How to Survive When Your Heart and Spirit are Broken and Shattered
If you have ever have been truly broken and shattered you will know it. You will never be the same but there is hope.
This article is NOT about being disappointed your team lost the Super Bowl or that you spilled coffee on your shirt.
The first few years post devastation are especially important to your survival. Don't kill yourself as it will devastate others who love you and they will never be the same. You don't want to shatter others do you? There are people who care and/or love you.
Has Your Heart or Spirit Ever Been Broken Into a Million Pieces?
Being broken into a million pieces can happen in a variety of ways. The person you thought was your soul mate can hurt you to the extreme and shatter your dreams and happiness. This can leave you cold and lonely walking the world like a ghost...like an empty shell.
You can lose a child, a family member can die tragically in front of your eyes, you can find yourself in prison, your country and all you have ever known can disappear due to war and conflict, and on and on. There is no limit to the ways a person can be traumatized for life.
Try not to isolate yourself. There is a tendency to want to curl up and die or to alienate yourself from others. You will need a supportive family member or a few friends. If you truly have nobody a pet can be very helpful.
You will need medication and counseling. You will need to see a counselor or psychologist and will need to get a prescription medication from a doctor. No matter how tough you are or how you were raised to "pull yourself up by your boot straps"----it isn't going to work. Mental health and emotional issues no longer have the stigma surrounding them as they once did. Treatment will keep you alive and the sooner you get involved the better; it is not just for whimps or the weak as you may think. The so called whimps will survive because of it and Mr. or Ms. Tough will needlessly suffer without it.
Go to a church or a place of spiritual devotion. You are going to need it. The wisdom and beauty of the Bible or hearing something at church can be meaningful and comforting. It does not matter if you have mocked religion in the past or thought you were too smart or sophisticated. Go to a place of worship or read something like the Bible---it will help. You don't have to go to a Christian church of course but try to go somewhere where you can get some spiritual nourishment or comfort.
You will need time and lots of it. You will gradually, over a period of years, piece most of yourself back together but you will never be the same. Whoever said time heals all wounds was wrong. I'm sorry to depress you but I'm telling you the truth. A piece or two of you will always be missing.
Life is still worth living however and in the future you will once again smile and laugh. You will again enjoy music, a movie, or sports. You will again marvel at the beauty of green grass, a blue sky, a full moon, the ocean, etc. You will once again feel warm and fuzzy from seeing an adorable baby or cute puppy dog. You will once again enjoy sounds like the chirping of a bird or of frogs at night.