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How to Train Your Dragon: A Metaphor
In the movie of the same title, the hero, Hiccups, found a faithful friend in the dragon who was supposed to be an enemy. He named his dragon friend, Toothless and later discovered that there were certain quirks in the dragon that he could use to help him and his friend do complicated maneuvers such as the sudden turn, similar to a very sharp 90 degree corner in order to avoid bumping into a rock wall.
I had watched the movie the number of times my grandson had requested to play it. Little did I know at the time that it would turn to be a metaphor for learning how the, e.g. my, mind works.
The point that I considered most important in the movie is that willfulness, the villagers’ way of dealing with the dragons, which they considered pests, was not the way. It was Hiccups’ way, by way of learning from one’s dragon, not forcing it, that tamed the dragon.
Like it was actually the dragon that tamed the dragon rider.
This is very much like in the spirit of the Tao, going with The Way, learning from and how things are and flowing with The Way, the nature of things.
As regards for my mind and I being a metaphor for Toothless and Hiccups, there is an innate nature to the mind that I need to learn from and flow with, instead of forcing it. My mind has its ingrained habits, and when fed with certain thoughts, it will respond with certain feelings.
Like most of us, my mind is usually on auto-pilot. It is mostly unaware of what it is thinking, going about its daily world, mostly not noticing what is going on.
The Law of Attraction. Much has been written about the law of attraction, which is mostly the topic of the book, “The Secret.” What the law says is that what we constantly hold in our mind materializes in our experience.
So like Hiccups, we really need to train Toothless, to focus on positive ideas or imagery as much as we can in order to manifest more “favorable” circumstances in our life. Again, we need to mention that nothing good or bad per se really happens, but just is. (A life lived with sufficient retrospection usually reveals that circumstances we have labelled as negative in the past turn out to be blessings after all!)
Still there is merit in focusing on the good, as I have seen in my experience. When I dwell in my belief of a beneficent, loving God and Universe, so does the circumstance reveal or manifest itself.
Emotions as guide. Contrary to most people’s not wanting to be in touch with their feelings, it’s been written that we have been given emotions as our best friends, our emotional guidance system, which tells us if what we’re thinking or doing is in line with who we are or what will bring us happiness or not. Several people claim to not feel pain or for the most part no emotions at all. I would opine that either the person has reached sagehood, where judgment as to goodness or badness no longer applies, or to the other extreme, the person has numbed oneself off of one’s emotions.
Training the Dragon, Your Mind, on Making Complicated Maneuvers.
Step 1. Survey the Terrain
- Personal God. Determine whether the god that you profess to believe in is still the god of your conditional scripting or the God of your personal choice of beliefs, including One that is unconditionally loving and powerful. We may get to see some negative feelings arising if we still believe in a vengeful, cruel god. Whenever you’re able to catch such thoughts/feelings, replace them with an empowering god, your confidante and very Personal God.
- Self and Others. Start your day right with an expression of gratitude, e.g. for the gift of a new day, always with the promise of being something different from the previous day, which it actually is. With this perspective of gratitude, there is a snowballing effect that will cause for you and your universe to manifest more circumstances to be grateful for.
Look for the things to appreciate in yourself as well as others. Instead of comparing what you have to your neighbors’, be grateful for your blessings. There are more less fortunate than ourselves who we could reach out to, depending on our capacity. We may not be financially capable, but we have the gift of tongue to acknowledge and appreciate the good in others and ourselves. A smile can always go a long way, lighting up a whole place.
Acknowledging, appreciating and counting our blessings, gratitude are empowering as they manifest abundance in our circumstances.
Complaining, finding fault with self and others, comparing, pulls our thoughts/energy inward causing more of the ‘negative’ to manifest.
Our assurance is that the law of attraction doesn’t suddenly cause the thought to manifest right in front of our immediate surroundings. So the trick is to be mindful (e.g., 4Rs, a mindfulness technique for everyday life) to avoid dwelling in negative thoughts. Instead dwell on positive thoughts and imagery.
Step 2. Techniques
- One important item mentioned above is to start the day right. Aside from a thought of gratitude, You may want to explore starting the day with a silent sitting meditation, which works well for me. On the side it gives me insights (i.e., key words) for topics, such as for hubs like this.
- Habits and Routines. Practice using the observer point of view, i.e. observing what you are doing and saying while you are going about, e.g. drinking your coffee, washing the dishes, doing the laundry, etc.
- High Maintenance Relationships. With such difficult relationships, it would be helpful to use the same observer point of view to refrain from getting into heated arguments and thinking that your self-worth is dependent on who is proved to be in the right when settling an argument.
Maintaining an objective observer point of view in the face of aggression gives clarity of mind to gain valuable insights as to additional possibilities to use for resolution.
It is also important to understand that the difficult façade that these people are putting up against the world is not really something they can help but rather a cry for help. There may be nothing more important than exercising love and compassion towards others and self.
- Using affirmations such as:
“Divine law and order govern my life.
Divine right action control me.
Divine peace and harmony reign supreme.”
- James A. Boyer Revocable Trust, Oceanside, California, USA
- Dwelling on positive values such as peace, joy, love, compassion, etc.
- Writing your own mission, vision, values statement and posting on a prominent place in your home.
Step 3. Thank your dragon for all the techniques and maneuvers it has taught you, which you’ve learned together. It takes time to train your dragon. You’ve come so far, thank your dragon for having come this far together faithfully and for the opportunity for more adventure together.
Understanding that really ‘it is not calories you seek but contact with your soul ’ (as per Gary Zukav and Linda Francis), thank your dragon for being your bridge to your soul and to eternal truths.
See also: The Dragon Rider