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How To Feel Good and Increase Your Self-Worth
1. Accept compliments
A simple “thank you” is enough, whether you feel that the compliment is sincere or fake. Just enjoy the moment and feel good about yourself. Don’t downplay the compliment. When someone say, “Nice dress...” don’t reply with “Oh, this old thing? I didn’t want to wear this but I ran out of clean clothes.” Reply with a gracious “thank you” and go your way.
2. Give compliments
It is always better to give than to receive, even if it involves something as abstract as a compliment. Find something good in others. To really feel good, give sincere compliments. If you can’t find anything to compliment about, especially when you are looking at someone unattractive, there’s always the word “cute”.
3. Always speak well of yourself.
Never put yourself down in front of other people. Never say, “I did
not understand the report because I am so slow…” And be careful about
your self-talk. Self-talks are the things you say to yourself. They are very
important because what you say to yourself affects your conscious and
subconscious mind. When you look at yourself in the mirror, and you come face
to face with wrinkles, say under your breath: “I am young and looking good”.
4. Praise yourself
If you’ve done something good and no one is there to acknowledge it… praise yourself, give yourself a pat in the back for a job well done. “Good work, Self! You are doing great. You are an asset to this company.”
5. Disconnect self-worth from behavior
A bad behavior does not make you a bad person. You made a mistake… that mistake does not define you. Stop branding yourself by what you did wrong. Failing an exam does not make you stupid.
6. Treat your body well
It’s the only body you’ve got. If you don’t treat it well, no one will. Exercise and proper diet will go a long way for your well-being. Healthy body, healthy mind!
7. Enjoy pleasure without guilt
Pamper yourself with a spa treatment, go shopping, or watch a movie with a friend. You need to relax and spoil yourself once in a while. You deserve it.
8. Get around good people
You are known by the company you keep. We are susceptible to the influence of the people around us. Mix with critical people and we learn to criticize. Be with happy people and we learn to be happy. Be around messy people and we become messy. Negative people can make us negative while in the company of positive people, we become positive. We need to decide what we want to be and then choose the company we keep.
9. Show people how you expect to be treated
You are responsible for how the world treats you. Set an example by the way you treat yourself and the way you treat others. If you don’t like how you are being treated, if you are being pushed around… that means you allow people to push you around. First and foremost, respect yourself. Others respect you to the degree that you respect yourself. For the world to treat you well, you have to treat yourself well.
10. Use Affirmations
An affirmation is a positive thought that you repeat to yourself. Find affirmations which increase your self-worth. Here are good examples:
God loves me.
I am smart.
I am successful in whatever I do.
I am a good person.
I am an important person.
I feel good about myself.
I feel complete.
I rejoice in my abilities.
I have many talents.
I radiate love and happiness.
Repeating the affirmations out loud is better than saying them quietly because you also hear them at the same time. Say those affirmations as soon as you wake up in the morning and as you sleep at night. Say them at least three times a day. That will really get them into your subconscious.