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How do you define Happiness?
Happiness has many different faces...
We are happy when we remember, we are happy when we forget, we are happy when we give and we are happy when we receieve. We are happy when we are with old friends and happy when we meet new people - but the key to being happy is never to assume or expect!
Happiness is a choice - at times we may be upset during a specific moment, but generally happy with our life and how it is going. Other people could be laughing the night away, but once alone stay unhappy in their solitude - regretting the things they have done, or the things they never had a chance to do.
Happiness can simply be defined as being happy with the times you said "yes" in life, rather than regretting the times you said "no". If we focus on the "What's Next" rather than the "What If", I am sure a lot more people could find happiness. Why spend your whole existence aiming for a happy ending, when you are in the process of living a happy middle?
Happiness was born a twin...
Some people are only happy when they are miserable and complaining - not realising that every day spent miserable is another day of happiness lost. Other people consider happiness as being inconsiderate to every need apart from their own, and others spend their lives in fear that their happiness will not last. Lord Byron once said "happiness was born a twin" - many of us may not realise that our happiness comes from making those around us happy - we may not always be able to have happiness but we can always give happiness. Happiness is futile if we cannot share it. The birth of your first child, the long awaited promotion at work, winning an Olympic gold medal - what do any of these mean if we cannot share our happiness with those around us?
It is also the unexpected, the small things that we come across that can cause the peak of happiness; the smell of home cooked food, the voice of your loved one, a baby laughing, getting lost in a good book, a chat with close friends, a warm bath. Happiness is all around us every second of every day - it is how we choose to embrace it.
Remembering the firsts of everything, conjuring up the same exitement we felt when it happened, reliving the feelings, the smells and the people who were a part of these experiences. Happiness cannot be defined, but it can be embraced whenever we choose to.
Remember, relive and think about all those around you who make you happy and whom you make happy too simply by being you. Let's live in our happy middle rather than fearing we may not have a happy ending.