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How To Forget Your Past And Learn To Live For Today

Updated on September 25, 2014

Live For Today

There are so many people in the world that would just love to forget their past and live for today, but for some odd reason many folks past haunt them each and everyday.

Here is what I learned on "how to forget your past and learn to live for today." As many of you know, I had a real alcohol problem for many years. So many people didn't even know of my addiction to alcohol, not even my close relatives.

Yep, I hid it well I would say, but deep down inside of me I felt so embarrassed of what type of life I was leading and that embarrassment still haunts me to this day. I feel bad inside from my past by what I did to so many people when I drank.

First off, and foremost, I made my parents worry about me for many years because they a son that they knew wasn't the son they knew. My parents didn't drink or smoke and they saw their son ruining his life all because I couldn't manage my drinking of alcohol.

I never knew when to stop and like I said they worried everyday of what my future would be if I continued to drink as I was.

Both of my parents have passed away and I only wish they could see me now being clean and sober for almost 5 years now. I am very sure they are proud of how I changed my life around and now living a live of sobriety. They are only 2 people that I hurt by me abusing alcohol and then it comes to my wife that stood by my side for many years in hope that I would finally see the light and get sober.

Although it took many years of my marriage to finally see that light, but she stayed by my side and it was worth our wild, because now that i am sober, our marriage is better than it was by a million percent.

I must not forget my sister and her concern of my health and well being as well. She spoke to me on many occasions regarding my alcohol abuse. She explained that I was killing my parents by letting them see what type of life I was leading, but with all those talks, it just didn't set in, and I continued to drink not caring about other people that loved and cared about me and feelings. These are some of the things that haunt me of my past and what I put these people that loved me through.

My Daughters Wedding

Here is my daughter and I dancing daddy's little girl. I am proud to say it was a sober wedding for me.
Here is my daughter and I dancing daddy's little girl. I am proud to say it was a sober wedding for me. | Source

My Children Tried To Stay Clear

My children tried to stay clear of me when I started to drink. They knew when I was at the point of being drunk, because after all they saw this every single night. I hurt them as well and deprived them of being a good Dad in many ways. Don't get me wrong, I was a good Dad, but not one to brag about. Their friends even gave me a nickname of "Stone Cold" which I never knew until a year or so after I became clean and sober.

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Putting Your Past Behind You

I have learned to put my past behind me and so should you. As hard as it was for many years after I became sober I needed to stop torturing myself with what I did and said in the past.

It is something I needed to work on and try my hardest to forget, even though every once and awhile those memories if my past to come to mind as I am sure yours does too.

We all need to look towards our future and make a great life for us and those in our life. I have worked so hard in doing just that.

The Beauty Of Life


How To Forget Your Past

Stop Dwelling On Your Past

In order to live a good life, and enjoy each and everyday, all of us need to stop dwelling on our past, and that certainly includes me.

Dwelling on our past that was not very good will just drive you insane as it did me for a few years. All I thought about once I got sober was how I hurt the very ones that loved and cared for me. The ones that stuck by my side though all the bad in my drinking days. That was the hardest thing for me to get over, but as time passed it did get easier once I told myself I am just hurting myself by thinking of my past.

We all need to move on and make a good life for ourselves and all the others that are in your life. Look towards your bright and enjoyable sober life as I do each and everyday.

© 2014 Mark Bruno


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      Joy56 3 years ago

      I am so enjoying your articles. You are a beautiful honest person...... You must be or why would your family have stuck by you. Keep writing I am sure to keep reading. Your words give hope and understanding. I find myself wondering how you came by this addiction. Do you even know yourself?

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Our past is often a barrier to moving on, but it can also be a motivator. I love your story and how you overcame the shadow of darkness. This is very inspirational for many readers.

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      Mark Bruno 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Bill thanks my friend. you are so right, it is always in the back of our minds but I try my hardest to erase all those bad years. Stay well my dear friend!!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I doubt we ever forget our past, but we do learn to make it work for us in sobriety. Good lesson here my friend.