How to Move Through the Transitions of Life
Life transitions have inner and outer manifestations. They often start internally, without us really notice. The "transition energy" becomes stronger and stronger until it appears in consciousness, then it wants to be introduced into the world, into our lives with others. Often, parts of life transitions are not at all fun, while other parts are quite exciting. You might say that something new is beginning to happen; That's on his way. It is not even that we "choose" something new; We just feel that it comes in. Like a new curve in the river of life.
First phase: energy reduction
You have been in a relationship for a while, or a job or occupation. For a long time he felt right; There was energy. As always, we learn, we grow, we change. Sometimes the relationship or work / profession allows change, grows with us. Sometimes it does not work. So you notice that you are a little annoyed, or it is easier to irritate yourself, or you feel sad or a little depressed. This can be a sign that you and the person or thing you have been involved with are drifting; You are no longer quite together. You begin to wonder if you want to continue, but the thought is subtle, and you reject it.
Or maybe your health is not what it used to be. What you have always been able to do is no longer possible. You want to retain your identity as it has been, but, realistically, you can not.
Second phase: fear
The thought / feeling becomes stronger: "I'm not happy in that, and I have not been happy for some time now or maybe it was never the right thing for me. But, OMG , It would be horrible to leave. Would I be alone? Would I be able to find another job / profession? I do not want to change my life to meet where my health is now. What's going to happen to me? All negatives rise like serpents that threaten you. You're trying to push back the whole, but it does not work as before.
Step Three: Try to improve your current situation
Usually the best thing to do is see if things can change in relationship, work, profession, or what it is that you simply can not make your peace with more. If it's a relationship, talk about what upset you, what you would like to see changed. Share your imagination of the ideal relationship. See how your partner reacts - verbally, non-verbally and in their behavior. If they agree, if they have the same vision as you, if they start acting differently and it makes you feel close again, great!
Same thing with a job or a profession. Say that there is some negative person or culture that makes you feel desperate. The same conflicts arise again and again; One way to do things that just is not effective. No matter what it is. Think about what you would like it to be. What part can you do to try to do it the way you want it? Something that would make you more free, more capable of being yourself. Try to talk, make suggestions or change the way you do your job. See if it makes a difference in the whole environment, or not. If there are treatments you can undergo to have a chance to improve your health, you might try them. How would you change it?
Phase Four: Actively Imagine the Transition
OKAY. You have done your best to be what you are in your current / old situation. You have raised your needs to your partner; You have worked on how to feel close again. In your work, you have done your best to change things so that you can feel accomplished in what is, after all, a large part of your days. You tried the treatments. But it becomes clear that your partner just does not share your vision and does not support the changes. Or your boss continues to reprimand people, workplace conflicts continue to bike with no resolution in sight. You feel hopeless, you hate going to work. Whatever situation you have tried to change, the changes do not stick. It keeps coming back to negative.
Now is the time to start imagining what you want in detail. At first, you will have no idea. There is an empty space in front of you. There is a feeling of drift, of nothingness, of not knowing. Stay with that feeling, while staying with knowing the change should occur. Interestingly, ideas will start coming, small or great-inspirations will arise, you will meet new people who share your interests, and so on. Grab them. Write ideas and inspirations; Getting to know new people; Follow trails, and so on. The more you do this, the more clarity you get.
Fifth phase: Do It. Transition
You have the ultimate goal in your mind. But of course, you can not necessarily get all of them at once. Maybe you have to break the whole thing into manageable pieces. A part of you could still be digging his heels in, which will make you want to go on tangents, or drift up, while another party wants to move on. Whenever you have the energy to take on a piece, do it, even if it is a small thing. Keep the final goal, vision, in your view all the time or as much as you can. When you take a small or big step, give yourself a lot of credit; Enjoy your courage. And then take the next piece, until you are in your new place. Or, if it is related to health, keep working on yourself indoors, until you have made a change to accept what is and live as peacefully as possible in it.