- Quality of Life & Wellness
Intentions Are Your GPS
Using Your Thoughts as a Guide
Intention is essentially the purpose or reason why we do things. It may at times be hidden or at the very least it might be something we seem unaware of. When we go to work our intention would essentially be to make money but there may be other reasons such as obtaining a feeling of achievement and interaction with others. When we delve deeper into what our intentions really are we are able to better understand the areas we desire to see change in. Our thoughts are the key to opening up our true potential for happiness. Setting your intention is just like checking your GPS for direction
Uncovering The Truth
We all know what it feel like to act hastily and to later regret the decision. When we look back we might see other possibilities we could have implemented with far better results. At other times we have the luxury of taking our time to mull over ideas before we reach a decision, but for some of us this further adds to our confusion, with too many choices making it difficult to choose between.
Be careful where you dig.
When we slow down even just enough to take a deep breath and ask the question "What is my true intention here?" We are allowing our minds to dig deeper to identify where our true purpose lies.
To give you an example; lets say Jane is worried about her daughter Sally's irritable moods. When Sally is unhappy it makes Jane unhappy. Jane's first reaction is always to rush to Sally's side and offer anything that will make her happy. Jane believes it is her responsibility to make sure her daughter is happy. Jane's intention, she believes, is to make her daughter feel better. But when I asked her to consciously think about what her intention really was she was amazed to discover it was more about her own happiness and that she was actually stunting her daughters emotional growth by always providing a distraction. She was afraid of allowing her daughter to experience unhappy feelings, which after all are a large part of life and learning.
Her true intention had more to do with her own happiness than that of her daughter coupled with a fear of letting her daughter grow emotionally.
When it Feels Right
When confronted with choices, asking what your true intention is, makes the decision process so much easier. What 'feels right' becomes evident and second guessing yourself is eliminated.
When experiencing personal problems with no clear answers try writing your options down. Then, while thinking about each option in turn, try identifying the intention behind the decision if you were to choose it. If it feels right for you and would do no harm to another by choosing it then you have probably found your answer. But let me just clarify that when I say 'feels right to you' this does not imply 'of benefit to you'. There are times when decisions require us to be self sacrificing and I believe that until we all learn to utilise intention we will continue to act un- consciously (unaware). This lack of connection between our actions and consequences buries true intentions and creates unhappiness in ourselves and others.
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