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How to Be A Happy Person Even If You Think It's Selfish

Updated on January 9, 2014

The Possibility of Happiness

Do You Think It's Possible to Be Happy Everyday?

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Is it wrong to Be Happy?

Some of us see a happy person and wonder what makes people happy. Others wonder if they could be a happy woman or happy man. A lot of us want to know what’s the definition of happiness, but far too many of us believe happiness is selfish or simply impossible. What do you think?

Are happy people self-absorbed and self-centered?

Are they egotistic or even maniacal?

Do you think they are self-serving ?

Do they care more about themselves more than others?


Are Happy People Selfish?

Are they really THAT selfish to be so happy?

Webster’s defines selfish as being concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.

Let’s think about that.

We know the opposite of happy is sad.

Which do you prefer to be: happy or sad?

Is there a happy-medium between being happy or sad?

In my work as the Pioneer of Worry Free Living, I’ve heard clients tell me that they don’t think they’d ever truly be happy. When asked what they wanted, some said they’d be happy to be content.

What does that mean?

Is that the “happy medium” or is it state of being that someone settles for because they think that true happiness is not possible?

Imagine living, happy and free forever.

I’m not talking about a happy ending either. I’m talking about living every day in a total state of bliss, regardless of challenges that we all face.

Learn How to Be Happy


How to Be Happy

Happiness is a choice.

We can choose to be happy. We can choose to be sad. We can live in the world of not enough, filled with anxiety, worry and fear.

Or We Can Do Something Different

We can live every moment as a gift that we get to open every day.

All of us get 24 hours. No one gets more or less (unless their time is up). What we do in those 24 hours determines whether or not we will be happy and free, sad and bound or in a state of lifeless contentment.

Who is Happy?

Nature is Happy

Have you ever looked at nature?

It doesn’t matter if the day is sunny or gloomy, the birds will sing, squirrels will run, and the hens will cluck. Nature sees every day as a beautiful gift to live and to be in that moment.

Have you noticed a newborn child?

Newborns don’t know whether or not you lost your job, the bills are due, or your mean mother-in-law is visiting. They don’t care. When they wake up to the world, they wake up either happy, hungry or wanting to be changed.

They have no preconceived ideas that life might be difficult today, the boss is mean, or that the bills are due. Those things will happen to anyone at any time in anyplace across the world. That’s life, and it shouldn’t make us unhappy.

Like newborns and nature, we wake up from a state of unconscious (sleep) to a grand opportunity to live consciously. To live consciously is to be aware that this moment, is the only moment that promised. If we live in the moment, how can we be nothing, but happy?

Happy People Are Everywhere

Look around, there are happy people everywhere. They are on buses, in cars, at work and in your neighborhoods. They smile at you. They wave at you. You see them laughing and chatting on their phones. So many people are happy to be alive because they know this; life is not promised.

At this very moment, as we read, write and talk, someone’s time somewhere has ended. That’s the honest truth. Their life has run out. Unlike you, they don’t get the chance to improve their skills, get a new job, meet a potential partner or talk to a loved one.

True Facts About Happiness

  • Happiness is a choice
  • Everything in nature is happiness
  • Happiness is the Gift of Life
  • Music can make you happy
  • Being Happy for Others is the Surest Way to Be Happy

Happiness is Seeing Somebody Reach Their Goal


You Can Be Happy

Shouldn’t you be elated or is the idea of happiness so difficult for you to phantom?

Is it so selfish to feel happy that you got the chance to wake up this morning?

Is it so terrible to feel good about the good things in your life?

Shouldn’t you be able to feel fantastic about your body?

Can you be proud of your loved ones without facing criticism?

Aren’t you glad that you have access to clean water?

Isn’t it impressive that you can turn on the heat when you are cold, or the air condition when you are too hot?

Doesn’t it feel fantastic to know that pain, stress and even failure are usually temporary, and things do change?

Tell me; is it wrong to be happy?

Enjoy, Bobby McFerrin's, "Don't Worry, Be Happy"

Don't Worry, Be Happy

Some say, "music soothes the salvage beast." It can also ease their worries. Many songsters have sang songs to ease the tensions of the unhappy, worried and bitter. A popular genre for that is the Blues, although pop, rock and R & B is equally known to get people out of seat and into a melodious groove.

One song in particular was song by a musican named Bobby McFerrin. His song, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” was released in 1988. It was a Billboard Top 100 chart. "Don't Worry, Be Happy" was taken from a quote of a spiritual teacher named Meher Baba. Baba, that hails from India was known for his simple, yet eloquently spoken quotes. He said, “Don’t worry, be happy,” which meant people should not worry about anything and should always be happy.

Here's a tip: when you are feeling down or blue, use music to lift your spirits.

Ready, set, let's go be happy!


365 Days of Happiness

This year, I have decided to enjoy 365 days of happiness and to share this bliss with all of my fans, followers and friends. Join me on the following social media sites: twitter/princesswendel, facebook and google plus for happy and exciting updates.

Too worried about something, that's ok. There are ways to overcome your worries. Contact me to get started on your journey to a happier life.

What do you think? Is 365 days of happiness actually possibly? Share your thoughts and comments below.

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      Create Living 3 years ago

      You are dead on with this article. I like to remember the old adage "You only receive what you think you deserve." Our sense of self worth is so critical to our success! It is always refreshing to find someone like yourself, who truly makes a difference in the world by sharing information like this.

      If you ever get a chance, I have a blog devoted to helping normal people take charge of their finances by starting companies online. Check us out over @


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      Princess Clark 3 years ago from The DMV

      Amen! What a powerful command! Thank you so much for your share revealing that joy is more than a choice, it's a command. May we all obey.

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      Ronald E Franklin 3 years ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

      You ask, "Which do you prefer to be: happy or sad?" My observation is that many choose to be sad by dwelling on the negatives rather than the positives of their lives. The Bible commands that we are to rejoice even in the midst of trials. Why is it commanded? Because most people don't do it naturally!

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      Princess Clark 3 years ago from The DMV

      It's a powerful choice indeed. The thought of being in pursuit of it makes me very happy.

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      Princess Clark 3 years ago from The DMV

      I believe that happiness is on the same scale. It could also be the energy that propels us into joy, peace and a positive outlook on life. That's why I'm on a mission to see where happiness takes me this year. I'll keep you posted. : )

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      Princess Clark 3 years ago from The DMV

      So true, if we don't have it, we can't give it. Your simple statement is profound.

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      Princess Clark 3 years ago from The DMV

      I agree with all of your comments. ChristinS you are right happiness is not inner peace, however both are something quite notable goals. Imagine living a life filled with inner peace and happiness. Surely that must be bliss on steroids.

      Denise.w.anderson I'm like you, being in service is indeed being happy. If money wasn't an issue (raising kids, caring for grandparents, etc), I'd do more of it. I guess in a way earning money can also be an act of giving, especially when we do the work we love in service to others.

      Thanks so much for your shares. :)

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      If I were to equate happiness with satisfaction, joy, peace, and a positive outlook on life, then yes, it is possible 365. When I am helping others, I am happy, and that is something that I like to do every day.

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      Christin Sander 3 years ago from Midwest

      I agree wholly that happiness is a choice. I think many people confuse happiness with inner peace - a constant state of inner peace does require more discipline, but is also highly attainable and not selfish. We can't give to others what we don't already have ourselves is my theory on it. Great hub.

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      Shauna 3 years ago

      Like you said it's a choice. Choosing to be is the first step.