How I deal with Anxiety
I know excessive anxiety can destroy one’s life and affect performance because I have experienced that myself. I have also observed another thing that people who have to deal with anxiety find negligible support from others. So one has to either seek professional help shedding lot of money or deal with it all by himself. In this article I have shared my own experience dealing with this problem hoping it might help others who face the same.
Try this to get rid of Anxiety
Whenever I feel anxious, I ask myself what is it that is making me feel anxious. Most of the times, it is my anticipation of a bad outcome. I ask myself whether the thought is rational or irrational. More than often it is irrational. Then I quickly get rid of the thought because I know it is my nature to have irrational worrying thoughts and that I have suffered because of that habit. So I tell myself that I don’t want to suffer again.
In case I feel that the thing about which I am worrying is quite possible, I question whether there is anything I can do about it. If the answer is no, then I say “God, your will be done. I’ll accept whatever you give me because any way I am not living the way I want to, but the way you want me to.” These lines give me peace.
In fact most of the time, we do worry about things that are not in our hands. We worry about the next day’s task. We might worry about our children’s future in general. But all these things are in God’s hands not in yours. So just say to yourself “What is the point in worrying about something that I have no control on?”
If there is solution to the problem, what is the use of worrying? Even if there is no solution to the problem, what is the use of worrying?
Your habit of worrying unnecessarily springs up from your subconscious. If deep within you are not assured about future, when you don’t have faith in yourself to deal with bad situations, it is then that you develop a habit of worrying.
Remember, people who live a worry free life are not those people to whom nothing bad has ever happened but they those who have faith deep inside them that “Whatever happens, happens for good” and they have faith in their own ability to deal with challenges and bad times. The subconscious of the worrying people keep bringing up reasons for them to worry one after the other. If you just examine the reasons for your worry, you will see that most of them are imaginary. We imagine bad results and situations and that creates a state of worry.
An Effective Technique
Sit down calmly, take a pen and a paper and start writing down top 10 worries that are bothering you at that time. Read them and mark ‘I’ before the ones that are irrational and ‘R’ before those that are rational. You will notice most of them are imagined and baseless. Because indeed the subconscious mind is not made up of reason, it is more emotion than reason, it is more irrational than rational. The technique of asking questions is effective for checking the irrational thoughts. When you ask questions, the mind realizes it is being irrational.
Few years ago, we had a psychology project conducted measuring anxiety levels of people. I found that while my fellow students had high anxiety levels, there was a parent, a businessman who came through as a cool person. He said that although his work is full of risks he never lets anxiety affect him. He said he believed in “Jugaad Technology” which means there is always scope of adjustments and finding a mid way out of problems.
Note down in a diary all quotes and exercises for controlling worrying that we come across in magazines or internet. Keep that diary within your reach always. When you feel that your anxiety is going out of control, sit down calmly, say this prayer, “God, I need your help to deal with my anxiety.” (Even if you are an atheist, I hope you admit that there are certain energies in the universe that we need to submit to. So pray just to evoke the positive energies). And start reading the notes that you jotted down in order to help bring your anxiety in control. Read the powerful quotes and do the exercises. And believe me, you will definitely feel better.
Another way is to use your imagination. Just imagine a beautiful landscape with beautiful sights and sounds of nature. Or just imagine all the nice things in the world happening to you. Does that sound kiddish? This is the most effective way to calm down your mind. Using the power of visualization is very powerful in order to calm down your nerves.
Remember that it is man’s innate nature to worry. It is up to him to discover and practice ways to control anxiety and live a worry free life.