- Mental Health
How To Overcome Shyness And Start Enjoying Your Life More!
Sometimes people inherit shyness and may think that they can never be extroverted or confident enough to have more social fun. This is not true! You can overcome pretty much anything in life and this is one of them- if you really want to!
What are some ways you can improve your social life? Let's start by talking about positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are phrases or words you come up with yourself in order to change the negative mentality you may have about yourself. Here are some examples:
- good at math
- open minded
- musically gifted
- beautiful (inside and out)
You can also say statements to yourself like:
- I like engaging in small talk
- Older people like me because I'm courteous
- My family appreciates me
- My friends love me
- Life is spontaneous when I'm around
- Jokes are a talent of mine
- Generosity is easy for me
Any statement that is true about you and uplifts you will work, especially if it makes you smile when you say it.
Remember to smile at people (using your eyes as well) when you greet them and to ask introspective questions. Get in the habit of making people feel special by asking questions about them that shows you are interested in them! :)
The above, of course, were some random statements and qualities. I notice, the more true and accurate they are pertaining to you, the better it will be, so for example, you could say;
I am intelligent, beautiful, kind, and thoughtful.
Those are four simple words. And they are compact and "pack a punch". How could you not feel good when you repeat that type of thing to yourself over and over?
And it's not to say you have to do it all day every day, unless that helps, but it certainly is one good idea.
You might also want to think of and remember some good times or fun things you've done in the past, and reunite with them. Think of it as a "reunion" with yourself and the fun you had in your childhood even. What kinds of fun things did you enjoy? In the picture above, I'm reminded of myself at age eight, when I was having fun trading stickers and playing games with my siblings and neighbors.
Sometimes we go thru dry spells or periods of sadness in life of loss that we need to be reminded that life can be fun!
So, make a list of the stuff you like to do as well. Number your paper from 1-10 and try to think of as many as up to 50 things. There's no limit numerically really.
Once you do that, you can start coming up with ideas of who and how you are going to start doing these fun things with.
Here are some examples of fun things you may want to start doing. A lot of them are free or low cost as well.
WALKING BOWLING NATURE WALKS KISSING BILLIARDS CHESS SWIMMING
ICE SKATING SKIING ENJOYING SUNSETS HIKING ART POETRY
CONVERSATIONS MOVIES DRAWING PAINTING SOFTBALL TENNIS
TABLE TENNIS COLORING SAND CASTLE MAKING SNOWMAN/SNOWFORT MAKING
PHONE CALLS WRITING LETTERS SINGING KAROKE VOLLEYBALL
BAR SOCIALIZING (YOU CAN DRINK SODA INSTEAD OF ALCOHOL TOO IF U WANT)
PUTT PUTT GOLF BEACH BAKING COOKING RUNNING VOLUNTEERING
And the good weather will soon be upon us (here in New England)!