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How Loneliness Affects the Mind

Updated on April 3, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Loneliness Affects Many People

Too much alone time, can make an individual feel sad, and think about negative issues to upset their hearts.

The negative thoughts that make you wonder, ''what if, what was,'' and what should have been.''

The dwelling in past often gets to many minds.

Most lonely people live alone, and are isolated from the outside world.

Their social lives are bleak and the on line communication does not pay off in this way.

The problems of struggling with loneliness can affect one horribly, if they did not choose to be lonely.

You need your space which is normal but too much time alone can hurt your life tremendously.

A social life is very important a simple conversation in the day can make you feel good and happy.

The heart feels loneliness and you can't escape it.

  • What does loneliness do to your mind?

Loneliness can hurry death for sick people.

The mixed hormonal signals sent to the brain that making them feel emotionally imbalanced.

Lonely people behave differently.

Illnesses such as Alzheimer’s, obesity, high blood pressure, and diabetes can become a problem.

Cancer and degenerative diseases, neurologically, are issues with many lonely people.

Real loneliness is the lack of intimacy that affects one greatly.

Unable to go out because you have the flu is not the real loneliness, it is also not from mourning of a loved one or friend the real loneliness is from intimacy.

Loneliness is not often the cause of problems it lies within you.

It is possible to get over loneliness from depression. It is not how real loneliness affects you.

Lonely people do get sicker than the non-lonely people.

This happens when lonely people don't have others to take care of them.

Social support is not available.

One is affected with loneliness with age.

As one gets older they lose friends, and family making them feel alone and sad.

Life changes have a greater impact on many individuals.

Though there are many adults who are chronically lonely in their forties.

These people have been lonely for ages.

  • Who are the lonely people?

Many people are lonely due to their standard of living, culture, discrimination.

When people are placed into categories, or belong to a certain cast loneliness can hurt a lot.

People don't belong or no part of society when in such situations.

Generally, women are much lonelier than men, and the unmarried man is lonelier than the unmarried woman.

Certain races are lonelier than others.

The poor are lonelier than the rich, the educated are not lonely as the less educated.

The unemployed are lonelier than the employed, and when you are retired you feel even lonelier.

When you are rejected in society it makes you feel lonelier.

It can be most damaging when you are rejected by others.

Social experiences are part of life and if you don't have any of that you would always feel left out in many situations.

Most people don't want to communicate with those who are judgmental, and those who are awful they isolate themselves from such rudeness.

Certain behaviors of others allow for you to be disconnected from their social lives and if you are in a problematic marriage or relationship you can feel very lonely.

When individuals are obsessed, or have certain addictions they automatically lose their social lives.

If you hide behind a false identity, you can become withdrawn and away from those you love only.

You don't want others to know about who you really are, and this can make your life very lonely.

Everything feels harder when you don't want others to know more about you. When you hide behind a false mask you don't feel and see your true self.

You are affected with a stressful life. If you had to always run from someone, or from something wrong you have done in the past.

There is no way you can live a normal life with such complicated ways.

Often illnesses are a threat, for example, Aids.

When someone is HIV positive, not many people would treat the individual in the same way as the one who is with the negative result.

You should not be alone unless you choose to be alone.

  • Individuals need to develop a social brain.

Lonely people are not born that way. Personality traits have lots to do with one's loneliness.

When individuals are lonely, they are deprived of love, of the attention required. These individuals tend to lack everything that should be part of their lives. A hug, a kiss, and a feeling of closeness.

When a child is abandoned from birth, emotionally that child is immediately disconnected from the parent, and child bonding is not felt at all.

The loneliness kicks in right away because the child is pushed around from one family to another. The rapidly made decision is a slow process for being taken in by close family.

What you need is a special touch to feel less lonely, and more positive.

Nurturing makes one feel loved and needed the purpose to be alive. To learn more about what makes you feel in the most appropriate way.

The immune system gets weaker when you spend too much alone time; you lack the requirements most important to you.

No contact with people, or a lost child can destroy the individual's being with loneliness.

Emotional isolation is a risk to one's life just as smoking can be to someone who can't stop the bad habit.

Change your lifestyles, and live with healthier ways, and improve on your social skills. Communicate more and be with people as much as you can.

Don't let anyone get you down and live life with great smiles happiness.

Being shunned out of society for who you really are is sad and devastating for many people.

  • What is Interpersonal Loneliness?

When individuals miss the one who was once very close to them a type of loneliness which connected to a sick person, the grief you put up with from a loved one.

You don't want to lose this person and take the best care of them as possible.

When you feel left out from a circle of friends that can harm your social life, making you feel Social Loneliness.

You feel this type of loneliness when you shunned off unwillingly.

I think I have this type of loneliness it is called Culture Shock.

A new culture, and I am in the middle of it all. As a foreigner, I did feel rejected at times from this society.

Cosmic Loneliness

The type of loneliness felt by many individuals. You are part of this type of loneliness. When an individual is not able to hold a complete intimate moment with another individual.

Loneliness that is from within you is known as Psychological Loneliness.

One is affected with this type of loneliness from their traumatic past experiences.

I have been in a situation when I first came to Croatia with the local people, a situation that got me stuck in conversation.

Having nobody to talk to or respond to my level of intelligence.

People who won't listen to my thoughts or ideas this got me feeling very lonely.

Loneliness is not the same as depression. The problem with lonely people they think their lives would always be that way.

When someone is depressed they are certain of their loneliness.

The difference with loneliness is the depressed individual has their days numbered, and don't care for life and living. The lonely individual feels sad, disconnected, and discouraged from life.

The lonely person often cries and the depressed person has had it with crying.

Loneliness can drive individuals to get into their social lives. The depressed individual won’t go out, instead would rather stay indoors and sleep all day.

The depressed individual avoids contact with other people, and becomes withdrawn from reality.

  • Anger, sadness, and fear of life can make you feel most lonely.

I felt very lonely in a foreign country, all that had changed when I learned the new language. I built my life around the good people.

Life is not always as you want it to be. A few changes made had allowed for a better social life. I can have time for yourself without feeling lonely.

Loneliness can Harm you Tremendously

Lonely People get Sicker More than the non-lonely People


Loneliness is when you don't choose to be Lonely

How has Loneliness Affected your Life?

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      agusfanani thank you for commenting I appreciate your efforts.

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      4 years ago from Indonesia

      I didn't have idea how loneliness which we often think simple but it actually has tremendous effects on our personality. I've seen facts around me actually which support your explanations. Thank you sharing this enriching hub.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Denise it is always good to learn more about another subject knowledge is key to a better life and I so appreciate your kind commetns Thank you for votes up, very thoughtful of you

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      Denise Handlon 

      4 years ago from North Carolina

      You always write such thorough and informative hubs, DDE, and this one is no exception. I found this hub very interesting and enjoyed the comparison you made between loneliness and depression. UP/U/I/and shared. I pinned this to my 'relationship' board.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. you are one of my good supporters and I so appreciate you coming by thank you for the vote up interesting and useful.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jackie so kind of you to comment here thank you very much.

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      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      You can be lonely in a crowd, this old adage is also true. If people are rejected that feeling of isolation can be soul destroying. I have of course family and friends to rely on and to meet with. I am somewhat lucky in the sense that I like being alone, especially when out in the wilds where I can spend all day without seeing anyone. But that is not the same as being lonely. Great article which I have enjoyed reading. Voted up, interesting and useful.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Great information Devika and fortunately I have known no one suffer from loneliness, coming from such a large family but you are proof loneliness can be conquered! ^

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi lovedoctor926 All my Best Wishes to you 2014 thank you

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      4 years ago

      Useful information. This is a very good presentation. Happy New Year!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Day MartieCoetser so correct loneliness is a destructive self monster inside us. About my score sometime ago my hub score was in the nineties and just dropped don't know why thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts here take care and have a pleasant weekend.

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      Martie Coetser 

      4 years ago from South Africa

      DDE, every statement about loneliness in this hub is so very true.

      Loneliness is not about being alone, but by being deprived of love and attention.

      Fortunately, social networks on the Internet can compensate for the absence of love and attention, but still too many lonely people don't have the needed abilities, skills and even devices to use the Internet effectively.

      Real life, too, offers so many outcomes - sports, charity work, etc.

      Loneliness is a destructive, selfish monster inside us, demanding our attention - all our attention and eventually our soul. We must fight it with all our power.

      PS: Your hubs are excellent. You should have a score of 90+. Please ask the HubPages team to check your hubs. Something must be wrong!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway perfectly said thank you for sharing your comments here I always appreciate your valuable comments.

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      4 years ago from USA

      I would encourage anyone who is lonely to continue to reach out even when they don't feel like it. It's like throwing wet noodles against a wall -- under the right conditions, it'll stick. Good topic.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi denise.w.anderson it is true wit age and all the changes and especially when the nest is empty loneliness sets in finding a useful hobby is a great idea to avoid loneliness. Thank you for commenting.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore you are so right and so much has changed with modern technology well mentioned thank you for commenting here.

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      Denise W Anderson 

      4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Now that all of my children have grown, I find myself lonely more often than I would like. I have to go out of my comfort zone to seek for others to be with when I feel this way. I try to find people that I think are lonely, then I can feel a sense of companionship.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good afternoon Shyron thank you for helping out I am so glad you came by

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscrafts you are so right we have something in common and so glad you stopped by thank you.

    • CraftytotheCore profile image


      4 years ago

      This is definitely a very good article. People don't get together like they used to. Generations ago, people would get together on Friday nights to play card games. In the 1950s there were a lot of home-based parties. Nowadays, people are either too busy or too tired. There is a disconnect in society from how entertainment used to be defined. Now, people stay home and use social media as a means to connect with others. But it's not the same as it used to be when people were more outgoing and willing to interact on a face-t0-face basis.

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      I have been lonely, I know some people who are lonely, and I can't do anything about their loneliness. Sometimes that hurts me more than if I were the one who is lonely.

      Your article makes people think about why they are lonely and I will send them this article link to read it. Maybe that is the way I can help.

      Thank you Devika.

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      4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I know what you mean as being in a foreign country, Devika as I went through the same thing as you did when I moved to Canada. But now it's really my country :-) It takes time to adapt to a new place, new people, new languages, new culture, etc. But for me it was my second big change in my life because I did the first one when I was a kid from Africa to Belgium.... and even as a kid it was hard.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      stricktlydating you are so right hobbies are a great way to pass time and socially this allows for a better way of life. Thank you for commenting here.

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      4 years ago from Australia

      I thought it was very interesting too. For me the best cures for lonely periods in my life have been taking up new sports and hobbies. Actually it's hard to feel lonely when you're busy and mixing in new social groups, sharing the new hobby and sport with other people who have those same interests is fun, interesting and sure has filled in any lonely periods in my life.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts life is lonely for many people and sometimes loneliness gets too much. I wrote this hub from my personal experience in a foreign country. You are very kind to stop by. Take care and enjoy the rest of the week. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MG Singh thank you.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Faith Reaper thank you for the vote up, more and shared, your comments are always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Eiddwen, thank you for the vote up so glad to you came by.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi sunilkunnoth2012well said by Mother Theresa loneliness is so not deserved. Thank you for sharing yur valuable opinions

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      4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Very interesting, Devika! I think as human we are wired to be with other humans so when people are rejected by others it's quite sad. When people start to feel lonely it can really lead to depression and coming out of it can be even harder!

      Thank you for sharing!

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      MG Singh 

      4 years ago from Singapore

      This is a lovely post. Deserve credit for it

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, yes, loneliness is a killer...literally! Excellent and informative hub. I have had close family members whose health was affected by isolation related to loneliness. Up and more and sharing. Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      4 years ago from Wales

      So interesting DDE and voting up for sure.

      Enjoy your day.


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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 

      4 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Mother Theresa once opined: Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

      On reading your hub the above words came to my mind. Good topic and neat presentation. Thank you for sharing a fine topic.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello billybuc loneliness can make individuals miserable thank you for sharing your thought son this topic.Always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora the lack of love or attention can destroy the individual thank you for commenting

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello tobusiness loneliness is not a good part of any person's life unless they choose to be thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ChitrangadaSharan I thought about writing on loneliness from my personal experience and so glad you shared your thoughts here thank you.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Loneliness can be dangerous for mental health. No one wants to be lonely.

      An important topic, covered very well by you.

      Thanks for sharing!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Devika, a very interesting article!! Loneliness is really a bad place to be, unless one chooses it, although being alone is quite different from being lonely. I find the saddest thing about loneliness is the amount of elderly people who spends all their time alone when there are close family members close by. The lack of community spirit in our society doesn't help. Nice work.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      DDE, I can relate to the danger of loneliness. I have seen it destroy my mother's mental capacity--like you said, no attention hugs etc. This is a very important topic. Thank you for discussing it.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is an interesting phenomenon and you covered it well. Only once in my life was I truly lonely to the point of being miserable.


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