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How The Urge To Drink Alcohol Comes Over People In Recovery

Updated on August 12, 2013

It Has Happened More Than Once

This hub is dedicated to myself, for the simple reason that I have been having the urge to drink alcohol after almost 4 years of sobriety. These urges come and I make them go. I need to continue to keep positive, and keep that willingness to stay sober alive for the rest of my life.

I am sure that anyone who has stopped drinking alcohol, and has been sober for sometime has had these urges or temptations to drink more than once.

How the urge to drink alcohol comes over people in recovery can be for many different reasons, but here in this hub I will tell you when and why these urges to drink alcohol have been coming into my life lately.

For one, I hate the fact that these urges or temptation to drink alcohol are happening to me. My demons are still alive in my body, sad to say, but very true. They are just waiting for me to give in and start drinking once more, but they will have a long wait because I will never give in to them ever again.

I am very sure many alcoholics that are in recovery have had this horrible experience more than once in their lifetime.

It is a terrible feeling to have knowing you have to be strong and not let the demons take control over your body again. It is a horrible feeling to know that those demons still exist in your body and waiting to be let loose.

It is up to each alcoholic that is going through these urges and temptations to drink alcohol to be strong and not give in whatsoever.

It would be horrible for a alcoholic in recovery to give and take that drink that their body is craving. The urge will pass as it came.

We the alcoholics have to get our minds off of alcohol in any way possible. Do anything to get your mind off of that urge to drink, and as you are focusing on something other than alcohol, the urge and temptation will indeed pass. It has for me, and I haven't broke that promise I made to myself almost 4 years ago to not drink alcohol ever again not matter what happens in my life and that includes the temptation and the urge to drink alcohol.

Why Do These Urges Come About in Our Life?

There may be many reasons these urges and temptations to drink come about in our lives. It could be that you are experiencing financial problems and don't know where to turn.

It could be a dear friend or a member in your family takes has taken ill and it upsets you so much.

It could be that you lost your job and have no more income and don't know what you are going to do to support you and your family. It could be hundreds of different things that upset a person in recovery and make them feel as if they had a drink it maybe some what better, but you know as well as I know that drinking alcohol solves nothing in life whatsoever.


Here Is What I Do and Think of When the Urge to Drink Alcohol Comes into My Life.

What I have been doing and thinking about when the urge to drink alcohol comes back into my life is I admittedly think of what I can do physically to get my mind of alcohol, such as cleaning the house, working in the yard, clean and check out my car, anything helps to get your mind off alcohol. You get the idea I'm sure. Just find something to do fast and the urge to drink will soon pass. Don't dwell on that feeling you just had regarding the alcohol and that urge you just had.

My urges come out of nowhere, but I make them go away just as fast as they came.

What also helps for me is to think to yourself just how hard you worked to live this life of sobriety! Just think how disappointed you would be and upset if you were to take that drink of alcohol that the demons are waiting for you to partake.

For me, I would be so upset that I lost the willpower to say NO to the demons that still are hiding in my body.

Thinking of how hard I worked for years to stay sober, and believe me there has been many occasions over those years that I wanted to drink because of something that happened bad in my life, but I hung in there and didn't touch a drop of alcohol.

This is what you should do when that urge to drink alcohol comes over you. STOP AND THINK BEFORE YOU DRINK!

Yes, stop everything before you pick up that glass or bottle of alcohol. Take a moment to think what you are about to do to your life! Think to yourself, is it really worth all your hard work to get and stay sober because something may have upset you?

The demons will always be there casing you, but your job as a recovering alcoholic is to NOT let them catch you, because if they do catch you and you give in for only that one time the urge strikes to drink, you will be back at square one of trying to get and stay sober once more in your life.

Be strong and stand up to your addiction (and your inner demons) that are waiting for that chance to run and ruin your life once more.



© 2013 Mark Bruno


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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Marlene- Thank you and no one will discourage me ever. Thanks for your support and thanks for sending sun my way from Florida. Going to be a beautiful next couple of days :)

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      You're right, I agree. Don't let anyone discourage you.

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Fossillady - Thank you so much for your kind words and for reading. That is so great your sister is 3 years sober. What is your sister profile. I'll stop over and read some of her hubs.

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      Kathi 4 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      Hello Mar, I imagine all your suggestions and openness will truly help someone when they get the urge. I always think about my sister hubs who is recovered three years now. If it wasn't for her support group . . .

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Marlene- Thank you so much ! Everyone copes with trying to stay sober in different ways , but what I wrote and what I say works for me and that is what really matters to me, Oh, and of course to help someone else to have hope as I always write about.

      Thanks Marlene

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      You have strong will power. Keep it up! I remember asking you this question on your last hub, sorry I never came back to read your reply, but I'm glad that you haven't touched one drink since you decided to stay sober. Doing anything whether it's cleaning, hitting the gym even gardening are great coping mechanisms. voted up!

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      IDONO- Thank you so much for reading not only this hub, but others I have written. I appreciate your honesty and your words to me. Yes we are both different and have different opinions about our addictions, but in the long run we are both out to help others that are suffering from their addiction. I do believe in God and thank him for giving me the strength to get sober and to stay sober.

      You are also right regarding writing helps me to stay sober and it does. I feel what I write will touch someone's life and make them think there is always hope for sobriety. I simply write from my heart and my experiences with alcohol.

      Thanks again and lets stay in touch and even though we will never change all those that are addicted to alcohol, but maybe between the both of us and all those that write about addictions we will make a difference for someone out there in the world.


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      IDONO 4 years ago from Akron Ohio

      Clean Life: In your story, you mentioned complete surrender to your alcoholism. Yet, you describe a constant battle. A battle that cannot be won by us alcoholics. We are no match for this disease. We can win a battle now and then by talking ourselves out of that first drink, but our defenses can only fend off the craving so many times. How many times did I wake up sick and say, "Never again" only to do it again. And again. For those demons to come in is because we leave space for them to come in. These spaces have to be filled in and not leave an opening. And no matter how small the space, our disease being "cunning, baffling and powerful", will eventually find it's way back in.

      Oh, I get those moments just like you do. But everything you mentioned to distract your thoughts from drinking are the things I associate with drinking. What's better after cutting the grass than a cold beer? What goes with washing the car? A cold beer. That was my reward ( I thought ) for a job well done.

      These urges are mental and cannot be beaten through physical activity on a permanent basis. This has to be done mentally; spiritually. I didn't say religiously. I said spiritually. You have to find something outside of yourself to replace the gap that alcohol was such a huge part of. I believe you have found that and just don't realize it.

      For me, there is no better way to get out of myself than to try to help another alcoholic. By passing on my experiences, both in drinking and in sobriety, to another alcoholic, totally removes those urges that come and go. I don't have the strength within to battle this disease. And knowing that has probably saved my life. You have shown that it works for you too. You just don't know it.

      I have been reading a lot of your stuff lately, and even though I do not agree with much that you write, I see how much you write. I see your intentions are pure to try to help someone not go through the pain our disease promises to wield. I also see someone that if they quit writing about their disease and trying to help people, would be drinking again or very close to it.

      We think in different ways about recovery. You seem to think will power alone can defeat this disease. I don't. If I had that much willpower, I wouldn't be where I'm at. I can't do surgery on myself. I can't do physical therapy on myself. Why would I think I could fix myself spiritually myself? Emotionally myself? Something outside of me has to be present, whatever that is. It can be God. If you don't believe in God, then just look at it as a higher power of some sort that you can comprehend and connect with. It can be done, no matter what you believe. If the higher power thing is hard to believe, let me help.

      You,ve already had a higher power. Alcohol itself. How many things did you do or things did you think that you would never do if not under the influence? How much of your life and thoughts were spent planning and providing for your next drunk? While you were sober? That's because alcohol made us mentally, morally and spiritually bankrupt. These cannot be regained by ourselves.

      Sobriety was never meant to be a lonely place. It is to be shared. And who better to share that with than a person that truly wants to be where we are today. Our spirit means that we've been through hell and came back to tell about it so others won't have to live it.

      I will be following you and writing my own hubs. I don't intend to address or rebut your hubs. That's why I kept this as a comment. We are not competition or debaters. We have very different points of view. Even though my perspectives may be different than yours, I respect yours to the utmost. The thing we have in common is the desire to help and guide the still sick and suffering to a life of sobriety and fulfillment. Between the two of us and the many others that share in our mission, we are bound to help somebody. That's the bottom line.

      Good Hubbing!!!!!!

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      KrisL- Thank you for reading and the "awesome" as well. Yes you are so right about being lucky. I wish I could of had a social drink or two and walk away, BUT that will never happen. Never enough for me so the best thing to do is not drink at all and that's what I have been doing for almost 4 years now.


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      KrisL 4 years ago from S. Florida

      Thanks Clean Life, and thanks Leslie for sharing this.

      I'm voting it "awesome," and I'm sure it will help other people stay sober.

      Those of us who can drink a bit and not be tempted to drink more are not better people -- we are just *incredibly lucky* and should always remember it.

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Leslie- Thank you so much for your comment although that is very sad about your friend. How sad is that I ask? I pray that what I write will help others to get sober, but the thing is that so many people that are addicted to alcohol just are not ready to surrender as I was. Sometimes it takes something so drastic to happen in their life for something to change.

      Your blog looks great now.

      God Bless you Leslie :)

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Oh, Mark! I couldn't believe when i saw this title - AND - this picture (which is terrifying...)

      what a horrible way to live! We need our friends to keep us strong, but - we need to be honest and ADDICTS Ain't HONEST!

      i'm not a drinker, but - a very good friends partner - just fell off the wagon after 2 years..

      lied about it until he was found unconscious with empty vodka bottles - like...4 - he's a HUGE man btw..

      so bad that the 911 operator told my friend to keep feeding him alcohol so he didn't die! rehab..

      very sad..

      stay strong my friend!


      (he was a sponsor too..)