,

      My dear friend, I admire your strength and courage in dealing with these two bullies, Accelerated Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy.

      My prayers are with you and all those who suffer with these illnesses.


      God bless :)

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      Linda Rogers 

      5 years ago from Minnesota

      I am sad to hear about these bullies that plague your life but your attitude is stellar. Your hub is very helpful for those suffering with it and for those who may not know they have it. I really appreciate that you shared your story. I too know what it's like to have people judge you because your symptoms are not outward. I don't worry about those people anymore as it shows me their not a true friend. Blessings Kenneth

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      Sunnie Day 

      5 years ago

      Dearest Kenneth,

      I am sorry these two bullies come to call every day but you my friend are such an inspiration to so many because you find the humor in so many things, writing and sharing your wonderful stories. My mother suffers with neuropathy and since she started chemo it has got a hundreds time worse pushing her to tears. I watch the pain she is in and feel totally helpless. I am happy that fibromyalgia is finally getting the recognition it deserves, so many were dismissed, saying nothing was wrong with them until they finally put a diagnosis to the symptoms that have attacked so many. One thing also to mention if you do mind me doing so is diet and how it plays a role in the inflammation process. Thank you for sharing your life, and being real. I pray you continue to have a good attitude and faith to get you through.

      God bless,


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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and interesting. You are to be admired to be able to fight these bullies. I send you many blessings, keep the faith and I know the Lord is on your side to help you. Passing this on for those who may be battling the same. Hugs.

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      Jillian Barclay 

      5 years ago from California, USA

      Dear Kenneth-

      Those who do not suffer with chronic, debilitating pain have no idea , but there are millions who do know because they experience it on a daily basis. They suffer from depression, as well. Your mind always says, "I can do that" and the depression comes because the body will not cooperate.

      I draw my happiness from seeing my grandchildren- They know my limitations and they know my struggles. They know, also, that the only thing that makes it bearable is them.

      I have diabetic neuropathy, fibromyalgia and now cancer, but I still love life! I hate the pain, and many times just cry because it hurts so bad, but I continue to look forward to as many more days as I can get. As long as my little rugrats are around, I could not bear the thought of missing one minute with them-even if they are pain-filled minutes...

      You are not alone on your journey, Kenneth! Just cut yourself some slack and take enjoyment from the little things...

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      5 years ago from the South

      Such a great hub Kenneth. I remember the commercial about fibro where they had a woman covered in bruises, to illustrate what it might look like to have this kind of pain. Too many people just don't believe in something that shows no outward signs and it's so hard on the person who is sick. You feel like people think you're exaggerating your condition.

      You are such a trooper though and I greatly admire that about you. I sure hope they find some new miracle medication for these conditions. In the meantime, be gentle with yourself, my dear friend.

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      Angela Blair 

      5 years ago from Central Texas

      Thank you, Kenneth for sharing your "bullies" with us -- words such as yours never fail to encourage someone else and I commend you for thinking of others when you, yourself are in such pain. I'll never forget when my brother had his stroke -- someone said "Steven, do you ever wonder why you?" I turned away with tears in my eyes when he said "Why the hell not me -- I'm no better than anyone else out there!" Like you, I can only imagine how hard those words were and how much he'd thought about them. Blessings my friend -- Best/Sis

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      5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you so much Kenneth for this. You know, I have never asked you what these illnesses where as I did not want to you to talk about it and feel hurt. From this hub I understand even more of what you are going through each day, but I am glad that you are fighting against it. Staying positive in faith and not fear is what is more important. I hope you are feeling better than before. You will.

      Voted up and sharing, so that someone else will benefit too!

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      5 years ago

      Morning kenneth.

      An excellent hub with all the right information about these two illnesses. Your tips and tricks on keeping your two "Bullies" at bay are super. But if I dare say, your two bullies are not alone. They have a whole family that are all bullies.

      I have "Chronic Osteomyelitis," and like your illness gives me 24/7 pain. I stand with you on everything you suggest to others with illnesses that are life long unwanted passengers in our bodies.

      I had to smile when I saw your last photo. I have what I call my "season ticket" in a hospital bed. Since 2002 I have been in hospital almost every year and sometimes twice. I was even in the same bed three times and asked the nurse if my name could be engraved on the end of the bed.

      From your 5 symptoms of Accelerated Fibromyalgia I have 3 of them with my problem.

      With your "Weapons of War" against these bullies, I stand by your wisdom and strategy.

      Take care Kenneth, have a good weekend with a little less pain.

      LOL Ghaelach

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Bullying is awful and has been going on for many years, it is sad when parents don't know or understand what is going on with their children's behavior.

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      Martin Kloess 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you so much for this. I no longer trust doctors. My experiences with them were less than favorable. A doctor should never lie to a patient.

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      5 years ago from Lost...In Video Games

      You, my friend, truly are Superman! :)

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      5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      Sadly, when you get to be my age, all those symptoms show up anyway, though not so bad that we can't bear it.

      I admire your strength and courage.


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