How do you manifest attitude in physical actions?
Have you ever wondered why you had a gut feeling of approaching someone and knowing someone is nice? It’s because you can see what people are thinking through their actions. How they talk, walk, and every action they take make you realize the positivity they hold? You get attracted to them like they are a magnet.
Facial Expressions can be magnetic for others around you.
Look at people with a Duchenne smile, which shows you a reflection of their great outlook in life. (See in Fig. 1) A baby’s smile is a replication of the Duchenne smile. This smile is the most genuine or spontaneous smile because you smile with your eyes. You are probably wondering how you do that right? In this smile, you stretch the corner of your eyes. It increases their curiosity as to why you are smiling. It is inviting for people to talk to you. Its weird concept, but it’s understood in nonverbal cues. The thought process resonates or reflects on the outside. Honestly, I have experimented on the trains. When you look at somebody with no smile, you get no response such as smiling. But with that same individual, if you smile, guess what you will get a smile. This smile can create that unspoken relationship. If you decide to speak to that person, that person will be willing to engage you in a conversation as opposed you beating the answers out of the person
How do we run our vehicles?
We all walk, talk and express ourselves in different ways. This reveals what I mean by “run your vehicle.” If we do waste time in these aspects, then why don’t we talk or walk the best possible way. We should walk, but walk with the feeling of being a leader. When a leader walks in the room everybody watches. When we talk in front of a whole room, we should communicate a common emotion. It is believed emotion creates motion of a whole group of people. We move ourselves by motivation of the frontal lobe of our brain, but we move others via the emotions. I will so happily tell you what allows you to move people by emotions in a bit. Of course, you want to have the best presentation skills, greatest enthusiasm and a confident presence for you to dictate the influence you have over the crowd. According to Michael H. Thimble, F.R.C.P., F.R.C. Psych, the author of Psychopathology of Frontal Lobe Syndromes, mentions that the frontal lobes (Fig2.) and amygdala are responsible for motivation. When this area is damaged, there is a lack of drive. Someone with a lesion like this in the frontal lobe of the brain will have nothing that will push him or her towards his or her goals
The anatomy of motivation
What part/s of the brain is/are involved in motivation?
Again, the way we can move a crowd is through the emotions. Emotions means you have to give them another reason, which they would go with anyway if they had it in mind or not. The emotions created in this time impulse them to take the step of performing. They know by performing a task they will accomplish a goal. For example, at work you tell a co-worker you should speak clearly. And I give them the reason it will make you get better with people. In this way, you can start to make money. And you want say you want them to get better. It takes them mentally on a trip. Now, it is the time to let you know the physiological basis of emotions. The brain part called the amygdala (Fig 3.) is also responsible for emotional learning. There are many types of input that funnel into the amygdala. In this case, you want to lead a crowd through what you say. Hence, the sense of hearing goes into the amygdala.
How do you want to act in a time-crunched situation?
There have been times where I have been late to catch a bus. The thought of running towards the bus would be burdensome, and discouraging and put a block on my forward momentum. These thoughts set off a whole new train of thoughts, which includes self-doubt, self-punishment and scolding. This would slow you down because your thoughts are the driver in your body vehicle. You say to yourself: “I should have gotten up earlier. I should have run.” When you understand that you need to put in the appropriate actions to go against what actually happened such as being late, you do not have to run anymore or having those thoughts.
A more positive thought that would allow you to run towards the bus would be to break your mind into segments, so you are not allowed to think about what happened before and after the moment of your run. Your focus should be on the very present. Instead of thinking that you are running towards the bus, you should think you are the best runner in the world. You run fast like you are in the Olympics. And you will see the high physical payout of the application of this skill. The application of this concept starts up an engine of your “vehicle”, which allows you to breeze through life without pain. Your mind will seem like you are driving a Ferrari or Lamborghini rather than a Toyota Camry. We all know we want the supercar over the everyday car, so we should engage in applications that will make the best of time.
Have you ever been in a time-restricted situation?
If yes, then I want you to write out about how you should be thinking about it.
Here is another example.
---------------> If it is that you are behind on homework, then you should not be thinking about the dreads of homework not being done, but you say that I can get this done in this time period better than anyone else in my situation.
Let me know if that helped in the comments. I would like to have a positive influence on people’s lives.
How do you manifest confidence?
We should walk into situations like we own the situation or we run the show. We act like the person we want to be. So, if you want to be a manager, act and embrace the qualities of a manager. And if you do not completely know what the qualities of a manager are, define what you want the qualities of the managerial persona to be. You should define or if not look up online what the characteristics of managers comprise of. Remember a doctor is not doctor because of his M.D. title, but because he has put in time-worth of effort to change in his habits and how processes information.
When we walk in to a situation , how do you feel?
This confidence is shown by the nonverbal cues you present. It could be the indifferent stance in which the body stands tall, and leans back and shoulders are rolled back. This is a stance as opposed to the alert stance, which is where you almost look like you are about to run and you are in forward position. When you walk on the sidewalk, you walk in the middle as people come towards you they go around you. You want to move like a huge cruise ship. As it moves at a steady pace, the water moves around it instead of it moving to the side. The cutting edge of the front of the cruise ship cuts through water and it is analogous to our confidence.
How are the open arm postures and hand gestures?
Wave your hand as if you orchestrate a symphony in front of the world. Direct the function of the roles in the world. You want an open-arm position because it will show you are open to people. You have to train yourself so that you have that influence. Talk with your hands because it will get your message across. Why is it so? In order to get the audience’s attention, you have to keep them awake, so that is why you wave your hands. The making of your hand gestures could create emotion.
The portrayal of attitude on the face
The attitude of the face should show your enthusiasm about life, so people can realize a possible leader amongst the vast mass. It is quality, which is not made noticed by you, but it is known by itself. When it comes to problems, your face should be a normal face like nothing happened. You should have your poker face on. Don’t be confrontational, but be friendly. The indifference face is really needed too because it exhibits that no matter what happens you will be happy. You need to operate with this mentality because it will definitely show in your body language and posture.
How do you speak to strangers?
Speak to a stranger as if you know them. See them as someone you can relate to in the world because with this in mind you make facial expressions, which allow others to feel you are a genuine guy. When you meet a little old lady, see her through the eyes of a grandson. When you meet a girl, speak to her like a possible girlfriend or friend. Or even think of her like a sister, if she gives you the vibe. In each case, people are willing to listen to you and engage in a conversation. They feel you have done a good job of building the relationship. If you see a guy, see him as not as a stranger, but a brother or friend. The nonverbal cues that go along with this thought process will help you build a better relationship with the stranger.
How do you want to act when you sleep or eat?
We want to eat like you are eating like a million-dollar meal. When I eat, I spend quality time with food. We want to nurture the taste for a long period of time. Of course, you have to eat for 20 mins for your body to know when you are full. 20 mins are needed due to the delay between the stomach and brain. Sleep like a baby because babies have no worries. Think about nothing when you are sleeping. Write your worries away on paper before you go to sleep.
An intermind dialogue
An intermind dialogue always keeps you smiling. Before we move forward, let me define what this dialogue is: it’s dialogue against you or self-talk that helps you face mental objection right on the spot.
Mental objection: I cannot approach that person because he or she is looking at me. Then you conjure up different reasons as to why you do not want to approach the person. You say you cannot approach him or her because you have been looking at him or her for a while.
Self talk- Just go approach them (command). If the conjuring thoughts overload your mind, you say to yourself “ Do not think too much” That is if you cannot resolve these mental objections. Put those objections on your plate to dissect and find out the solution because it’s a process that will occur over a long period of time. It will take a lot of mental scraping.
Psychopathology of Frontal Lobe Syndromes: From Seminars in Neurology
Volume 10, No. 3
September 1990 Michael H. Thimble, F.R.C.P., F.R.C. Psych
Chapter 6: Limbic System: Amygdala