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How to Raise a Perfect Inner Child
A Great Happiness in the Child
Take a Look at Yourself
Really. Many of us have children that we either raise well or not or maybe we are just neutral in that regard. But hold on here folks. You had better raise yourself first. Akin to learning how to love yourself before you can truly love others. And note that the word raise is quite special. Like raise you up! Now don’t even go to raisin as my son is fun to point out that I am brown and wrinkled like a raisin. How rude.
Check out two cool common notions of “raise”. Lift or move to a higher position or level.
Increase the amount, level, or strength of.
Aren’t those cool? What would happen if we could raise our childlike view of the world to a higher strength, to a higher position in our lives? Do not worry being more childlike does not mean we stick our heads in the sand or practice impractical behaviors. As the body has many parts that work together so do our minds and souls. And think of a family with 1.5 children (I hope that is just a statistic and that there are not ½ children running around ;-) They are one body. The child is at an elevated position in most cultures and healthy families. I mean who you going to elevate, yourself?
So let us tuck “raise up” into our back pocket and come back to it.
We cannot mature into an adult until we have been a child. That is just a natural fact. Children who spend a majority of their childhood in a mature parenting role need counseling. That is just another natural fact. And that counseling if worthy will work on that inner child and raise it up. Don’t look to me for an example. I work daily on suppressing my inner child because it is a spoiled brat that demands it’s way in everything. Youngest of six in a super duper loving family. If I was more loved as a child I would have exploded. And then I have helped raise 8 children in different stages for all of them, and they have taught me so much about being a child. Probably one drawback in my raising; I never quite grasped that foreign notion of responsibility. I don’t worry there is time enough for that.
As I took my 200 yard walk just now it hit me that in my life something was a bit strange. At about six I did not want to grow up. And the same until, well until I grew up. Childhood is awesome.
Just a Great Song.
Rock On Children
What Does It Mean
What the heck is an inner child? Yes yes yes it is a pop culture pseudo psychological label stemming from that strange duck Carl Gustav Jung. Strange in life but completely brilliant in ideas of human thought. Truly the father of modern psychology/psychiatry. (just as an aside for writers and philosophers; he is the one who figured that certain words carry triggers for certain people as a matter of conscious and subconscious thought. So when you say Trump in a sentence it will get that kind of reaction) But remember this is about the inner child. So take that notion and apply it to you. “Cooked vegetables” gets a negative reaction from my eight year old. Ice cream gets a positive. Don’t worry we both love fresh veggies of all kinds. So let us call the “inner child” a skeleton. It is up to your adult mind to fill in the flesh and bones and the heart and soul of that skeleton. No way can our perceptions of today be the same as they were when we were five, a lot has changed.
So this work into this area has to do with you. You really can rewrite you script at any time you choose. Think of the cancer patient who takes on life with more vigor and excitement. Compare that to the morose depressed cancer patient. I had a great childhood and remain a jerk, you are kind and caring and had a terrible childhood. What we choose now is often the result of how we frame our child within and from the past. Isn’t it awesome to consider that we can be basically happy or sad.
There is a fellow who is very very close to me who has Bi-Polar disorder (or disease I suppose) He has the symptoms of inability to motivate, concentrate and basically get things done. On the manic side he is a whirling devil of a fellow. He treats it and does just fine but the disease is still there. But he does a strange thing. When he just cannot get out of PJs and chair he goes with it. The dude does not suffer. He used to fret and worry and feel worthless. But then he got over it. It is what it is and he no longer suffers from the problem. In fact he is a danged fine writer.
Oh Yes Baby!
Who Is The Child?
So once again the long way around to get to the good stuff. Is it wrong to dork around? Is it wrong to just kick it with your pards or BFFs? One could venture that we think it is. It is not productive and responsible to all the “things” that must be done. One of my favorite self-absorption things to do is meditate. On first blush it does nobody no good. But I do not think you could find a learned person on the planet who would actually say it is not really good for you. I like Christians who meditate on “The Word”. Of course Native American style is awesome. And we all know the iconoclastic Buddha picture in full Lotus.
Meditation is unproductive time that makes us more agreeable to live with, heightens our senses, improves our oxygen intake and is a huge boost to thought process and productivity. (don’t do like me and stay in la la land all day ;-) So in fact that time spent is super duper productive.
One of my finest meditations and being mindful is soccer with my young one. Concentrating on playing with my son is like the concentrating on your breathing for meditation.
Playing around in the woods is another of my favorite “unproductive” deals. “Road Trip” anyone? We also play a lot of games on our serious mom/spouse. How the heck can kick ball and hide and seek be fun for a 60 year old. How about painting and crafts. I am horrible at them, so the pressure is off and the fun is on. I really like story time. I seek out oldsters and make them tell me stories. Ms. Wendall 89 next door is great.
Are you getting the inner child gig here? Really you can go to a marvelous therapist and a great psychiatrist for medicine to get in touch with your inner child. But I am cheap, I want a self-help, “how to” YouTube clip. Well not that far. I would go for best fart noise sound judged by how much you make the other laugh.
Through a lot of research we found this It is an unassailable truth, not just a theory. The very best way to get in touch or back in touch with your inner child is to become one. Just a few minutes a day at first and be careful it can be addictive.
Once you let loose of how important you are an adult and just have fun, well that child is waiting for you like a mom with open arms. You never lost him, you just forgot how to play with him.