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How to Reduce Stress and Get Out of A Commitment You've Made
Do you ever feel like you are running out of time?
Time is money. Learn how to manage your life so you won’t end up in the red. Manage your precious time effectively and get out of commitments you’ve made.
I’m all about keeping promises and our words being our bond, but sometimes we open our mouths before we open our brains.
If you happen to be like I was, then you need to change that right away.
Over committing to things that we don’t have the time or space for in our lives causes stress. Stress can lead to depression, illness and even death. Learn how to rid yourself of that monkey on your back and live the life you were born to live.
But, first you must be willing.
Are you ready to take a quantum leap so you can worry less and live more?
If so, then continue reading this hub. I’ll show you how to get out of things you should not have agreed to in the first place.
Spread too thin and just want to end it all?
To commit or To over-commit
To commit or To over-commitment
According to Websters…
To commit is to entrust.
To overcommit is obligate (as oneself) beyond the ability for fulfillment and/or to allocate (resources) in excess of the capacity for replenishment.
One sounds safe and the other sounds, not as safe. There is a reason why. To over-commit is to overdo it. It’s overkill. It’s (in my girlfriend voice) to do just too darn much. I’d rather say (in my girlfriend voice) do the darn thing, but when you over commit your girlfriends can’t say that to you. They want you to feel safe. Adding on too much stuff weighs down your life. You have to let go if you want to fly free.
Plan, See it, Live it: A Life of No Regrets is Yours
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Your No Regret Action Plan
Take Action Against Stress
- Create A Solid Plan
- Stick To It
- Protect and Preserve Your Most Important Asset - You
- Say No to The Things You Don't Want
- Say Yes to the Thing Things You Don't Want
- Live The Life You Dream About - Worry Free
Every Moment Counts
Worry Free Living is Possible!
How To Fly Free and Live With No Regrets
Know Your Limits. If you don’t know what your limits are, then find them. Do you actually have time for outside activities? Do you work a 9 – 5 job? Do you have to cook dinner after work, help the kids with homework or any other activities that you are already committed to after work? What do you do on the weekends? Are your weekends booked or filled with activities? Do you have time in your schedule just for you?
Have A Routine. Are you all over the place? Do you have a ritual? Most of us have a morning ritual, but after the morning, we’re mourning because we don’t know what we are doing all day. We are going with the flow. No, you can’t go with the flow if you want to live stress free. You must have a daily routine. Create a daily routine, stick to it and follow the dominoes as they fall down into place.
Keep A Schedule. Now that, you have a plan, you can keep a schedule. Too many times we over-commit because we have no idea what we are doing on a particular day. We are smart, so we keep our calendar in our heads. Get your calendar out of your head and into your hand. If you have a smart phone, download a schedule or time tracker to keep track of your activities. If you don’t have a smart phone, get a calendar or use a spreadsheet to track your obligations.
Key: When someone asks for your assistance, don’t commit to the task, commit to looking at your calandar and getting back to them.
Establish Boundaries. Make a list of things you certainly don’t want to do, places you don’t want to go, people you don’t want to work with and times when you don’t want to do anything. That’s your boundary list. Make a commitment to yourself not to go outside of those boundaries. When we do things we honestly don’t want, we get un-happy. We get stressed out. We feel miserable. A worry and stress-free life is a happy life. Don’t betray your boundaries once you’ve established them. To do so would be to allow sadness to enter your life.
Be Strong. What gives us strength? Knowledge. Doing the above tasks increases your self-knowledge and sets you free. The more you know about yourself (what you want and don’t like), the more you love yourself. It works like this: self-knowledge leads to self-love and self-love leads to self-care.
In life and in finances this is true, we protect and preserve what we love and care for. Self-knowledge is the way.
So, when anyone, that includes family, friends and loved ones ask you to do something that does not fit inside your self-knowledge base you have to decline politely.
Here are few things you can say;
After looking at my schedule, I’m booked on that day.
I have other plans.
(Smile) I made a commitment to myself not to get involved in that, go there, help with that, etc.
If they ask why, just tell them it’s just a promise that you’ve made to yourself.
When you are strong, happy and free: you feel confident. A confident person soars through life on wings because she knows what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Be strong, be confident, be worry-free and live, really live the life you dream about.