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How to be Happy By Learning how to be Totally Miserable Self Help Book
How To Be Happy - A Self Help Book
How To Be Totally Miserable A Self-Hinder Book: Is a self book that uses parody and reverse psychology was written by John Bytheway. The book pokes fun at how we tend to always be a little more pessimistic than we should be.
It doesn't matter how foul your mood is, or how bad you think your life is going, this book will make you chuckle and see the error of your ways.
It will show you how you're always one thought away from being happy, if you would only choose to be - it's amazing how powerful our mind is in deciding our moods.
Sad? Or Happy? It's Your Choice
Believe It Or Not Being Miserable Is A Choice
You can choose how to be happy: A couple of months ago, I found myself drifting slowly into the poor me, why is everything going wrong? Life sucks train of thought. Then I came across this gem in a book store, How To Be Totally Miserable.
Just like my dear sweet mother used to do when I was a teenager and young adult, this book put a smile on my face. Whenever the concept is pointed out to me that I can choose to be miserable or happy. I always pick the latter... Sometimes all we need is that little boost, to remember that how we choose to face the world, depends entirely on us. We decide whether we will be miserable, or happy.
Stop Rolling Your Eyes
You may roll your eyes when you read that happiness is a choice, but it is. A want to use anger as an example of proof that you're in control of your emotions - they're not in control of others.
You're really grumpy and had a hard day. You come home from work and you lose it on your spouse - he or she hit your last nerve and you can't stop yourself. You yell, maybe swear, say some unkind things, or maybe even throw something.
Your mad, you want to punch a wall and they knew it, but said what they said anyways.
Let's look at another scenario.
You're really grumpy and had a hard day. You're at the airport going through security and the guard makes you take everything out of our bag, threatens to confiscate your tablet, calls you a liar and is rude to you the whole time. he or she hit your last nerve and you can't stop yourself. You yell, maybe swear, say some unkind things, or maybe even throw something.
No you don't any of these things - why, because control your anger and consciously choose to act a different way.
This is exactly how you're in charge of your happiness emotion.
How strongly do you agree that feeling happy is your choice?
Poor Me Pity Party
When I was growing up, whenever something didn't go my way, as a typical teenager I would start preparations for a poor me pity party. Thankfully, my mom would always stop me before the festivities got into full swing. She would say, "Poor Kora, her life is so rough; she has no friends; nobody loves her; she has nowhere to live; and nothing to eat."
After a few minutes of her carrying on with over exaggerated facial expressions while saying this to me my initial feelings of indignation faded, I would always see how ridiculous I was being. Just because things don't go right, doesn't mean that everything is a complete disaster.
You won't ever be happy by feeling sorry for yourself.
Refuse to Self Pity
There's an excellent article on the Psychology Today website that shares the story of a woman named Sabrina. Horrible things happened to her simultaneously and then a few months later her mom was diagnosed with cancer and died within 6 months.
Of course she was in a deep depression, but questions and advice the doctor gave her totally changed her thinking and got her out of it. If you're prone to self pity parties, you definitely want to check it out.
Are you A Self Inflicted Victim?
If you want to know if your a self inflicted victim of self pity, you'll want to check out this article I found on the Loner Wolf blog.
The article outlines 11 signs that you're sabotaging yourself, basically. Many of them you've probably heard before but some signs may surprise you, such as
You have a strong fighting instinct.
This can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on what you choose to use it for. When used in a negative sense, the fighting instinct is used to battle against life, to fight against the tide, and to fight against accepting reality.
Negative Attitudes That Interfere With Your Happiness
John Bytheway makes good use of his self-help book by using various examples of how we hinder ourselves with negative thinking. He writes in a way that hits home - how close we are to the flip side of thinking positively.
The simplicity of the book is what makes it unique. It is not a list of self-help strategies that you have to study and implement. As you read, you quickly realize how easy it is to turn situations around in your head to see a positive perspective.
Below are three examples of how he uses humor to offset misery.
How to Be Happy
Each chapter in this pocket sized book, uses reverse psychology to point out how our thought patterns teach us to be miserable.:
1. How Miserable People Think: Each chapter title lists a thought pattern that leads to misery.
2. What Happy People Do: The chapter discusses what happy people do with the thoughts to achieve a positive outcome.
3. What To Do To Be Totally Miserable: Tells you what you have to do to stay being totally miserable.
Watch This Little Guy When You're Pouting
3 Examples Of How To Be Miserable
Think About Your Problems: To be miserable, you have to spend a lot of your time thinking about your problems. There are many fun and interesting things to think about, but doing so may lead to happiness. To be totally miserable, you have to ignore all of your opportunities and only think about your problems.
Believe That Things Will Never Change: Seasons come and go, and if your heart aches, it will heal, and if you are going through trials, things will change. However, if you are striving to be miserable, you will have to ignore all of this...
Think About Yourself: Miserable people think about themselves constantly. They live in their own world. Happy people know that the key to being happy is making others smile. The world becomes a better place when people make a difference in the lives of others. Miserable people only think of others when they want to compare themselves to them, which leads to vanity or bitterness and of course, more misery.
The Gift Of Positive Thinking for all ages
How To Be Totally Miserable by John Bytheway, is the quickest and easiest way to utilize the power of positive thinking. This compact, light-weight 81-page book, is small enough to fit in your pocket so you can take it with you everywhere you go.
It's a perfect gift or token of appreciation for yourself or others in your life. Particularly, people who tend to take life's twists and turns to heart, from children who can read, to seniors.
In fact, showing children how feeling negative is silly is a great way to prepare them for their teenager years, and adulthood.
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You are amazing but you can't be amazing if your pouting and feeling sorry for yourself. When you're in that mood, or state of mind you're only hurting yourself.
If nothing else, it will put a smile on your face and when you're smiling (even if it's a fake smile) you can change your emotional state and reduce stress. So just image how much you'll help yourself understanding that what you're thinking is ridiculous and laughing while you're doing it.
The Gift That Keeps On Giving for ALL AGES
Penny For Your Thoughts?
How do you:
- Deal with life's stresses?
- Stay positive?
- Provide service to others?
- How did your parents teach you to deal with life's bumps?