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How to Power Through Fear
Fear is a powerful emotion. While it can keep us safe in a dangerous situation, it often prevents us from taking important action in our daily lives. Whether your fear lies in socializing, talking over the phone, or even coming out of your house, these fears and anxieties keep you from living your life to the fullest. Rather than feeding into them, it is time to take action and conquer them. Here is a short guide that will teach you how to power through your fears!
1. Acknowledge That You Have a Fear of Something
Much like with a drinking problem, you have to acknowledge that you have a fear before you can overcome it. Let yourself know that you are positively afraid of something. Tell your friends. Shout it to the world. Post it on the internet. Whatever it is that you have to do in order to come to that realization, do it. Only when you are aware of your fear will you be able to power through it.
2. Take Baby Steps
It can be counterproductive to face your fear in its entirety. For example, let's imagine that you are terrified of the dark. Spending a night in a supposedly haunted asylum without a flashlight would be the worst possible thing you could do to yourself. Instead, take it a little at a time. Perhaps you could turn off the light for 5 seconds when you get out of the shower. Maybe you could spend the last few minutes before dawn with the lights off in your bedroom. Take small actions when you are first facing your fear and make sure that you don't go too far with your own personal challenges. Going too far could mean never going back.
3. Record the results
When we are wrapped up in our fears, we think of the worst possible outcomes. I hate to be the one to break it to you but it is highly unlikely that a monster is going to pop out of your closet and drag you into an abyss. These situations that stem from your fear are most often unlikely. When you first begin to do things that challenge your fears, write down the results of these experiments. Did a monster come out of your closet when you turned off the lights or were you perfectly fine even after the lights went out? I can almost guarantee that it was the second outcome. Once you see that nothing bad is going to happen to you, it will become easier to face your fears.
4. Gradually Adjust Your Challenges
You'll know when you are ready to take on something larger. You will feel it inside of you. That five seconds of darkness will no longer be a trial and you may be able to take 30 seconds or even one minute until you need to turn the lights back on. As you continue on your healing journey, make sure to adjust your challenges so that they meet your current abilities. Once you've beaten that next set of expectations, adjust your challenges again until you finally overcome your fear.
5. Keep It Positive
Don't get down on yourself if you fall short of expectations. Just like how it took us millions of years to evolve, it might take you a while to show progress or conquer your fear. All that matters is that you try. Stay positive, keep your head held high, and walk into every day with the desire to do better and show your fear that it has no power over you. Good luck!