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How to avoid fear in life

Updated on November 6, 2011

Fear is nothing but your imagination of how things might happen. Look at your reflection in your mirror. Smile at your reflection, it smiles back. Frown at your

Fear is an emotion you experience in some part of your life. Some are justified, whereas most are just your own imagination. You imagine something negative and that negative thought is fed into your brain and the output is fear. Your mind shirks from doing what you want to do for the fear of being unsuccessful. The result is that your progress gets stalled and you are locked in your situation with the fear you have, gaining in momentum to stall you even further.

You were not born with fear, were you? It is the way you were brought up which decides whether you are going to be courageous or timid with fear. If you are brought up too strict by your parents, you tend to lack the fighting spirit as your thinking and discerning ability has been crushed and nipped in the bud. But if you were brought up in a friendly atmosphere with your parents giving you the liberty of independent thinking and decision, you will naturally become dynamic and courageous.

Let us negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate’-John.F. Kennedy.

Do you start for work energetically or do you cringe with fear thinking of the wrath of your boss and the piles of work unfinished? Take a look at your colleague. He sports a smile and is deft in his work. Do you envy him? What makes him different from you? The answer is quiet simple, he is a go- getter, always positive in his approach and he is work efficient. If you worry too much about your inability, you are going to freeze into inaction and your work load starts assuming an enormous uphill task.

Stop thinking negatively about yourself and make it a habit to become positively assertive. You will be amazed to find yourself becoming work efficient if you go ‘towards’ your problem. Yes, always gotowards’ your problem, not away from it .When you approach in a positive way towards your problem, you will find that you have made a mountain out of a’ no problem’. Your mind should be clear to accept suggestions and you should be friendly with your colleagues. Split your work into daily activities and you will be no work pile up.

Do you fear to approach people thinking that they may not reciprocate in a proper way? So you avoid that person whose contact might do your business a boost up. Your mind tells you that it is impossible to meet the person with whom if you had business dealings, your business will take a kangaroo leap towards success. You shy away from meeting that person as his towering significance makes you feel small and unimportant. You will be surprised to know that the person you fear to meet came to this position because he was fearless to experiment. No one is born successful; they work for their success and achieve it with their untiring enthusiasm and zeal.

‘Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that fear has no power and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free’. - Jim Morrison

Fear is nothing but your imagination of how things might happen. Look at your reflection in your mirror. Smile at your reflection, it smiles back. Frown at your reflection, it frowns back. It is the same with your fear also. If you give undue importance to your fear, it clings to you and fetters your progress to a standstill. On the other hand shove it aside and it melts down to nothingness. It is all in your hands. If you have to fear something it is your conscience, nothing else.


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      paru 5 years ago

      iam very much fear to deal with can i over come this?

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      dilip shukla 5 years ago

      it's great . it has come up to my exceptation

      . thanks a lot

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      mathira 6 years ago

      I had experienced fear in my life and that was the period when my confidence level hit rock bottom.It was when I left my hold on fear did I see some success in life.Thank you Christine for your good comments.

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      Christine P Ann 6 years ago from Australia

      you are very wise and your words are true mathira. Fear is crippling and yet the majority of us experience it everyday and don't realise it can be overcome once we see it for what it really is. :)

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      mathira 6 years ago

      You are true NiaLee,fear does paralyze you and it is nice to see that you have made efforts to overcome it.It is the same with me,when I feared anything ,I froze into inactivity,when I overcame it ,I was able to move along my life.

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      NiaLee 6 years ago from BIG APPLE

      Thank you so much, when I faced fear in the past, it paralyzed me and made me unable to accomplish or reach what I needed to. It took out a whole part of my life... afraid to face so many things that will actually make me a greater person and a more successful person.

      Now, I just take a deep breath and tell myself that I will find a way to handle the situation with the love, peace and determination needed. I can do anything.. I may need to readjust things but I find a way to get there...always!

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      Ram Bansal 6 years ago from India

      The best way of eliminating a fear in most of the cases is to reach the reality through logic and you find there is nothing to fear about. Any way, a good hub, thanks for sharing your views.