Learning to Appreciate Your Body
You are Beautiful & Unique!
Body image is usually a topic dedicated to women, but I hope that both men & women will read this article and will be inspired to appreciate & love their bodies (and themselves) for who they are. Because we are all uniquely created to be different from everyone else!
You are made to be as unique. There is no one else on earth who looks (or behaves) exactly like you. No one else has your same features and physical qualities. Perhaps similar; but never the same. Appreciate your specialness! You, as a loved human being, are the pinnacle of Creation. You are set apart; above the rest of Creation. Learn to enjoy your place of honor!
Remember that it could always be worse. Instead of focusing on what you think is "wrong" with you & your body, realize that it could always be worse. You could be sicker, more frail, older..... The list goes on & on. Quit focusing on ways that you think you've "failed", and start focusing on the ways that you are physically blessed. There are MANY people alive right now whose bodies are failing them. Send those people your good thoughts and prayers, and be grateful that your body is functioning.
Remember that you have certain qualities that are complimented by other people, and that certain aspects of your body and/or personality are liked by others. Remember those times when a friend has mentioned that she likes how you do your makeup or how lovely your hair falls around your face; when your significant other felt your biceps and was impressed; how you always get complimented on the color of your eyes; or how your lips always get compared to some movie stars' lips.
You do have attractive, likable features! To maximize on your best features, wear clothes made to fit your body type well. Wear clothes that flatter your body and/or accentuate your best parts. If you're not sure how to do this, do some research! Ask your close friends or relatives (whom you trust to give you honest feedback) about what they believe to be your best physical features. And then, find a book or magazine article detailing how to maximize your best features and minimize features you don't want to stand out. You probably won't have to look farther than the nearest woman-specific magazine rack.
This includes, (but is not limited to): wearing blouses that draw eyes away from your chest if you're extremely well-endowed up there, wearing blue if people say that blue really brings out your eyes, and wearing skirts that are the right length for your legs & torso, to elongate you.
In other words, if you're short, wear clothes that will visually elongate your body, if you're heavier, wear clothes that are slimming.
Especially for heavier women out there (and I'm one of them), it's so important to wear clothes that fit you well and are the correct size. Trust me, I KNOW how heart-breaking it is to have to pull on a size 16 pair of jeans and realize that you can't fit into a size 12 or 14 anymore. But trust me, you will look better by wearing appropriate-sized clothing than trying to cram yourself into smaller sizes. And you'll actually seem slimmer when you wear clothing that fits you well.
As an example, I have slightly "thicker" ankles and I cannot wear some ankle bracelets because they won't go around my thick ankles. This also means that I look stubby and "cut-off" if I try to wear capris pants or pants that come to my mid-to-lower calves. Because I realize the importance of wearing clothes that visually lengthens my legs and make my thick ankles look slimmer, I know that I should wear longer pants or skirts that are either longer or shorter than mid-calf. If pants or a skirt hits me right there near my thick ankles, those ankles will be the star of the show and will look even thicker, which I do not want.
Do the work to become the best possible version of yourself. Eat healthy foods (like whole grains, fiber, & fish) and exercise (experts recommend at least 30 minutes of moderate daily exercise for optimal fitness). When you are changing your diet & lifestyle, it may take awhile for the pounds to drop off or the muscle to build. But keep going and be proud of the fact that you are doing something to better yourself.
Taking care of yourself will instantly make you feel more attractive, because you know you're working hard to better yourself. This will give you confidence, and confidence looks hot on everyone! And even if all that exercise, healthy eating, and taking care of yourself doesn't transform you into a skinny supermodel, at least you can say that you're one of the healthiest people you know, and "healthy" trumps "skinny" every time! Don't work to become "skinny," work to become "healthy!"
Change your mindset. Instead of making your goal to drop 20 pounds, start thinking about getting healthier, like dropping your cholesterol by 20 points.
Research has found that a heavier person who is physically fit & active is still much healthier than a skinny person who is sedentary. So get out there, eat healthy & exercise, and be more concerned about being overall healthy than about losing weight. The weight will probably come off anyway.
- These are just suggestions. Speak with your doctor before making any big changes in diet or exercise.
- There are probably many other ways to learn to be happier with your body. If you need to see a counselor to help with further emotional or mental body issues, then please do so.