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How We Got Brainwashed into Our Limitations

Updated on June 26, 2017
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Val is a life-long student of the psycho-philosophy of living, and a devoted practitioner of many techniques enhancing personal evolution.

It May Be a Good Idea to Get Back to This Intersection and Choose Again
It May Be a Good Idea to Get Back to This Intersection and Choose Again

With an Acquired Appetite for Lies

"A lie repeated enough times becomes truth".

After you heard this for the first time, how far did you go with examining its truthfulness? If you were like the most people, you probably didn't go much further than political and media lying, which has become a household truism.

But, what if I had a nerve to suggest that much of what you know about those important tenets of life learning---like happiness, love, health, aging---is a lie that you have heard "enough times for it to have become truth"?

They say that our first seven years of life are the most impressionable time of our life, and then we are just bound to keep finding proofs for what we have learned about ourselves and the world. While it may be the most important time, what they don't tell us is that we keep sponging in others' questionable "wisdom" throughout our life---simply because we developed suggestibility in those seven years which has stayed with us.

So, in a metaphorical sense, we are mentally still in diapers, and not able to get rid of our "mental waste", but even deriving some warmth from it---stinky or not. That mental waste is our wrongly digested human reality, a mental food prepared for us by some fake chefs who used some old and intoxicating recipes which no one ever bothered examining.

On the outside of metaphors, we are brainwashed, and, as we are about to see---some of you maybe for the first time---that brainwashing actually started with our genetic inheritance.

"Like Mother-Like Daughter" Sometimes Is Taken Too Far.
"Like Mother-Like Daughter" Sometimes Is Taken Too Far.

Our Deceiving Genes

The experts of all "denominations", from those in labs to those "armchair doctors" will readily tell you how we are genetically predisposed to certain medical conditions. While it may, or may not be exactly so---in the light of new cellular biology---no one bothers assuming that we also inherit certain personality traits.

I am talking about something like temperament, proneness to depression, anxiety, shyness, cheerful spirit, stubbornness, selfishness, promiscuity, et cetera. I have seen that "running in families" just like I have seen an allergy inherited from an aunt.

Well, those are only genetic predispositions, physical or mental, and according to the new biology we can override both by our mind-styles and life-styles. We are not stuck there, but yes---we certainly feel so after buying the story about our genetics, and many of us are blindly fulfilling that false prophecy. "I can't help it, both my mom and my grandfather are prone to allergies".

While we are at allergies as an example, let's remember those cases of multiple personalities, where one of them was severely allergic to citrus fruits, and another could have all oranges she wanted without a reaction. I'll let you think about it---how could just a shift of personality traits--- within the same body---result with an opposite reaction to a food?

So, here we have the first portion of our truth about our being brainwashed---sometimes used in the adage: "Apple doesn't fall far from tree". Or: "Like mother---like daughter".

Our Truth Is in Our Hands
Our Truth Is in Our Hands

Sickness and Aging Starts in Mind

However, let us not jump the gun to blame our parents for not preparing us better for life with some more encouraging life-truisms. The fact is that they were probably just as brainwashed as we are, so they didn't know any better.

But, yes, it certainly would have helped a lot if they had given us a better head start in our future defying and debunking all those crappy social indoctrinations about our "fragile health", about our "happiness that had to be deserved first", about "self-love being a sign of selfishness", about "giving our life for our country"...etc.

I find it hard to pick the biggest of all those lies to elaborate on, but let's take our aging for an example. The modern medical scientists are scratching behind ear in confusion over the evidence suggesting that our bodies should hardly age at all.

Body is such a perfect mechanism taking care of itself, recharging its energy batteries, healing and maintaining itself, and all in all---it must be something in our mind-styles and life-styles that makes us age.

Our beliefs about our bodies have been suggested as a very likely culprit, along, of course, with our tremendous passion to complicate our lives and create stressful responsiveness to life. Now, where did we pick up the idea about our "fragile health"? O.K., from our parents, but where did they get it?

Just look at it logically. If you spent some 10 years in medical schooling, struggled to pay off the tuition loan, and finally got yourself a cozy place in the medical community---would you like the idea of a magic pill or a treatment being invented, or an eye-opening truism to become a common knowledge that would eradicate all human ails? Be honest about it.

And once when your practice has become a profitable "business", how do you do your advertising for your services? Remember the Number One rule of advertisement---accentuate the "need", a "lack", even a "danger", and present yourself as the solution. Ask any politician about this Rule, but don't expect an answer, because he is another in the club of the brainwashers.

So, that's the explanation I see as true behind our aging and sicknesses---our buying the idea about our fragile body constitution. In recent years science has been after so called "god-gene" in our genome. I believe it exists, and when activated---by our advantage of consciousness over animals---it directs the body towards a robust health and an enviable longevity.

If you don't believe me, think of those smokers and drinkers who outlived those health-nuts who are living by the book. Isn't something spooky at work there? How about re-thinking about our real level of vitality available---when we de-hypnotize ourselves from the medical indoctrination?

While True Happiness Can't Be Easily Defined, It Certainly Has Nothing to Do with "Deserving".
While True Happiness Can't Be Easily Defined, It Certainly Has Nothing to Do with "Deserving".

Happiness Is a State of Mind

The question of happiness could equally show us how brainwashed we are. In this materialistically-oriented paradigm prevailing in our culture, we have to somehow "deserve" to be happy, by amassing enough possessions, by achievements, and a status in society. Plainly, we got duped to a point of oftentimes identifying ourselves with our possessions.

Then, as we get accustomed to what we have, be it even riches or fame, it becomes a habit, something we are taking for granted---and then we face that brute reality that nothing of that is making us any happier. As a matter of fact, we may go nostalgic about those times when everything used to be just a dream.

Yes, it was dreaming that made us happy. In other words, happiness is simply a state of mind. Don't let me get carried away now with these philosophies, but all life is actually just a state of mind. Happiness is not something to be either deserved or to struggle for---it's that feeling of "feeling at home" in our own skin, loving ourselves and loving our life. Unconditionally.

People confuse happiness with excitement. If excitement was equal to happiness, then a depressed dude would find his happiness by getting laid. People seek all kinds of excitements to "find happiness", because that's what the cultural indoctrination is telling them to do.

And then after a party is over, and a new car became just a habit, and a new girlfriend is nothing to fight for anymore, and a new house has become just an expensive living space...happiness is still just a dream of so many.

We can change our intellectual beliefs and preferences, but not so easily those beliefs deeply ingrained into our hearts. So, we can convert from a Catholic to a Buddhist, or from a Democrat to a Republican, but how can we drop our craving for more possessions---even after we know that those possessions are not one bit a ticket to our happiness.

It's not easy to snap out of materialistic indoctrination. If it was, this world would look so different.

Magic of Love Is in Having It for Ourselves Before We Can Experience It for Others.
Magic of Love Is in Having It for Ourselves Before We Can Experience It for Others.

Re-Thinking about Love

Let's see how wrong we are about love---again, thanks to our cultural brainwashing. We don't seem to know the most basic thing about loving, which is---surprise!---love is not altruistic. In all deep honesty, we would not help a blind dude across the busy street if that act didn't give US that noble feeling of being helpful.

It's only our actions that turn out to be "altruistic", beneficial to others, but at the basis of it is always our emotional self-gratification. We are absolute idiots when we want our sweetheart to "make us happy" with their loving. Others can't give us something that we are denying to ourselves.

Others love us because that loving makes them feel good. When you fall in love, you inspire yourself with that person's psycho-physical qualities which arouse those feelings of being attracted. So, there is something mutual, a chemistry created between you.

It's divine and beautiful and no poet has yet found those right words to describe love---but that "giving" in love is not real in the way we think. Again, we give because that giving makes us feel good, not primarily having the "interests" of the recipient in mind. Even those martyrs who "sacrifice" for the well-being of others simply can't do it if they don't get an emotional payoff out of it.

So, stepping into a relationship without a self-love and self-respect---and expecting that the other person's duty it is to keep giving it to us in the name of love---is a pathetic self-deceiving. Just like with money, we can only "give" of what we have, and love is not an exception.

We first have to have love cultivated in our heart---love for self, love for life, love for people---so that we can feel that need to do all those nice things to-and-for the person we love. Love is not possessive. My wife of more than half a century is only "officially mine", but she is her own human being. Our wedding is not "obligating" her to be with me, it's her choice.

I know. all this may sound a sort of strange to you, because you are not used to viewing love from a "selfish" perspective like this. But when you go deeper into it, it's not selfish at all. First of all it's honest, because it places full responsibility for loving in our own lap, without burdening our loved one with obligation to "please" our expectations.

And second of all---it liberates us from a brainwashing of a false belief which weakens us emotionally and spiritually, while making us some sort of emotional beggars. We are the ones doing our loving, and if we stopped, let's not find something wrong about the other person.

Of course, unless the person stops being lovable.

Celebrating Ourselves, Our Body, Our Life---Sets Us Free from Hypnotic Slavery
Celebrating Ourselves, Our Body, Our Life---Sets Us Free from Hypnotic Slavery

Self-Love, an Antidote to Brainwashing

The theme of our being culturally brainwashed could fill up a book, and I believe there are many books that may be about it, even if under some other titles and calling it something different. When I talk about our need for self-love, I think of it as our best tool for liberating ourselves from the grip of multiple social brainwashing.

Brainwashing is limiting us, while self-love is giving us wings. Of course I am not talking about an egotistic, narcissistic kind of self-love, but a rational one, which is also our basic biological need. Every cell in our body is constantly watching that important parameter--- self-love--- which is setting up our cellular level of vitality.

You may skip your doctor's appointment and your vitamins---so to speak---but don't lower the intensity of that warm feeling of loving that life in you, trusting your body that it can heal itself, respecting who you are as a human being.

This feeling of "good" self-love is opposite to that feeling of being a victim, being unloved, being dependent on every crappy event out there, from weather to political mess. Remember, brainwashers want us weak, angry, scared, insecure, depressed, and alike---because that's what makes us easier to manipulate.

Why did parents invent "boogieman who will get you if you don't behave"? Why there is a devil with a whole bunch of demons after your religious ass if you don't follow the Word? Why there is a whole bunch of perils about to befall you if you support that "other" political leader?

Why there is a hell of many sicknesses and conditions that will crush you if you don't have your regular checkups and refuse to take those damn chemicals? And why your chemical imbalances will make devastating your sensitivities to polluted water, food, and air---if you don't take all those dietary supplements and follow a strict dietary regimen?

Can you see the same pattern of playing on your fears?

So, why not start loving yourself more as an antidote to all that hypnotic crap? I did---and it feels great.

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      Arthur Russ 4 months ago from England

      Hi Mizbejabbers, I just found this video on YouTube of Sir Richard Branson, a self-made British multi-billionaire, who according to the latest ‘Forbes Profile’ for 2017 is now the 7th richest person in the UK and the 324th richest in the world.

      Sir Richard Branson has built up an empire of over 400 companies, many of which have a profound effect on the daily lives of millions of ordinary UK citizens. You might like to listen to his very British views on ‘work culture’ and ‘flexibility working’ in this short video: https://youtu.be/V67nDvfNQV0

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      Arthur Russ 4 months ago from England

      Hi Mizbejabbers, when you get credited at half the rate for working from home does it mean the hours you work or the pay you get per hour? In the UK you get paid for the hours you work at the same pay rate as you would if you were in the office.

      In the UK there are two basic types of flexible working:-

      • Flexible working hours, and

      • Working from home.

      Often for homeworking the two are combined so that as well as working from home you can also decide which hours to work.

      The flexi system where I worked (before I took early retirement) allowed me to put in extra hours during the month and then take that credit time off as flexi leave, up to a maximum of three days flexi leave per month. I found this extremely useful in that I could put in the extra hours during the month to build up flexi leave to use throughout the year as short breaks, instead of annual leave. This then saved me having to use any of my six weeks annual leave for odd days off, so that I could then use the whole of it for several long breaks during the summer for holidays and DIY projects at home.

      You might find this video interesting, of two large UK companies (one in retail and one in manufacturing) who explain how they utilise flexible working in their organisations to benefit both employer and employee: https://youtu.be/2Qs0EL6JWD0

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Mizbejabbers---It was our friend Arthur from England who provided that link, and you guys are welcome to exchange your comments here.

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      MizBejabbers 4 months ago

      Thanks for the link to the video, Vlad. If a person's productivity can be monitored, this is a great idea. My son works for the IRS, and he works from his home office four days a week and in office one day a week. My work could be done from home, but when we work from home we get credited at half the rate. When my computer died years ago, I didn't have the program restored to my new computer. Their loss, not mine.

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      Arthur Russ 4 months ago from England

      Thanks Vladimir for your very astute reply.

      Your belief in a universal intelligence involving quantum physics and consciousness as a co-player in equation of mass, energy, speed, space and time, has caught my attention. Quantum physics is one of my long standing pet ‘hobbies’ (interest); and what you refer to is touched on in one of my favourite reads: ‘Other Worlds, Space, Superspace and the Quantum Universe’ by Paul Davies. It’s a point which has been raised a few times on some of the science documentaries on British TV.

      I also find the superficial link between this aspect of quantum physics and certain elements of Buddhism quite fascinating.

      In my study of quantum physics (as a hobby) I was quite privileged years ago when (where we previously lived) the young lad next door gave me all his old text books, after he passed his degree in quantum physics at university; so I had lots of new reading material which kept me busy for a while.

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      Arthur Russ 4 months ago from England

      Thanks Mizbejabbers for your feedback. For most of my working life (before I took early retirement) I had flexible working hours which was a great boom in balancing my home and social life with my work life. Even more so when in the last ten years homeworking was also an option; so I was working from home three days a week and nipping into the office just for a couple of days.

      I don’t know how popular flexible working and homeworking is in America, but in Europe it’s now well engrained into our culture. You might find this video below of interest (made when Britain was still recovering from the 2008 recession): -

      https://youtu.be/9HbUli5M4is

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Arthur---Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, and generalizing within any ethnicity tends to swallow them as non-existent. Being a Croatian immigrant in Canada I will always be primarily a European, and my dual citizenship hasn't made me a materialistically minded freak---"typically" of this continent all the way down to the Rio Grande.

      Just like not "everyone" in Britain is cherishing those values which are typical of Europe---after all, Britain didn't become an Empire by all folks minding their own business and living peaceful family lives, not caring about the "god-money".

      As for Canada, I don't know how much it's true or not, but an American standup comedian addressing Canadian audience once said: "We are the same nation with you guys---except that you've got something like "culture". I don't take pride in waving any flags, so to me it was just another thing to laugh about---not to assess it as true or not.

      I got your story about your own apparent "limitations" which evidently turned out being blessings---I mean that "slow learning". Again, those "fast learners" had no real advantage over you, depending on "how far"---not "how fast" they were learning.

      In matters of religion, I believe in universal intelligence which has nothing to do with any of the organized religions. Mine involves quantum physics and consciousness as the neglected co-player in the equation of mass, energy, speed, space, and time.

      I am glad you gave such a lengthy and interesting comment to my article finding it interesting. And I greatly appreciate your kind praise. All the best to you, Arthur. - Val

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      MizBejabbers 4 months ago

      Thanks, Vlad. I consider you a real friend.

      Oh, just gotta respond to Arthur. I think he is on to something. The United States was built on capitalism, which in its own way is just as brainwashing as communism, fascism or theism. We working Americans work ourselves into poor health. Long hours and few vacations that we spend the next several years paying for take their toll.

      @ Paula, girlfriend you mentioned Maya Angelou, now there was a real Earth Angel. I'm proud to say that her family lived in my state and she lived here long enough that we try to claim her.

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      Arthur Russ 4 months ago from England

      Yep, Vladimir, you’ve certainly have ‘hit the nail on the head’; I read every word you wrote, and fully agree with almost all you say. It certainly is a brilliant and well expressed article.

      Although. I must be the ‘exception that proves the rule’.

      I was a slow developer (in learning), so much so that I didn’t start speaking until I was almost six, and I was illiterate until the age of 10; after which everything clicked into place. Once I started to read and write I soon caught up with and overtook most of my school colleagues, and six years later left school with enough good qualifications to enable me to get a good government job for the rest of my working life.

      I wasn’t slow in learning in the formative years because of being dumb, or due to bad schooling; I just found that at such a young age my mind was being bombarded with a wealth of information far faster than it could be processed. I struggled to learn because of not being able to see the trees for the woods. My problem being that I couldn’t just accept things at face value (I don’t know why), but my subconscious mind wanted to analyse and rationalise everything; and the new information coming in was just too overwhelming for me to do that.

      The first major breakthrough was a specific moment early one Sunday evening, when I was six. On that specific Sunday Songs of Praise had just started on BBC, but I wanted to change the channel to something of more interest to me; in response, my mother said “it’s bad luck to change channel when there’s a religious programme on TV”. Although I trusted my mother impeccably, in that instant I knew she was lying. Also in that instant everything else I’d learnt about religion from school and elsewhere just clicked into place, and I knew at that instance that I was an atheist (although at the time I didn’t know the word, or that there was such a thing as atheist). So until much later, when I learnt that atheists existed, I felt at odds with the world.

      Since that time I haven’t changed, to this day I question everything, including my own thoughts. Any rational I’ve come to, based on an informed decision; are always subject to scrutiny when I have new information that allows my subconscious mind to re-evaluate my assumptions. No doubt this is why I’m so in-tuned with Science.

      As regards personality traits being heredity, it’s something I’ve been fully aware of when at the age of 13 I found my great-great grandfather’s diary and writings in my grandmother’s loft; it’s what got me interested in genealogy. In reading his personal writings I can see so much of myself in him (the way he thought and the way he felt), and in learning about his descendants, I see those same family traits in each generation.

      I agree ‘Happiness is a State of Mind’. It’s probably easier for a European than an American (although I don’t know enough about Canadians to gauge where they might fit). However, my perception is that Europeans tend to have a greater tendency than many Americans to put ‘Happiness before Wealth’.

      Europeans tend to prize leisure and family time as being more important than money. Most Europeans only want to work to earn enough money to pay the bills and have the basic comfort of mod cons in the home. Beyond that they generally prefer to be relaxing somewhere rather than working just to earn money.

      In Britain we tend to have six weeks holiday leave from work a year as standard, and go on holiday twice a year e.g. for the past twenty years we’ve always gone to France and Belgium for two weeks each summer and then have another summer holiday somewhere in the UK. Also, flexible working is common in Britain, so that employees can balance their domestic and social life with their work life.

      As regards physical health, I know I don’t go to the doctor as often as I should. After all, in Britain it’s all free (at the point of use) on the NHS, including the prescriptions for most people; so I’ve got no real excuse. I do occasionally go to the doctor, but I always get a clean bill of health; in spite of the fact that I’m not a health freak, and I don’t look after my body as well as I should, or bother exercising. Neither am I on any medication, even at my age (now retired); so I have been lucky with my health to date.

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      Paula 4 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Your response to me is so touching and authentic, it brought tears to my eyes. I didn't realize how much I needed a kind pep talk. I appreciate you, Val. P.J.

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Paula---Since I am not one bit Freudian by my self-education about the human nature, I don't place any significance on our past. I could easily make you cry with my story, but it's a story that's simply a subject to interpretation in this here and now.

      When we wake up about all other things that are hijacking our conscious logicalness, we also detach ourselves from that memory bank which is painting us in colors which are today unacceptable, which don't fit into our present portrait, our reach of intelligence and spirituality.

      Thus, if I am not asking the counsel of the teenage-me about how to run my show these days, why would I allow him to participate in computation of my present emotions.

      There is a time to sever that umbilical cord with our past which holds us prisoners in time. And there is time to simply scrap all mendacious learning we picked up from others' minds.

      Also a time to junk the "common sense" because it's not OUR sense. Time to use our own mind---and then we start living free.

      I admire your efforts, my dear friend, I respect your willingness to recharge the emotional batteries for a new life---and I can see you having already done such a great job.

      You are one wonderful human being, Paula Jay! And I am honored that you are calling me a friend. ---Hugs returned, your friend Val

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      Paula 4 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Val, my friend.....Wow, you have said a page full!! I think I may have spent half of my adulthood deprogramming myself. Between my wonderful parents who passed on what they knew, out of love and a sense of duty~and the strict religious training and education~~(my intro to authentic rigid brainwashing)~~I had my work cut out for me, struggling my way out of the deep dark hole to reach the surface where there was some light and fresh air! Oh how I wish it hadn't taken such effort and such a long time. I have to feel guilty for what I must have put others through until I wised up.

      But as Maya Anjelieu said, "When we KNOW better....we DO better." When I felt that I had reached that magically enlightened moment, then I had to fight the sadness of having little time to make up for the lost time. What a journey, Val!! No one can ever say I didn't fight hard to make the climb!

      Of course, your words ring so true. I seem to have swung the pendulum all the way to the other side and I couldn't be happier.

      Yes, I want my fair share of peace and joy....all the more reason to be vigilant with my health and wellness. Educating myself, using that fabulous thing called common sense and moderation, I think I'm younger today than I was 15 yrs ago. Even if I'm imagining it that's OK with me!! LOL

      Gracias, amigo mio! Always nice to hear from as you share your voice of reason. Hugs, Paula

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Matthew---You said it so nicely and I totally agree with you.

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Elayne---I don't think you are brainwashed---those brainwashed folks don't have enough consciousness to question their free will.

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      MizBejabbers---Good for you, my friend. I never believed much in horoscope signs, but I happen to know other two ladies who are Libras, and gee! both are sharing this quality that you described.

      The only difference being that you are like that out of your solid convictions, (which I happen to see in you), and theirs is a sign of sheer stubbornness. (As we know, "stubbornness is a poor substitute for integrity".)

      I am a Capricorn like Jesus, only 3 days difference in birthdays, but likewise---my spirituality is (probably, LOL) of a much different kind.

      Thank you for the interesting comment.

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      Vladimir Karas 4 months ago from Canada

      Hari---Thank you for your kind words.

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      Elayne 4 months ago from Rocky Mountains

      Man, do I feel brainwashed!! Interesting article and lots to think about. Thanks.

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      Matthew Butcher 4 months ago from Montreal, Canada

      It's crazy how we tend to have everything backward. However, when we finally wake up from all that, there's a great journey of re-self-discovery and self-love as you mentioned to walk through!

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      MizBejabbers 4 months ago

      Vlad, good lesson here in this article. You've hit the nail on the head. True happiness can be found only by finding one's true self and listening to what religionists call "that still small voice" (what we spiritualists call soul).

      One of the worst brainwashings is "what will the neighbors think?" In my day we young girls were brainwashed into thinking that we should be submissive to our husbands, but my Libra self said "absolutely not!" So I entered a career field thought of as male. I gained the respect of my male coworkers and the female office staff. So we don't have to say "it is what it is." We can create our own difference by listening to our inner voice.

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      Hari Prasad S 4 months ago from Bangalore

      Fantastic hub.

      -Hari