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How We Got Brainwashed into Our Limitations
With an Acquired Appetite for Lies
"A lie repeated enough times becomes truth".
After you heard this for the first time, how far did you go with examining its truthfulness? If you were like the most people, you probably didn't go much further than political and media lying, which has become a household truism.
But, what if I had a nerve to suggest that much of what you know about those important tenets of life learning---like happiness, love, health, aging---is a lie that you have heard "enough times for it to have become truth"?
They say that our first seven years of life are the most impressionable time of our life, and then we are just bound to keep finding proofs for what we have learned about ourselves and the world. While it may be the most important time, what they don't tell us is that we keep sponging in others' questionable "wisdom" throughout our life---simply because we developed suggestibility in those seven years which has stayed with us.
So, in a metaphorical sense, we are mentally still in diapers, and not able to get rid of our "mental waste", but even deriving some warmth from it---stinky or not. That mental waste is our wrongly digested human reality, a mental food prepared for us by some fake chefs who used some old and intoxicating recipes which no one ever bothered examining.
On the outside of metaphors, we are brainwashed, and, as we are about to see---some of you maybe for the first time---that brainwashing actually started with our genetic inheritance.
Our Deceiving Genes
The experts of all "denominations", from those in labs to those "armchair doctors" will readily tell you how we are genetically predisposed to certain medical conditions. While it may, or may not be exactly so---in the light of new cellular biology---no one bothers assuming that we also inherit certain personality traits.
I am talking about something like temperament, proneness to depression, anxiety, shyness, cheerful spirit, stubbornness, selfishness, promiscuity, et cetera. I have seen that "running in families" just like I have seen an allergy inherited from an aunt.
Well, those are only genetic predispositions, physical or mental, and according to the new biology we can override both by our mind-styles and life-styles. We are not stuck there, but yes---we certainly feel so after buying the story about our genetics, and many of us are blindly fulfilling that false prophecy. "I can't help it, both my mom and my grandfather are prone to allergies".
While we are at allergies as an example, let's remember those cases of multiple personalities, where one of them was severely allergic to citrus fruits, and another could have all oranges she wanted without a reaction. I'll let you think about it---how could just a shift of personality traits--- within the same body---result with an opposite reaction to a food?
So, here we have the first portion of our truth about our being brainwashed---sometimes used in the adage: "Apple doesn't fall far from tree". Or: "Like mother---like daughter".
Sickness and Aging Starts in Mind
However, let us not jump the gun to blame our parents for not preparing us better for life with some more encouraging life-truisms. The fact is that they were probably just as brainwashed as we are, so they didn't know any better.
But, yes, it certainly would have helped a lot if they had given us a better head start in our future defying and debunking all those crappy social indoctrinations about our "fragile health", about our "happiness that had to be deserved first", about "self-love being a sign of selfishness", about "giving our life for our country"...etc.
I find it hard to pick the biggest of all those lies to elaborate on, but let's take our aging for an example. The modern medical scientists are scratching behind ear in confusion over the evidence suggesting that our bodies should hardly age at all.
Body is such a perfect mechanism taking care of itself, recharging its energy batteries, healing and maintaining itself, and all in all---it must be something in our mind-styles and life-styles that makes us age.
Our beliefs about our bodies have been suggested as a very likely culprit, along, of course, with our tremendous passion to complicate our lives and create stressful responsiveness to life. Now, where did we pick up the idea about our "fragile health"? O.K., from our parents, but where did they get it?
Just look at it logically. If you spent some 10 years in medical schooling, struggled to pay off the tuition loan, and finally got yourself a cozy place in the medical community---would you like the idea of a magic pill or a treatment being invented, or an eye-opening truism to become a common knowledge that would eradicate all human ails? Be honest about it.
And once when your practice has become a profitable "business", how do you do your advertising for your services? Remember the Number One rule of advertisement---accentuate the "need", a "lack", even a "danger", and present yourself as the solution. Ask any politician about this Rule, but don't expect an answer, because he is another in the club of the brainwashers.
So, that's the explanation I see as true behind our aging and sicknesses---our buying the idea about our fragile body constitution. In recent years science has been after so called "god-gene" in our genome. I believe it exists, and when activated---by our advantage of consciousness over animals---it directs the body towards a robust health and an enviable longevity.
If you don't believe me, think of those smokers and drinkers who outlived those health-nuts who are living by the book. Isn't something spooky at work there? How about re-thinking about our real level of vitality available---when we de-hypnotize ourselves from the medical indoctrination?
Happiness Is a State of Mind
The question of happiness could equally show us how brainwashed we are. In this materialistically-oriented paradigm prevailing in our culture, we have to somehow "deserve" to be happy, by amassing enough possessions, by achievements, and a status in society. Plainly, we got duped to a point of oftentimes identifying ourselves with our possessions.
Then, as we get accustomed to what we have, be it even riches or fame, it becomes a habit, something we are taking for granted---and then we face that brute reality that nothing of that is making us any happier. As a matter of fact, we may go nostalgic about those times when everything used to be just a dream.
Yes, it was dreaming that made us happy. In other words, happiness is simply a state of mind. Don't let me get carried away now with these philosophies, but all life is actually just a state of mind. Happiness is not something to be either deserved or to struggle for---it's that feeling of "feeling at home" in our own skin, loving ourselves and loving our life. Unconditionally.
People confuse happiness with excitement. If excitement was equal to happiness, then a depressed dude would find his happiness by getting laid. People seek all kinds of excitements to "find happiness", because that's what the cultural indoctrination is telling them to do.
And then after a party is over, and a new car became just a habit, and a new girlfriend is nothing to fight for anymore, and a new house has become just an expensive living space...happiness is still just a dream of so many.
We can change our intellectual beliefs and preferences, but not so easily those beliefs deeply ingrained into our hearts. So, we can convert from a Catholic to a Buddhist, or from a Democrat to a Republican, but how can we drop our craving for more possessions---even after we know that those possessions are not one bit a ticket to our happiness.
It's not easy to snap out of materialistic indoctrination. If it was, this world would look so different.
Re-Thinking about Love
Let's see how wrong we are about love---again, thanks to our cultural brainwashing. We don't seem to know the most basic thing about loving, which is---surprise!---love is not altruistic. In all deep honesty, we would not help a blind dude across the busy street if that act didn't give US that noble feeling of being helpful.
It's only our actions that turn out to be "altruistic", beneficial to others, but at the basis of it is always our emotional self-gratification. We are absolute idiots when we want our sweetheart to "make us happy" with their loving. Others can't give us something that we are denying to ourselves.
Others love us because that loving makes them feel good. When you fall in love, you inspire yourself with that person's psycho-physical qualities which arouse those feelings of being attracted. So, there is something mutual, a chemistry created between you.
It's divine and beautiful and no poet has yet found those right words to describe love---but that "giving" in love is not real in the way we think. Again, we give because that giving makes us feel good, not primarily having the "interests" of the recipient in mind. Even those martyrs who "sacrifice" for the well-being of others simply can't do it if they don't get an emotional payoff out of it.
So, stepping into a relationship without a self-love and self-respect---and expecting that the other person's duty it is to keep giving it to us in the name of love---is a pathetic self-deceiving. Just like with money, we can only "give" of what we have, and love is not an exception.
We first have to have love cultivated in our heart---love for self, love for life, love for people---so that we can feel that need to do all those nice things to-and-for the person we love. Love is not possessive. My wife of more than half a century is only "officially mine", but she is her own human being. Our wedding is not "obligating" her to be with me, it's her choice.
I know. all this may sound a sort of strange to you, because you are not used to viewing love from a "selfish" perspective like this. But when you go deeper into it, it's not selfish at all. First of all it's honest, because it places full responsibility for loving in our own lap, without burdening our loved one with obligation to "please" our expectations.
And second of all---it liberates us from a brainwashing of a false belief which weakens us emotionally and spiritually, while making us some sort of emotional beggars. We are the ones doing our loving, and if we stopped, let's not find something wrong about the other person.
Of course, unless the person stops being lovable.
Self-Love, an Antidote to Brainwashing
The theme of our being culturally brainwashed could fill up a book, and I believe there are many books that may be about it, even if under some other titles and calling it something different. When I talk about our need for self-love, I think of it as our best tool for liberating ourselves from the grip of multiple social brainwashing.
Brainwashing is limiting us, while self-love is giving us wings. Of course I am not talking about an egotistic, narcissistic kind of self-love, but a rational one, which is also our basic biological need. Every cell in our body is constantly watching that important parameter--- self-love--- which is setting up our cellular level of vitality.
You may skip your doctor's appointment and your vitamins---so to speak---but don't lower the intensity of that warm feeling of loving that life in you, trusting your body that it can heal itself, respecting who you are as a human being.
This feeling of "good" self-love is opposite to that feeling of being a victim, being unloved, being dependent on every crappy event out there, from weather to political mess. Remember, brainwashers want us weak, angry, scared, insecure, depressed, and alike---because that's what makes us easier to manipulate.
Why did parents invent "boogieman who will get you if you don't behave"? Why there is a devil with a whole bunch of demons after your religious ass if you don't follow the Word? Why there is a whole bunch of perils about to befall you if you support that "other" political leader?
Why there is a hell of many sicknesses and conditions that will crush you if you don't have your regular checkups and refuse to take those damn chemicals? And why your chemical imbalances will make devastating your sensitivities to polluted water, food, and air---if you don't take all those dietary supplements and follow a strict dietary regimen?
Can you see the same pattern of playing on your fears?
So, why not start loving yourself more as an antidote to all that hypnotic crap? I did---and it feels great.