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How To Create Wealth by Feeling Fortunate
If somebody told you there was a hoard of treasure under the floor in your bedroom you’d be tempted to take a look, wouldn’t you? And if you actually found a stash of gold coins I bet you would instantly feel better and instantly feel wealthier. But let’s think about this for a moment. Even before you’d had chance to cash in the gold coins and convert them to real currency and long before you’d had chance to buy that new house or new car with your new wealth, you would already have felt better and wealthier. You see, most of us tend to think that it’s having the new car or the new house which is going to make us feel better and feel richer, but the secret that we miss is this: it’s actually the thought “I am rich” that makes us feel rich. And we can choose our thoughts at any time.
We’ve all heard the phrase “you have to feel good to do good” but are you aware of how important it is to feel wealthy if you want to be wealthy? Whether we choose to call it manifesting abundance, wealth creation, making our fortune or some other phrase, the key element of drawing more wealth into our lives is this: like attracts like. If you feel poor then you are feeding a poverty mindset or poverty consciousness. If you feel wealthy you will be feeding an abundance mindset or abundance consciousness.
So the question we have to ask ourselves is this: “How can I feel rich when I actually feel poor?”
You are so lucky!
A few times in my life I’ve been told that I’m really lucky. Sometimes I didn’t mind this but at other times I resented it. I felt that if someone was saying I was lucky to have something that meant I didn’t deserve it, that I hadn’t earned it. Also I didn’t want to think that I was fortunate to have what I had because I felt that would stop me from developing the hunger and drive to make something of my life. If I just felt really fortunate for what I already have I thought that I would never have the motivation to achieve anything.
I used to live in Wiltshire in the UK which is a lovely area of the English countryside. A friend used to come a visit me there and every time she would come she would say how lucky I was to live there. I didn’t like to hear that because it made me feel a bit guilty because she was living somewhere she didn’t want to be. Also I didn’t see myself as being particularly lucky or fortunate. Yes I lived in a nice part of the country and could go for nice walks but what I tended to see was the fact that I lived in a flat (when I wanted to own a house), I was on my own (when I wanted to have a partner) and I had noisy neighbours (when I wanted peace and quiet). So quite often I was focused on what was lacking from my life rather than what was already abundant in it.
Another time when someone told me I was lucky I felt a whole lot different. We were playing pool. He really wanted to win and I didn’t care either way whether I won or lost, so every time it was my turn I would just belt the ball as hard as I could. More often than not one of my balls would go into the pocket or I would somehow leave him with an impossible shot. The more it happened the more he fumed and said I was “jammy” – and the more he did that the more I laughed and the more it kept happening. After losing a few games he gave up and went to do something else. The reason I’m telling you this is because I discovered a great secret from this: I became “lucky” because I didn’t care about the result. In other words I had no attachment to outcome. But even though I didn’t care who won or lost, I still put as much energy as I had into every shot. So on this occasion, instead of denying that I was lucky, I revelled in it and lapped it up.
True wealth is not about what you have: it’s about what you feel
At the time of writing this article we are living in a rented house in the Welsh countryside. There are no close neighbours, it’s very peaceful and we are very close to nature. It may sound idyllic but for the first few months after we moved here it seemed like we were far from fortunate. It seemed for a long while like it was just one thing after another and we were beginning to get worn down. It rains a lot here and it seemed like it rained nearly every day for 4 months. The house was cold and damp and we had a lot of problems with mould. My health started to go downhill and income was dropping. Life didn’t seem too good at all. But eventually life seemed to ease up on us a bit. My health improved, the sun came out a few times and the days began to get longer as we headed towards spring.
One day I got to wondering what it would be like if I became tuned in to all the good things in my life rather than all the bad things. What if I really was lucky? How would my life change if I really felt fortunate? And instead of just thinking about how fortunate I was, what about if I really felt it as well?
One morning I decided to give it a go. I got up and made myself a coffee. I love coffee and I’m so blessed to be able to make a cup of coffee in just a few minutes. As I was making the coffee I realised how amazing it is that I can flick a switch and have instant light. I can flick a switch and within minutes I have boiling water. Amazing! I took my cup of coffee and got back into bed. I slept well last night, I thought, and I have a really comfortable bed to sleep in. I’m really lucky to have that because a lot of people in the world don’t have those luxuries. I sat in bed drinking my coffee – but instead of drinking my coffee and not really being aware of drinking it (you know when you’re busy thinking about other things and the first you really notice of your coffee is when the cup is empty), this time I was really present while I was drinking it.
As I sat there I could hear birds singing outside and I knew that if I went outside I would be able to breathe fresh air. A lot of people live in very polluted parts of the world so I’m really lucky to be able to breathe clean, fresh air.
The more I focused on parts of my life that were fortunate, the better I felt. It occurred to me that finding something valuable that I’d forgotten I had was just as good, if not better than, receiving something valuable for the first time.
As I sit here writing this article I am occasionally looking out of the window and I have seen a robin, some great tits, some blackbirds, and I’ve even just spotted a heron coming out of the stream out the back. I’ve only just noticed that I had previously failed to notice that it was raining.
Now some people might think that all I’m doing is making myself feel better without actually changing my situation. Well you could look at it that way, but let’s try seeing it from a different perspective. I don’t actually care too much about having physical wealth – I just want to feel good. I want to feel empowered and expansive. I want to feel creative and to be able to help people. So in that sense, making myself feel better is a really good thing to do. If I tune in to all that is good I will be more motivated and more creative. Coming up with new ideas, helping people or solving problems can be very tricky when we are feeling depressed or full of self-pity. Also, if I did want to attract physical riches into my life, I know that starts with generating an abundance mindset. I need to tune in to riches in order to notice them and in order to draw more of them to me.
So, how can we apply this thinking to our lives? Simple. We make a commitment to setting aside time every day to remembering, and most importantly to feeling, how fortunate we are. If we set aside 10 minutes every morning and every night to feeling how rich we are and how many luxuries we have we can radically change our experience of life.
And if you’re feeling poor and don’t know where to start, here are a few suggestions: you have eyes to see and you learned how to read; you have a computer on which you are reading this; you have access to the Internet so you can find out just about anything you want to know; you have food, drink and shelter; and most of all you have free will which means you can choose right here and now to tune in to all that is good in your life. And when you do that you’ll realise how much better your life becomes.
Thanks for reading and be lucky.