How To Spot Anxiety Symptoms Or Social Anxiety In Teens
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Our teens are a tough time to go through, you're not a kid anymore and yet you're not quite an adult yet. You're teens are the best time of your life, you're still in school with your friends and you're not in the real world just yet. There's a lot of social pressure when you're in your teens and this what can turn your life in to a total misery or if you overcome your insecurities and you become popular, you can have many good memories to remember. I've written this hub for parents out there who may be concerned that their teens are suffering from anxiety and what they can do to help. Anxiety can taunt you for years until you decide to overcome it, a lot of anxiety can occur when we're teens so if you can nip it in the bud you or your kids can have a lot more confidence.
I myself suffered from social anxiety in my teens. I was popular and confident as a kid but when my parents separated just before my teens my life changed. I didn't feel like I fitted in anymore I went from being a confident kid to nervous wreck in social situations. This time certainly moulded me and I wouldn't say it did me any harm, I grew up quickly.
Anxiety is something we create in our minds, we can relate a certain past experience that was bad to a current situation. Our mind then learns that situation and then lets us know about it every time that situation is about to occur. For example if you had to stand up in class once and everybody laughed at you, you would then create a negative emotional trigger to that situation. If you got asked to stand up in class again you would naturally re run that past experience. Anxiety should be dealt with as soon as possible as anxiety can turn in to other health problems, like Agoraphobia or depression.
Signs of anxiety in teens.
Getting Embarrassed easily.
Nervous in social surroundings.
Hiding away. (never leaving their room)
So what can you do to help your child overcome their anxiety?
If your child is going red or is constantly getting embarrassed, is there anything your doing that is causing it or not helping it? I remember my mum always trying to embarrass me when she introduced me to people. I think this was her own nervousness. You should praise your kids in social situations, not in a traditional embarrassing mum and dad way but more subtle like talking about something they're good and being proud.
Are you passing your own worries on to your kids? Are you passing on your own negative beliefs as well, telling them they can't do this they can't do that, they' can't afford this or that. By voicing your own negative beliefs on to your children can have a damaging impact. Bite your tongue the next time your run your kid down or mock them, If your own parents run you down how do you think they'll see other perceiving them?
Encourage what they do. Try and find out what they enjoy and do something with them. A lot of teens like football or music why not take them to a game or gig. You could pay for them to go with a friend. You'll be suprised how much this will help. They'll meet new people, they'll have something to talk about with their friends and they'll also have the desire to try and go again. They'll have a new found respect for you, they maybe even start helping out to earn extra money or they may even go get a part time job. You need to encourage this in a positive way.
Listen. My mum had her own worries when trying to bring me and brother up on her own and because of this she didn't have time to listen to us. My mum gave me and my brother everything she could but the struggle of paying bills meant that she constantly inforced her negative beliefs. You may have no interest or even understand what your kids are talking about but by showing an interest and listening can be a big confidence booster for them.
Have you ever said you'll never be like your mother but then you find yourself saying the same things she said? Your teens are a very short window of your life. By building your kids confidence and constantly giving them positive experiences they'll find it easier to get on out in the big wide world.