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How hard is it to become successful living in a ghetto neighborhood?
I am a 20 year old male, and I would like to share my experience on what it takes to become something to be known for, while growing up in Horrible environments. Im Going to talk about what it takes to become something, and the challenges that you will face.
People are clueless, and don't realize the amount of hidden talent that maybe hidden in suburban areas such as bad areas where shootings occur, and the crime rates are high.
For example, If you live in a nice neighborhood were the crime rate is extremely low, and you look at a 20 year old male in a violent neighborhood, you would never think that this person has any type of hidden talent that could potentially change the way the world works. Naturally, I totally expect this from other people.
What living in a bad neighborhood does to you mentally
living in a bad neighborhood can do some things to you. Some of those things could even be positive, or extremely negative. Really the only positive thing that comes out of this, is it makes you stronger mentally and physically. I believe that no matter where you live, the people and things around you, and the way they think and act, will definitely have an impact on you either negative or positive.
The city that I live in, is filled with nothing but trash, negativity, murder, gangs, and just nothing but foreigners and complete negativity. Little too nobody in my city has any goals, motivation, or realistic dreams that can be accomplished.
I have lived here for 13 years. Certainly not all of those 13 years were positive. They still are not positive. There are always ups and downs in the city I live in, but no matter what, I try to remain positive and keep a high spirit. It is extremely difficult, especially when I am surrounded by people with a much lower mind set and I have.
Sometimes, staying out of trouble does not seem possible. Even when you try to stay out of trouble, somebody around you will get you in major trouble. This person could be an acquaintance friend, or even a family member, sometimes even a friend or acquaintance of a family member. Yes it is that freaking ridiculous.
Here is a real life story for example, there was 1 time where my little sister had some problems with her boyfriend. My little sister is only 14 years old, and has a lot of drama in her life that she'd certainly does not need. Her and her boyfriend had broken up over something very stupid. Her boyfriend brought a bunch of enemies over to my house, and I had to defend my family for the sake of them not getting hurt. I almost got in serious trouble for what I did. I almost went to jail. There is a lot of unnecessary drama that comes around you even if you do not want it, or cause it.
Have I been in jail? Yes, it was not a serious offense, but I had to let my anger out because I could not keep it in anymore. There is a lot of unnecessary drama that goes on around me, and I don't have many people to talk to because they are not similar to me. Deep breathing and relaxation really helps me but Therefore, I just could not hold myself back, I committed an assault and battery and went to jail for 1 night. It was the worst night of my life.
What have I accomplished?
From what you have read so far, you probably think I am a loser, a criminal, or somebody who is just negative. But I am about to surprise you big time. From what I talked about before, and just some of the negative things that happened in my life, doesn't mean that that is everything that happened. Something bad always happens, usually every month. But, I am a history maker, I have accomplished things that many 20 year olds and younger or even older have never accomplished and never will.
Before I graduated high school, I passed 3 major certification exams for computer repair and programming. Some of these exams, are required to be taken at college. But I am so smart with computers, that teachers made exceptions for me to take exams very early in life. By passing these exams, I was able to land myself high paying jobs and gigs. Want to hear something even more surprising? All of this happened before I even went to jail.
Just because somebody is accomplished at something, doesn't mean that they won't get in trouble later in life. If I had moved out of the city I was living in earlier in life, I would have possibly never gotten into any trouble. Now I am stuck here, and all of this negativity is weighing down on me so much that it is very hard to push the weight off. But sooner or later, I will be out of my city and in a much more positive environment as long as I keep my head up, and don't let the energy Vampires Suck the positiveness out of me.
How to stay positive and make something of yourself in a bad neighborhood
There are ways that you can remain positive in a s***** neighborhood, and make something of yourself. Sometimes it is best to remain isolated from those around you. Getting mixed up with anybody in a negative neighborhood, will never have a good result. The fact that just staying away from these people can still get you in trouble, question yourself, and ask what would happen if I actually hung out with these people? I can still get in trouble even if I stay away from them, it would really suck if I hung out with them and became who they were. Birds of a feather do flock together.
Negative activities, brainwashing video games, and mediocre rap music does have a huge impact on the way people act. I don't do any of that garbage. How to make anything out of yourself, the best thing you can do is to develop a skill, and master it. What you have to do, is do something productive every day. Make sure you get ahead in life 1 day at a time. Make it a goal to make progress everyday. If you don't make progress everyday, then you're not making progress at all.
it's hard to make any kind of progress, there are too many distractions in my environment. What do I do?
You need to leave your environment. Plain and simple. Hop on a bus, go to a library in a nice positive town or city, and study your butt off. Go back to the city as late as you can, go to sleep, and do it all over again.