How to Love a child. Four Essential factors. Use them on friends also.
This poor fellow has got it tough. Way too much love going his way.
Just include the child and that is a great start
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Four critical areas to master.
Perhaps that is hard to grasp. I do not use the word love. I do not use the notion teach. I do not use the idea of protection.
So I tell you true that these four categories cover every thing a person needs to do to raise a child to be the best that they can be. Yes there are some tricks Health is all kinds: spiritual, Scientific, organic and lifestyle.
Certainly tenderness is misunderstood by too many. Not just touchy feely hugs and holding but just as much the touch when scolding or guiding and most importantly speaking either with words or with body language. This includes and that the child feels you turn to tender when you turn to them. Wow that is huge, what self esteem even at two. "mommy upset but I make her happy", that is tenderness.
Empathy is generally innate and almost genetic. Do not worry who can also do it no matter. We just zone into the mind and eyes and heart of another. And see it in reverse from ourselves.
Authority is not discipline. Authority is the creation of the full hearty facade that you know what is best for sure. That is really a cool feeling for a kid.
Hard to take: Flowers need dirt and kids need dirt.
Here is a fact: Kids that play in dirt eat more fruit.
Go ahead shake your head. Ask where in the heck did I get that? Well farm/country kids play in dirt. Farm/country kids eat more fruit. There is no 7-eleven on the corner and farmers love the land, so it just works that way. Fun huh!
Health is a way of life. But a cool thing in a child is what I call baselines. A baseline is a place where your child is normal for them. I am talking every thing from runny nose to smiles to sleep patterns. Some kids are hyper and some near listless. Some eat a ton and some do not. So what you have to do is get a good picture of them. Don't worry a few doctor visits are needed to assure you of normal. Pay attention.
But what is important are drastic changes. Health should be steady Freddy. Some kids have more snot, others only need 4/5ths the sleep. Some cling to mom too long and others suck fingers. Pee Pee Poo poo is another individual thing. But get a good baseline of your child and then adjust as they adjust and change.
This is fun and it is tenderness of heart, voice and touch -- dang right up until the end
And this brings us to empathy.
Try to do like Andrea. A child's day is just as important as ours. Just go back and listen to that song with a little muppet.
And then watch how fun to see how we get into our own act!!!
Work hard during a day to see thing through their eyes. I promise you if you let go and this in a mindfulness manner your heart beat will slow. Your blood pressure will decrease and you will begin to see the world through a child's eyes again and this will replenish your tired butt. And if you do it everyday. You will kick butt in life because you will see what others miss--- that is a bonus.
If you do this you will not jam and cram crap into your child. You will present things properly and they shall be received properly. And you can change a life or one million.
Who has authority over the Perigrine
Authority has nothing to do with power
Authority is an earned and constant struggle. One mess up and it takes 40 days and nights to correct. It is a path we put ourselves on. "I will not do this and I will step up at all cost".
You can do other things when being with you child. But you cannot be distant or lazy. Whatever you do is secondary. That means no couch time. No cooking time. No on the phone time. Deal with it. Heck you do not even get to hang out in the bathroom grooming. Any sports game or other show on TV is bunk. Bed time is the same as their time --- get up early or slink away after sleep has come. You must exercise discipline and demonstrate it not command it.
So stop the race as in the rat race.
If you think paying a mortgage is more important than paying it forward for a child. Think hard and twice and three times on that. Not true. Time is the only thing that is yours to spend, spend it wisely.
Hey now apply this to friends, family and your spouse. You know what, apply it to yourself.