- Quality of Life & Wellness
How to Like Who You Are
Each of us is special and unique. Even if you are not the most beautiful or brightest creature on the planet, you should get to like who you are. Here are some thoughts on how you can realize how special you are and how to learn to like who you are. Your self-esteem is important for success.
Assess How You Feel about Yourself
You should feel good about yourself; if you don’t, you have some work to do. Think about your feelings and your behavior. Identify connections between your thoughts and your feelings. Work to change any behaviors, thoughts or feelings that sabotage your self-esteem. Start a journal to keep track of your feelings about yourself and any triggers of negative emotions. This is an important step on the path to learn to like who you are.
Think about Life and Your Place in It
You are surrounded by the beauty of nature and the majesty of human achievements. You are part of a culture with a great many remarkable attributes. You need to contemplate and explore various aspects of your environment, connecting with those parts that have special meaning for you, learning to treasure the many features that evoke positive feelings in you. How do you fit and how should you fit into your society? Actively search for answers and opportunities to engage your community. Don’t just sit back; be proactive and get involved in life; your self-esteem depends on it. You’ll then have solid reasons to like who you are.
Think about Your Family and Friends
Much of our self image and self-esteem comes from our family and peers. Seek out those family members and friends who accentuate the positive in life and who you enjoy spending time with. These are the people who should count most in your life and who will help you like who you are.
Think about Your Accomplishments
Review the tasks you have accomplished and obstacles you have overcome so far in life. Draw appropriate lessons about your talents and skills. Identify strengths that you can build on and weaknesses that you can address. Use the reality of your productive past and the feelings of self-esteem you’ve had to help you like who you are.
Assess Your Potential and Establish Goals
Each of us has a number of alternative careers, avocations, or interests. You need to realistically assess your potential in fields that interest you. Get the help of family, friends, and if required, professionals, to help you assess your potential. Take aptitude tests or get independent assessments of your skill sets and fields in which you can profitably employ them. Then establish realistic goals to get you on the path of further achievements, giving you greater self-esteem and more reasons to like who you are.
Develop Action Plans for Your Personal Development
We get no place fast without goals and action plans. You will be amazed at your increase in productivity and accomplishments if you master the arts of setting goals and developing and implementing action plans. Your self-esteem will soar and you will really like who you are then.
Maintain a Positive Outlook on Life
There are so many bumps in the road of life that maintaining a positive outlook can be difficult. However, that is another skill that you’ll need to acquire to help you like who you are. A positive attitude helps you roll with the punches and to actually choose how you react to disappointments.
Cultivate Positive Emotions
Over the past dozen years or so a new discipline called Positive Psychology has developed and quickly become a key social science with major contributions to human well-being or happiness. One of the central findings of this new field is that people can cultivate sincere positive emotions that help them to become more creative, more resilient, and more accomplished in several ways.
Leading positive psychologist Barbara Fredrickson published a book called "Positivity" that outlines the research around positive emotions, describes the valuable roles they play in individual well-being, and offers proven ways that people can cultivate positive emotions which help them toward flourishing instead of just languishing. I highly recommend her book.
Turn to professional help if you or someone close to you is deeply or frequently depressed. A Cognitive Behavioral Therapist or other psych professional could make a huge difference in someone who is clinically depressed.