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How to Begin to Change Your Perspective on Death

Updated on May 10, 2011

A Happy Healthy Old Age?

Human beings in the western world have developed a fear of death that seems to suffocate people. Many individuals go through life seriously afraid to live, because their fear of death prevents them from fully engaging with life.

We see relentless pictures in the media of how fragile our life is- murder, fire, natural disasters, disease, terrorism, accidents – the list is endless. We watch in horror as these events happen to others, and we become convinced that they will happen to us somehow.

The truth is that they might. You could die a sudden unexpected death from a mysterious accident or an unplanned event, and that would be the end of your life. Alternatively, you could live a happy and fulfilling life and die in your sleep at some ripe old age, perfectly content. Both alternatives are perfectly possible.

The fact is that you cannot possibly know how or when you are going to die. Some people think that the time is pre ordained, others just think that it is fate, luck or bad timing. Either way, it is a certainty, and because we have so little understanding of death, we fear it greatly.

All of life is a cycle. The trees grow, seed, produce new little trees, and eventually fall over and rot and feed the earth for the next generation of trees. Animals do the same. They are born, grow, reproduce, and then die at some stage of natural causes or to feed another animal. The stars are born, shine, eventually die and then from their death, new stars are born. All life goes through the same cycle- birth, growth, reproduction, death, birth.....

We can see that it is a natural procession in all other forms of life, and yet we have almost forgotten our place in the universe. We will follow these same natural laws, regardless of what we believe or fear.

Much of the human population believes in reincarnation as part of their religion, tradition or culture. We in the west had it written out of our religion and culture 2000 years ago by the church. We therefore fear that this life is all that we are going to have, because once we die, there is nothing else, and so this life becomes extremely precious and we need to cling onto it, no matter what.

However, when we are in this place of fear and pain, and we believe that there is no life after death, life becomes finite and thus we begin to fear what can take it away from us.

Love the World Whilst You Are In It

Open Your Eyes to the Beauty Around You

The antidote to this constricting fear is to begin to wonder at the marvellous universe that we live in. Start to look for all the patterns around us and above us that signify that life is a cycle of birth, life, death, and repeat. You are alive now, in this magnificent moment. Would you prefer to fully connect with the gift of life and live wholeheartedly in the present, or spend all your energy thinking about how you may lose your life? You will eventually die, this is true, but between now and that moment, would you rather make every day count and truly experience life and love, or spend the time in fear about something over which you have very little control anyway?

Live. Love. Laugh. All the rest can take care of itself.

Written by Caroline Nettle

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    • Happyboomernurse profile image

      Gail Sobotkin 

      8 years ago from South Carolina

      Good hub about a topic that isn't often talked about in our culture. Thanks for sharing.

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Nettle 

      8 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you DevBlue. I agree. Love and blessings, Caroline

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      8 years ago from Mauritius

      Thank you for this beautifully written Hub.It is also true that many people live thinking much about the past and the future but do not live in the present.I totally agree with you that we should cherish each and every moment of the present.We cannot change the past but can draw lessons fro it.Many people also want to get things which are not within their reach and they get frustrated when they do not get them.

    • Fossillady profile image


      8 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      Another uplifting article...I am more relaxed about dying since my husband passed. It is a subject I have been preoccupied with ever since. It's amazing how God (the universe) seems to provide answers when we are looking for them. I know the presence of my husband is still around me and that is a great comfort!

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      Susan Hazelton 

      8 years ago from Sunny Florida

      You have given me much to think about. I have always felt it is a shame to spend your life worrying about dying. I just can't seem to get past the dying part.

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      Xavier Nathan 

      8 years ago from Isle of Man

      You give people something to think about here and if they are not too bound by a belief system that does not allow them to look outside the box then this hub plants the seed for positive change.Nice one!

    • Spiritual Growth profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Nettle 

      8 years ago from Bristol, England

      Thank you carrie450- glad you found it thought provoking!

      Love and blessings!

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      8 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

      Thank you for this hub Spiritual Growth. It's made me open my eyes.


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