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Are You An Alcoholic?

Updated on October 2, 2013

Before I begin this article let’s set the record straight on a few things.

Although the title of this article appears to make light of a serious disease, I am in no way doing so. It may be a different approach to a serious subject but it in no way is meant to diminish the seriousness of alcoholism. If anyone recognizes the deadly nature of alcoholism it is this writer. I have suffered enough for ten lifetimes, and if there is a single reason that stands above all others for writing this article it is to bring to light just how serious a matter this is.

On the other hand, we alcoholics, as described in the Big Book, are not a glum lot. We absolutely insist on having fun. We have spent far too many years in the throes of this disease and now that we have found happiness we see no reason to dwell on the negatives of our past life. In fact, those of us in recovery do not see our years of active addiction as a negative at all, but rather a positive that has led us to freedom and a new appreciation for the wonders of life.

http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/en_tableofcnt.cfm

Lastly, I have no patience with those out there who do not think that alcoholism is a disease. Although I recognize the right of everyone to their opinions I do not have to agree with or tolerate an opinion based on ignorance. If you should choose to make a comment telling me and others that alcoholism is not a disease but rather a matter of lack-of-willpower then I will either ignore the comment or deny it. You are certainly within your rights to publish your own article listing your reasons for your ignorant stance on the matter at hand.


Happiness is freedom from the craving of alcohol!
Happiness is freedom from the craving of alcohol!
Alcoholics Anonymous is there to help!
Alcoholics Anonymous is there to help!

My Credentials

I am a drunk! A recovering drunk true, but still a drunk. The only difference between me and the wino in the street gutter is one drink. I have shattered lives, lost jobs, lost businesses, harmed others and almost died. I have paid my dues and I earned my seat in Alcoholics Anonymous. What I say in this article is the truth as I know it; whether you believe me or not is completely up to you.

Having said all that I now give you a step-by-step course on how to become an alcoholic.


One Drink Is Too Many and Twenty Are Never Enough

Alcoholics are wired differently in the head. I’m sure there is a medical explanation for it but the fact is that one drink will trigger within our brains a need, a desire, a craving for many more drinks. I have often heard friends say they are going out for a beer with other friends. FOR A BEER? How do you go out for one beer? That kind of thinking is so foreign to me that I can’t even fathom the possibility of it. The first time I had a beer I wanted ten more. The first time I had a mixed drink I was ordering another before I finished the first. I have seen people order a drink and then leave before the drink is finished. What’s up with that? How do you do that? I have had lunches with friends who will sip their glass of wine and then leave the restaurant having only finished half the glass. Hello??? You forgot something! Needless to say I felt it was my responsibility to finish it for them before I left the restaurant. What are good friends for, right?

The simple fact is that I am incapable of having one drink! I have proven this so many times during my lifetime that I thankfully don’t need to prove it any longer. The last time I went out for one drink I almost died three days later, and that is a fairly easy lesson to remember…if I choose to remember it.

So, the first step towards becoming an alcoholic is to never be satisfied with just one drink. Why limit yourself when life is all about unlimited possibilities? Don’t let the worry-warts out there spoil your fun when they tell you that you have had enough. Dig in your heals, get as stubborn as you need to get and show them that you are fully capable of ruining your life without the help of their well-meaning advice.


Ignore Your Responsibilities

Is your job getting in the way of your drinking? Are your family members cramping your drinking style by insisting that you meet your responsibilities? Let’s call that behavior what it is: complete selfishness on their part. If they cared about you they would leave you alone and let you ruin your life without interference. Sheez, how selfish can some people be?

As you slip further and further into the grasp of this disease, things that were once important to you will cease to be important. Attending a school function for your child may have seemed important a month before the event but when the day of the event came upon you and you were out drinking with your friends you came to realize that heck, what’s one event, it isn’t that important. Running an errand for your spouse after work seemed like a good idea that morning but once you stopped by the tavern on the way home (to unwind after a tough day on the job) you either forgot about the errand or it just lost its urgency. What’s the big deal? Intimacy with your partner? You will either become incapable of intimacy or you will lose all desire because hey, your real lover is the booze! Showing up to work on time each day? What the heck do they expect of you? You have given them three good years of hard work; so what if you are suffering from a little hangover? Just call in sick and they can deal with it just as you have dealt with their crap for those three years.

That kind of thinking is vital if you are to truly become an alcoholic. You will reach a point where nothing is more important to you in life than getting the next drink. You can talk the talk all you want and tell anyone who will listen that you love your family and appreciate your job but when push comes to shove all of that pales in comparison to your obsession for alcohol.

DENIAL, DENIAL, DENIAL (and that ain’t a river in Egypt)

Then the nagging begins. Your wife or husband will start in, first with little suggestions and hints that maybe you are drinking too much, and then demands that you stop drinking and get help. If you are an alcoholic just ignore all of that nonsense.

Your family members, mom and dad and sister and brother, will make snide little comments about how they wish you could behave yourself at social functions and how they wish you would just drink normally. If you truly wish to reach the level of alcoholic then you need to ignore these namby-pambies and do your thing because let’s face it, you know yourself better than they do, right? You leave them alone to do their thing so why can’t they leave you alone? The world would be a better place if people just minded their own business! Oh, they will say they are acting out of love but that’s just so much hogwash! If they really cared about you they would just stay out of your life and treat you like the responsible person you are.

Alcoholism has been called the “disease of aloneness.” Truer words were never spoken, and even though that may have never been your intention you will nonetheless find yourself quite alone at some point during the progression of your disease. If you truly wish to be an alcoholic then just realize that nothing is more important than your relationship with the next drink.


What goes on in your brain?

It Is Imperative That You Hide Your Drinking

At some point in your drinking career the comments of others, the nagging from others, the worry of others, will all become too much for you to endure. It is at this point that you will find it necessary to hide your drinking so you don’t have to listen to any more of their cryptic comments and you won’t have to watch as their concern for you turns into tears.

We alcoholics can be quite resourceful when it comes to hiding our drinking. This writer used to hide bottles of booze in strategic locations throughout the house so I was never far from the next drink. I would hide empties where I thought they could never be found. In one house we lived in we had recessed lighting in the basement; you know, that false ceiling that you can just lift up? I would hide my empties up in the ceiling, the perfect solution so that I didn’t have to listen to my wife nag. Or so I thought! One day while we were watching television in that basement there was an earthquake and yes, over fifty empty bottles came raining down on us. It was a bit difficult to explain that one away but that didn’t prevent me from trying.

Lying becomes second nature to an alcoholic. We lie about the quantities we are drinking; we lie about whether or not we have been drinking. We lie when we say we will stop and we lie when we say we will do anything we can to not let it happen again. We tell so many lies that we simply can’t keep track of all the lies and we eventually trip over one of our lies and then have to lie to cover up the lie. It is an exhaustive existence and it is never-ending, but if you truly want to become an alcoholic you will have to learn how to lie and lie well. Remember, practice makes perfect!


We are not born wishing to be an alcoholic
We are not born wishing to be an alcoholic | Source

Toss Those Morals Away Because They Are a Pain in The…….

Alcohol reduces the inhibitions in humans. You don’t need to be an alcoholic to understand this to be true. Anyone who has had a couple drinks is capable of being louder, being more amorous, flirting more, saying things once considered a no-no or walking that narrow line between acceptable and non-acceptable.

For an alcoholic that narrow line is rubbed out completely. Moral questions of faithfulness and acceptable behavior in society are eventually ignored completely. Are you short on money but need another bottle? Then just steal one! Sure you are married but that woman at the bar looks pretty damn good so why not go for it? Yes, you are drunk, but you need to drive to the store; the chances of actually killing someone on the road are so miniscule that it’s worth the risk, right?

You can toss away all of the lessons about right and wrong that you learned when you were younger if you truly aspire to be an alcoholic. None of them matter any longer so get used to that fact! All that matters is the next drink, and the next, and the next! Morality is for the Bible-thumpers and you can’t be bothered with some ancient ambiguous lessons of proper behavior when you have some serious drinking to do.


The Bottom Line

Alcoholism has been defined as an allergy of the body and an obsession of the mind. I have no argument with that definition at all and looking back over my drinking career I can certainly see many examples that it is true. Are there alcoholics reading this right now? Probably! There are alcoholics in every walk of life and many of them are very good at hiding their disease. Are you an alcoholic? Eventually only you can answer that question. There are heavy drinkers who are not alcoholic and there are light drinkers who are not aware yet that they are alcoholic. I have tried to give you a short guide filled with behaviors that most alcoholics exhibit. Go back over the article again and ask yourself if any of it sounds like you. If it does then you just might be on your way to reaching the lofty status of an alcoholic.

I’ve been there and I’m more than willing to give you my seat on the Nowhere Train. I paid for my ticket and I suffered the consequences and I think I’ll sit out the next ride and let someone else take my place. I hope nobody accepts my offer but I’m not betting on it.


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One Final Point

An alcoholic has no choice in being an alcoholic, just as a cancer victim has no choice in having that disease. There is, however, one difference between the two: once an alcoholic is aware that there is a way to stop the suffering then the suffering after that awareness becomes optional. Unlike the cancer patient we have a choice; we can choose to continue on, ruining the lives of others and ourselves, or we can choose to find a better life, a fuller life and a happier life. It is hard work and a bumpy ride to freedom but it is so worth it.

I once had a dear friend in Alcoholics Anonymous who loved to say that the miracle isn’t that he no longer drinks because anyone can stop drinking for a short period of time; he said the miracle is that he no longer has any desire to drink. That, my friends, is true freedom for an alcoholic!

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      jacy albertson 5 years ago from Lake Mary, Fl

      This is very powerful. and informative. I'm showing this to my brother. (who's an alcoholic who's been clean for about 4 years) And how some other's can not recognize that it IS a disease is beyond me! I feel the same as you as far as that's concerned

      Excellent hub. Voting up, useful, and awesome. BRAVO!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Your title peaked my interest, your hubname drew me in! Well done billybuc. You could possibly save a life or two, hopefully many more with this hub. Kudos to you for your honesty. You got my vote!

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      Reynold Jay 5 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      Yeah a gotta do none of this!!!! It’s great to see a new five week HUBBER and welcome to HUB writing. I found I enjoyed this very much. You have this laid out beautifully and it is easy to understand. Keep up the great HUBS. I must give this an “Up ONE and awesome.” I'm always your fan! RJ

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      albertsj, I thank you as always. I am a big fan of yours and it makes me feel good that you approve of my hubs...thank you again!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sunshine, as one of the hubbers I greatly respect, your comments carry much weight with me. Thank you very much!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      RJ, thank you for your kindness; I will check out your hub as soon as I get some food in me...I appreciate your following.

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      Sandy Malzahn 5 years ago

      Love the article as usual . You always find an interesting way to tell bout a touchy subject. I love your writing style

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sandy! I think it is something that needs to be talked about more and not hidden, and I appreciate your comment and for faithfully following along.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      Wow. You shed some light for me. I was adopted within my family because of alcoholism: my real dad couldn't let the bottle go, lost his arm in a construction accident and still kept drinking. I've had friends divorce over it, my brother almost went to prison over it. Yes, I like a glass of wine with dinner, but I'm one of those people that CAN take it or leave it. I'm so thankful for that. Thanks for writing this. Maybe someone somewhere will be moved to do something differently because of this hub. :)

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      picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Wow, what a great hub. Thank you for taking the time to educate your followers. It is a destructive disease, but his hub helps us understand it better. Vote up

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      Ann Carr 5 years ago from SW England

      Very informative and useful, billybuc. You have a talent for getting information across in an amusing way; treating light without losing its impact. A family member died well before his time because he couldn't see that drinking his mates under the table wasn't an evening's fun pastime. Lots of lives wasted. But lots of lives possibly saved by people like you. Well done! Voted up, useful and awesome.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Annart, I thank you! This is a disease that is embedded in the fabric of our society and it sometimes goes unnoticed until it is too late. I truly hope these my words do help someone else.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, as always I thank you very much. My only job as an alcoholic is to reach out to anyone suffering from this disease....well, that and staying sober myself. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      cclitgirl, I hope you are right. It is an ugly disease and there needs to be more awareness of its true nature. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

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      Rachel Vega 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Oh wow, you really did it! You have written this Hub with dignity, emotion, and strength, and it shows. Very well done. Voted up and awesome.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Clevercat, I appreciate those words. I almost didn't write this because I was afraid others would think I was making light of this subject; instead I was looking for a clever way to grab attention so others who might need this article would actually read it. Thank you so much for your comment.

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      bmukherjii 5 years ago

      I have seen many people who will rather die due to excessive alcohol intake, but won't quit it. Perhaps these guys have totally lost interest in their own lives.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      bmukerjii...no, they just don't know how to quit and their egos won't allow them to ask for help. This takes willingness to get help and willingness to change your life and it is not easy by any means. Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Whoa!! Billy, how have you outdone yourself, my man? I'm struggling for the words that would come close to the praise you deserve on this winner!

      Your writing knocks my socks off. Had I expected this, I'd have waited until Spring to read it. It's damned COLD here in WNY!! I need my socks, buddy!

      I am printing this up and making copies galore (hope you don't mind). I didn't vote because we only get one choice & I can easily vote for the last 3 with equal honesty. I do know drunks, I have in the past & unfortunately, will in the future. Have seen them destroy their lives, get seriously ill and yes, even die.

      You are the man, billy. This hub could not be more real, inspirational or powerful. Voted up & all but "funny"...definitely NOT funny. PEACE

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      And you, fpherj48, are indeed sweet even though you may try not to be...grumpy grandma! :) Thank you my dear; it means a great deal to me to hear your words of praise. I try to speak from the heart and hub scores be damned. There are some messages that just need to be written and talked about and I think this is one of them. Again, you have no idea how much I appreciate you following me.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      billy...will follow you anywhere, soon as I stock up on socks. I'm a "piece-of-cake" Grandma. Every one of those little rug-rats have been spoiled rotten by yours truly. I feel it's the least I could do to avenge my sons.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love your rationalization; I've used it many times myself. Get some colorful socks; nothing bland for you!

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      Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

      I could hardly believe what I was reading here.

      Every single word is true. You are so brave to put so much true detail here, while making it hilarious, but only making fun of yourself. No one could take offence at the way you have writen this.

      Tears are rolling down my face, partly because someone understands and partly from laughing so much.

      I thank you from the bottom of my heart , though I don´t want to talk about my family member, I am so grateful for this article.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are a dear, sweet woman and you will never know how much your message means to me. Thank you so much and I am so happy that my words helped in some way.

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      Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

      They have helped in a BIG way.!

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      Deborah-Diane 5 years ago from Orange County, California

      This is such a moving and well-written article about alcoholism. It has been a major problem in my family, and I am glad that at least some of my loved ones are now in AA, and I am in Alanon. Thanks for writing this. Keep it up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deborah, thank you very much. The experiences are worthless unless I learned enough to pass them on to someone in need and help the still suffering alcoholic or family member. I appreciate your comments.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Well written, billybuc! Your title pulled me in, and your article was interesting, honest, raw, funny (I did have to chuckle at the vision of the 50 broken bottles after the earthquake!), and beautiful. I voted up and everything across. The info here could help so many people, and it appears you have more hubs on the topic. So great of you to share your experiences.

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      Audrey Howitt 5 years ago from California

      This is a great hub! Useful and honestly done! Sharing!

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      savanahl 5 years ago

      What a great hub and, as I'm sure you've figured out, awesome title! It's amazing how many people are affected by this horrible disease. Awesome information. Voting up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Vicki, I appreciate that review. No worries, looking back it was pretty funny when those bottles crashed out of the ceiling.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, I appreciate your words. Our experiences are only valuable if we share them so others can learn.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      savanahl, thank you for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate your support and I am honored by your praise.

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      JamesPoppell 5 years ago

      I have lost friends and loved ones to this disease. I have witnessed a friend literally go insane, losing his mind and freedom over alcoholism. I have witnessed the miracles of AA, bringing friends and loved ones back when there seemed to be no hope. Alcoholics Anonymous is a remarkable organization because of people like you and the message of hope it delivers. Thank you so much for writing this excellent hub. I look forward to reading more of your writings. Vote up.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      James, your words mean a great deal to me. I am tired of watching friends die to this disease and if my words can make any difference then it is worth telling my story to the world. Thank you so much!

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      ahorseback 5 years ago

      James ,I guess that you can delete this comment now , NO, I believe alchoholism is more a choice than a desease! Yet I am open minded enough that I know most ANYONE who drinks is an alchoholic....including myself. Most people just can't except that. Impulse control is a place to begin.....:-}

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ahorseback, thank you for your comment and opinion. Love the picture on your profile page.

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      truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      I think this hub will help a lot of people. My dad is a drinker and I always saw his drinking from my point of view. You have given me another side to it and what you are saying is just so unbelievably true. I hope everyone reads this hub. So many people are dying and your hub gives hope that it doesn't have to be this way. Your poll is very telling in most people have or have had an alcoholic in their lives. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Truth...that is my hope as well. It is a secret disease that people don't like to talk about, and the more awareness I can get through the social media the better. Thank you so much for your kind words.

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      Madeleine Salin 5 years ago from Finland

      I could not stop reading. This hub is so good. I'm sure it can help those people, who drink too much to reconsider what they really are doing with their lives and to the people around them. It's a great title that caught my attention right away. Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      grinnin1 5 years ago from st louis,mo

      You are right on all counts and obviously know what you're talking about. In my family, it seems to be like blue eyes. And the odd thing is, instead of learning from other family members experiences and not drinking, it becomes like a field of land mines. People run and get blown up, following someone who just did the same thing.Seeminly unaware that it's going to happen to them. I seem to have missed the gene for it, because I can stop after one with dinner and I don't have to have it . But I never had a drink until I was in my 30's because I was afraid of it. Anyway, thank you for the great hub and honesty with which it is written. Glad for you to have made it to the other side- Keep the faith!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Made, I appreciate your words and I'm happy that you liked the hub. I truly do hope that my words will help someone, so I'll just keep spreading the truth and see what happens.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      grinnin, I am grateful that the gene seemingly missed you. That certainly happens and there is no logic for it; nor is there any logic for people who know what you know to go off the deep end despite all the warning signs. Thank you for reading and commenting and bless you!

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      acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

      Gosh this was so informative and I learned a great deal from this article. I just hope that the people who do drink too much stop by and actually read this. I sincerely hope so. This has been a real eye opener for me, thank you.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Acaetnna, you are very welcome, and thank you for taking the time to read it and comment. I appreciate each and every one of my followers.

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      Lisa McKnight 5 years ago from London

      I laughed at the title, but then read the article. Thank you for sharing this journey with us, it is rare to read something so wise.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eliza, I appreciate that lovely comment. You aren't the first one to be thrown off by the title. Thank you for stopping by!

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      amymarie_5 5 years ago from Chicago IL

      Congrats on becoming sober! Alcoholism runs in my family and I know all too well about the sickness of alcoholism. I hope this article helps others. I've voted it up, useful and shared.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you amymarie...it sounds like you are well-aware of the dangers of this disease. Bless you and best of luck!

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      dkm27 5 years ago from Chicago

      I, like you, battled a disease that carries with it a stigma that is hard to shake. Major depression, like alcoholism, is an inherited disease. My grandfather treated his depression with alcohol. He had no other way to fight this dreaded illness in the 1930's. Once one recovers from such horror through incredibly hard work, life becomes a little bit of heaven because we have experienced hell.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      dkm27, I totally agree. I have such a fine appreciation for life now that I have seen the alternative. I have several friends who suffer from depression and it is amazing on some days that they can function at all. I am proud of you for overcoming it and I thank you for taking the time to follow along with me.

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      Dolores Monet 5 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Congratulations! So glad to hear a success story. I know quite a few alcoholics, have lived with them and loved them, and have seen how they just fall so deep into a negative kind of thinking. The ones that quit? Suddenly, so many of their problems seemed to disappear.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Isn't it amazing, Dolores, how most of our problems disappear when we stop drinking? :) I can smile now but six years ago it was not amusing. Thank you again for taking the time to comment; it is much appreciated.

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      lyndre 5 years ago from Scotland

      Another wonderful piece of writting billybuc.

      It always amazes me that no matter what part of this planet we live on the traits of an alcoholic are always the same.I walked with you the whole way down this road.

      This next part is from a hub I have still to publish about things we can laugh at now on the road to recovery.

      Picture the scene

      Where I live there is an old brick gun placement beside the river that was for watching for German ships during the war .It is a cold, wet and miserable November morning I am with 2 of my fellow alcoholics we are sitting with a couple of bottles of cheap wine and cider. The place stinks of urine and there is a Barry White in the corner (rythming slang use your imagination) John turns to us and utters the memorable line. Hey boys isn’t this the life.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Isn't this the life? Well, lyndre, it was at one time, or appeared to be...until we both discovered the true meaning of living. I am glad to have a fellow alcoholic walking this path with me. Thank you for having my back.

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      Crazy Mags 5 years ago

      I am new to hubpages and to sobriety. I liked how you said that you have no patience for anyone that does not believe alcholism is a disease. I used to be one of those people, and it was one of the things that kept me drunk. I finally eduated myself enough to understand the disease concept and once I accepted that, and the fact that I cannot quit on my own, things started falling into place..... one day at a time.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Crazy, I am so happy that you are on the path of recovery. It took me twenty years to accept that I had a disease AND I could get help. My best to you as you go about your sober journey,and thank you for commenting.

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      mariesthorayanlaz 5 years ago from India

      Hi Billybuc, Loved your hub. My father was an alcoholic and died of cancer of esophagus. My brother also was an alcoholic but now he went for treatment and recovered from the habit. The great thing is that now he is engaged in helping others for the same. Thank you for the hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marie, you are very welcome. I wish your brother well and thank you for sharing your story.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

      Great informative hub. My father in law was alcoholic and he died few years back. I agree that alcohol is a destructive disease. Alcoholics hurt and harm people and they don't even understand what they are doing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruchi, I am sorry for the loss of your father in law. It is an ugly disease that hurts not only the alcoholic but all friends and family. Thank you for sharing.

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      Garifalia 4 years ago

      I didn't bother reading it; all I needed to do was look at the title, notice you have a video (s) attached and read the subheadings. I know it's great just by that. I didn't have to. Marked it Awesome. Bravo.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Garifalia; I appreciate the visit and the nice words. Welcome to HubPages!

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      Lillee McLoflin 4 years ago from Texas

      Great job as always, Billy! I read a few of your hubs and now I'm going back and reading them all and watching the videos. You are very inspirational and wise in so many ways. Thanks for the positive words.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lillee, I really appreciate that. I love to write and I'm lucky to have a writing voice that people respond to. I am the grateful one.

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      Brett 4 years ago

      Incredible writing. This fits me to a T. I have read a few of your pages and I realize I am an alcoholic. The insanity of drinking. I should stop but I don't. Why?

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Brett, thank you and the answer to your question is because....are you ready for it.....you are an alcoholic. It is a disease and you can't will it away.

      I have quite a few more articles on the subject....read them and learn more.

      bill

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      Jami Johnson 4 years ago from Somewhere amongst the trees in Vermont.

      Bill, all I can say is, wow, you are truly amazing. You are changing the world with your words. You inspire and amaze me with every word that you write. Thank you my dear friend, I am SO glad that I met you here.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jami, thank you very much, and I'm glad that I met you as well. As for me being amazing....I'm just a guy who refuses to give up. :)

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      Jami Johnson 4 years ago from Somewhere amongst the trees in Vermont.

      well, to me, that alone is amazing :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jami, thank you for the return comment....and thank you for your kind words. Have a great weekend my friend.

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