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How Living In Denial Can Keep You Trapped In Your Addiction

Updated on August 12, 2013

Are You Living in Denial

Do you know how living in denial can keep you trapped in your addiction? You may ask yourself, "how can that be?"

When you live in denial you think you are not doing anything wrong, even though so many other people have told you that you have an addiction to alcohol and should really seek help or try to stop drinking alcohol on your own.

Whenever an alcoholic or a drug addict lives their life in denial they are never going to get and stay sober because they feel they are not doing anything wrong and not hurting anyone, and most of the time not hurting their self.

They just don't get it that they have a huge addiction problem, but can't admit it to others or their own self. I was one of those people that never thought I had an addiction to alcohol, but couldn't go a day without it. I was only fooling myself and making a fool out of myself to others.

They would look at me sometimes and ask, "what are you blind?" You can't see that you have an addiction to alcohol? Well my friends, yes I was blind. The addiction to alcohol I had and the demons that I carried around with me for years just made them self nice and comfortable in my body and we the alcoholics are so used to having alcohol in our lives it is hard to admit that we depend on alcohol each and everyday to survive. It sounds sick right, but very true. We all are blinded by our own addictions.

How to Get Yourself out of Denial

Having an addiction to alcohol is a tough thing to deal with. None of us just woke up one morning and said to ourselves, "I think I will try to get addicted to alcohol and ruin my life and others as well." No, it doesn't work that way as you may all know. All of us alcoholics started out drinking and experimenting with alcohol and a lot of us began to like the feeling alcohol gave us, so we continued on drinking alcohol and building our resistance up to it. Before we knew it we needed to have alcohol everyday in order to get that feeling we had the night before.

The way I finally got out of the world of denial I lived in was I began to think what people were telling me for all those years and wondered to myself, "they can't be all wrong!" They are all telling me the same thing over and over, but I just didn't listen, and thought I was the only one that was right and the rest of those people were nuts. I didn't have an addiction, or did I and just ignored what others said. What I did have was I lived in denial and even know I knew deep down inside I was wrong, I had to do something to get out of this denial I was living in and face reality that I did have a huge addiction to alcohol.

Once I finally admitted to myself that I had a problem and was an alcoholic I could then focus on bettering my life and stop drinking alcohol once and for all. Now, here come the hard part. Admitting you have an addiction and doing something about it to stop drinking alcohol are two different things.

I sat down and thought to myself, what is more important in my life, being an alcoholic and slowly killing myself or living life sober and enjoying me and the people that care and love me. Those people that I didn't believe are the ones that wanted to save my life for me and not let me get deeper into my addiction than I was.

Living with a Positive Attitude

Living life with and positive attitude has helped me so much to realize that I did have a drinking problem and Yes, I was in denial really bad, as most alcoholics are. The difference is that I wanted a better life for myself and my family and wanted to live and not be tortured by my demons anymore.

They are out for one thing and one thing only and that is to slowly kill you and ruin your life and they the demons do just a fine job at that. Alcohol also does the job it should be doing like getting you buzzed and drunk and then try to kill you and make you lose and ruin everything in your life that you have worked so hard to get throughout your life.

So, once you have admitted you are an alcoholic and you need and want help to get better is the biggest step. The rest is working on your long term sobriety and not giving into your past demons, because believe me the demons are just waiting for you to break and relapse so that they can try again to mess your life and other lives up just like before. The demons have no mercy and will kill in a heartbeat. The thing is you must be stronger than your addiction and never never let them win you over again.

I did it and found my sobriety and so can any people dealing with an addiction only if that is truly what you want in life is to be clean and sober. That is what I wanted after I got out of denial and I went for it and got sober and have been sober almost three years. I have been truly blessed that I have found my sobriety and my life could not be any better than it is right now.

Try getting sober and live a life of sobriety. You might just love the way it feels as I have!!!!

© 2012 Mark Bruno


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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      Another great hub on fighting addiction! I believe that is the first step, getting to realize you have an addiction. Great coverage and hope others find this help soon.

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      6 years ago from Las Vegas

      Hey Clean, great hub on denial. Very true and great points on how it can undermine your recovery.Thanks!

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      John Newton 

      6 years ago

      Great post Mark, and oh so true. I denied my alcoholism for many many years, almost to the point of it killing me. No matter how ill I got I believed that alcohol was an important part of my life and I was in control of it. Amazing ego!


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