How to Find Yourself
An Inner Journey
Why is it when someone wants to “find themselves” they think that means they need to travel? I myself have felt this urge before. I have heard people say they want to find themselves. Then they run off somewhere far from their problems and never face them.
First of all finding yourself is a cliché and psychobabble. I certainly believe that people need to explore their own beings and learn what makes them happy but this does not mean that they need to abandon all of their loved ones and go climb Mt Everest. I’m sure that some people have learned a lot about themselves by doing things like that but the journey is simply symbolic. They didn’t really learn from the journey. They learned from people they met and more importantly they learned by looking inside themselves.
I have found out very much about myself by simple reflection and introspection. These things come easy for me, but I believe that anyone can achieve this with only a little effort. Introspection isn’t about sitting in a quiet room humming; it is just a matter of considering why you do what you. What motivates you?
Most people don’t want to dig into their own psyche to answer these questions. It is uncomfortable when you start to see your own emotional issues staring back at you, but it is also very rewarding when you see yourself start to heal the wounds that you didn’t know you had.
I have traveled so far in the past couple of years but never even left my home. I simply start to question all the little things I do. The first big step forward for me was asking myself why I was not spontaneous. It wasn’t hard to figure out. It was because I was a control freak.
Now being a control freak is a very unhealthy issue. My apologies to those of you out there who are control freaks but you need to realize it and fix it or you will never know the freedom and happiness that comes with letting go. The good news is there is a very simple cure to this sickness. You simply do the opposite. You open your mind and just picture yourself holding on to a set of reigns very tightly and then visualize letting them go. Then go do something completely spontaneous and uncharacteristic. Spend sixty dollars and get a massage or take an unplanned trip without even deciding where to go before you leave.
That is what true freedom feels like. I know that we all have responsibilities and we can’t just run around being spontaneous all the time but once in awhile just let it all go and make a radical decision.
Doing the opposite is usually the best thing for any of our little idiosyncrasies. That is why traveling the world to find yourself doesn’t work. You are always with you. Inside your mind is the you that is being sought. Running around and distracting yourself doesn’t work. You have to sit still and face your problems. Sometimes you even have to discover what your problems are first. No matter what you have to face them and deal with them. That is how you find yourself.