- Death & Loss of Life
How To Deal With Death And Emotions Afterward
DEALING WITH DEATH
Dealing with death can be extremely difficult. Overcoming the death of a loved one is never easy. How do you deal with death? Death, we can never be prepared, we all face death. At some point in your life, you are going to lose someone close. And eventually, we will all face death. Although death always occurs, there are a variety of different things that you can do to better prepare yourself.
Losing a loved one is difficult and presents many challenges. Emotions after death can be difficult, so we'll teach you different methods and exercises to help you begin healing after death. We will teach you how to deal with all the emotions that you are feeling in a healthy manner. You will also learn about suicidal behaviors after a death, just in case you or a loved one may be experiencing such emotions. This article is very beneficial and a must read if you have recently lost a loved one.
EMOTIONS OF DEATH
Death is something we will all face in due time. No matter what we do, try, and say, death will one day become a part of our life. Death is a part of life that no one wants to consider or think about. All of us have faced the pain of death or one day will. For those of us that have, it can bring on a whirlwind of emotions. We really never fully understand how it will make us feel until it occurs. We have to be prepared because these emotions can be dangerous and have everlasting effects on a person.
There is no way anyone can know how you feel. Everyone takes death in their own way and emotions from a death usually depends on the significance of the relationship between the deceased and the survivors. When you are personally close to someone who has passed away, it can be very painful. You may have lost a mother or father, brother or sister, grandparents, a cousin, a close friends, or even possibly a child. For those who have lost a child or someone from death, the emotional pain can affect the survivor physically, emotionally, and mentally. It can lead to depression and even suicidal thoughts. No one on this Earth wants to bury their child, but it does happen. How can you ever deal with the death of your child? The only way you can is by grieving and coping with your loss, but it doesn't always work. Losing a child is probably the most painful event a person can go through due to death. This is the most serious of all classifications of death.
I just want to go over the emotions when a survivor deals with the death of a child and the emotions brought on by sudden death. In such cases, natural death is probably not reached and a high percentage of such cases are brought on by a sudden tragic event and death by disease. When it comes to losing someone by disease, it is usually seen coming and it can be prepared for. The same thing can be said about death by natural causes. But if it is a quick disease or a tragic event, it can bring sudden emotions all at once and it can alter your thought process. This is very dangerous. Let's look at what can occur during sudden death.
- Suicidal thoughts: When someone feels all these emotions at once, they can become suicidal instantly. They can be rushed with anger and act out. It is just like losing anything you love, you never get it back. When a survivor comes to this conclusion, they can be a danger to themselves. This mostly occurs with a loss of a child. People in such a mind set should not be alone. It is different if they are coping. When you deal with death, we all do it on our own terms, which may include being alone. This is perfectly normal, but if a person is showing the signs, they shouldn't be alone. Here is what to look for.
- Acting out in anger
- Acting out in unusual ways
- Talks about wanting to die
- Suicidal tendencies, such as cutting themselves
- Not wanting to grieve
- Demands isolation
We all deal with sudden death on our own terms. Some people can handle the entire situation better then others. There is nothing easy about death. Depending on the relationship with the victim, some deaths will be more painful and emotional. None the less, we have to learn how to deal with all the emotions that are brought on by the sudden loss of life. An import thing to remember is "what is done is done". There is nothing you can do to change what has happened. Nothing. What is done is done. At times of death, I believe it is crucial to surround ourselves with close family and friends. You shouldn't be along at a time like this. When we are along, we tend to think about things more. Although being alone is a form of self healing to an extent, surround yourself with those you love and those who love you.
Death can also lead to depression. When someone falls into a state of depression brought on by death, they can be a danger to themselves. When this occurs, the person will act out beyond their normal character. Although this can be a normal part of the grieving process, it is a sign of depression. This is another reason that they should be surrounded by close family and friends. Although they may be isolated, you should try talking to them. This is a healthy way to grieve and it is very important to any survivor, whether they would admit it or not at the time. Make sure you talk to them in a positive way because any negative actions can lead the person to become a danger to you and themselves.
Natural death and death by disease are two forms of death that are not suddenly brought on, but can bring dangerous emotions that can lead to depression and suicidal thoughts. One difference between these and sudden death is that you are usually prepared for these types of death. Even so, it can hurt just as bad or even more. In such events, you may have stronger attachments to the victims. Natural death occurs when a person's body shuts down because of the natural process of aging. If they are married, this usually means they have spent many years with their partner. Being apart from someone that has been there for many years can be damaging to someone's emotions. They may feel alone, confused, scared, or become isolated. It is hard spending so much time with someone and then suddenly, they are gone. Spending a lot of years together, you create a lot of memories that can race through your head as you try to think out decisions and grieve at the same time. You may have had a sick parent or grandparent that has had cancer or any disease in general. They may have been given so much time left and you were aware from it. These two types of death can have similar effects as sudden death.
As I said before, death effects us all differently. No matter how the death occurs, it still is painful and it still can lead to dangerous levels of emotions. These emotions can hit us all at once and we can make poor choices or do things we never would have imagined. It is crucial that we recognize when we feel like this and find our way to cope with the events of death. Here are some helpful tips on how you may be able to grieve in healthy ways.
- Looking at old photos
- Talking about them
- Recalling good memories
- Wearing their belongings
- Finding a legit medium
- Spending time with family and friends
- Discussing how you feel
The 5 Steps Of Depression
During the grieving process, it is important to do what is necessary to heal. One important thing to consider trying if your having trouble coping is getting away from your house. When you are first going through the grieving process, your house can easily remind you of the loss of life. If you are having a hard time dealing with this, try planning a vacation or try staying with family or friends. This is a natural occurrence to have because you have spent so many years of your life in that one area. When you are with someone for a long time, you build habits of doing things together. They can be specific items that remind you of them. If your having trouble coping, you may want to remove these items until the time is right. It will always be tough in the first days, weeks, and months. If you have continued troubles emotionally and mentally, you need to talk to a professional about the matter. It is normal to feel this way for a long duration. This includes any type of death. If you feel like your having trouble moving on, get the help you need. Here are some things that can be trigger points that cause continued grieving.
- Personal items
- Certain activities
- Certain friends
- Specific areas
- Special Events
These items, events, and special occasions can be constant reminders of what is going on. They can have continued effects on us all. Whenever you are coping with your loss, it may be best to remove this stuff from your home and life. Don't be afraid to put them up or out of the way for the time being. In due time, if you wish too, you can bring these things back in our life.
For most people, the funeral services are not a closing chapter. It always takes time to grieve after the loss of a loved one, family or friend.This is a normal behavior in the griveing process. But, if months and years has passed and you are still have issues, you really need to seek the help of an expert. Death can also lead to your own medical problems. The trauma of the loss of a loved one can cause more severe effects on our bodies, especially if we leave it left untreated. It can also cause physical problems such as heart issues or complications. Learning how to properly heal is the key to moving on in a healthy manner.
The import thing to remember is death is part of life. One day, you will face it yourself. When dealing with the loss of a loved one, make sure you surround yourself with close family and friends. Make sure you cope with death in a healthy manner. Feeling a wave of emotions during death is normal, but watch out for the warning signs. The grief process can take some time. Allow enough time to remember, grieve, and let go. Just because your letting go of a loved one doesn't mean that you don't love them. When we are coping, we tend to be more negative then positive.
This may be the first death that you went through or you may know someone else that is having trouble dealing with death. For whatever reason, you have to grief in a healthy manner. It is normal to cry, feel pain, be sad, feel anger, get mad, or even throw things around. This is all normal in the first steps of the entire process. We only worry when this behavior and emotions continue to show later on down the road. If this is the case, you are having trouble letting go. This is very unhealthy to you and you should seek professional help. There is nothing wrong with talking to a certified psychiatrist. Absolutely nothing. And again, this is if this type of behavior continues past the death.
Another type that I haven't touched on if accidental death. I am referring to the death that you may feel was caused by you. The most known cause of accidental death is by a car accident. Even though what I mentioned earlier still applies to you, this type of death brings a whole new level of emotions, which include guilt. You may or may not be at fault. But no matter what, listen closely. Mistakes happen. We all make mistakes and accidents happen. This is an event that can affect you for the rest of your life. I do not mean to be graphic, but maybe you took the life of their child. Can you imagine how someone would feel if this happened? What kind of emotional state their mind would be in? It can be devastating to someone's health. In such cases, it truly is best to see a professional to talk about this. This is such an event that is not easily forgotten about or managed.
If this is you and you are suffering, please get help. People can't even begin to imagine how you feel, Not only do you hold guilt to the child, you hold it to the family and you hold it to yourself. If you are not grieving in a positive way, it can affect you later down the road. This is another important reason why it is crucial to communicate. More then likely, the victim's family will never speak to you again. But take note, this is just a normal reaction when someone important is took away. In events such as this, anger and even aggression is seen. Make sure you give them their space. You may show your gratitude, but nothing further.
Perhaps, you have lost someone by a car accident. Many people have lost loved ones by a drunk driver. Even so, unfortunately, accidents do happen and the grieving process may never end. But in return, guilt doesn't heal the heart, neither does pain. It is acceptance and forgiveness that heals the heart. Even though it may be the hardest thing for you to do at the time, you should try to mend all broken fences.
It is very unhealthy to keep all these emotions gather up inside. Communication is still key in this area as well. If you are not sure about a decision, talk to someone about it and make healthy choices. Of course, you have the ultimate decision over your choices. A situation as this is very difficult to get over. The scars can last for a lifetime. If you or someone you know is experiencing this, find immediate help.
In closing, remember, we all deal with death differently. Some may talk to family, while others go to do sporting activities. The main concept is to get your mind off the obvious. In doing so, we can find what works best for us and apply it to our situation. I truly hope you have found this article useful and beneficial. I pray you are watched over in your time of loss. If you know someone in this situation, be there for them in a positive way.