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How to avoid fear in life
Fear is nothing but your imagination of how things might happen. Look at your reflection in your mirror. Smile at your reflection, it smiles back. Frown at your
Fear is an emotion you experience in some part of your life. Some are justified, whereas most are just your own imagination. You imagine something negative and that negative thought is fed into your brain and the output is fear. Your mind shirks from doing what you want to do for the fear of being unsuccessful. The result is that your progress gets stalled and you are locked in your situation with the fear you have, gaining in momentum to stall you even further.
You were not born with fear, were you? It is the way you were brought up which decides whether you are going to be courageous or timid with fear. If you are brought up too strict by your parents, you tend to lack the fighting spirit as your thinking and discerning ability has been crushed and nipped in the bud. But if you were brought up in a friendly atmosphere with your parents giving you the liberty of independent thinking and decision, you will naturally become dynamic and courageous.
‘Let us negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate’-John.F. Kennedy.
Do you start for work energetically or do you cringe with fear thinking of the wrath of your boss and the piles of work unfinished? Take a look at your colleague. He sports a smile and is deft in his work. Do you envy him? What makes him different from you? The answer is quiet simple, he is a go- getter, always positive in his approach and he is work efficient. If you worry too much about your inability, you are going to freeze into inaction and your work load starts assuming an enormous uphill task.
Stop thinking negatively about yourself and make it a habit to become positively assertive. You will be amazed to find yourself becoming work efficient if you go ‘towards’ your problem. Yes, always go ‘towards’ your problem, not away from it .When you approach in a positive way towards your problem, you will find that you have made a mountain out of a’ no problem’. Your mind should be clear to accept suggestions and you should be friendly with your colleagues. Split your work into daily activities and you will be no work pile up.
Do you fear to approach people thinking that they may not reciprocate in a proper way? So you avoid that person whose contact might do your business a boost up. Your mind tells you that it is impossible to meet the person with whom if you had business dealings, your business will take a kangaroo leap towards success. You shy away from meeting that person as his towering significance makes you feel small and unimportant. You will be surprised to know that the person you fear to meet came to this position because he was fearless to experiment. No one is born successful; they work for their success and achieve it with their untiring enthusiasm and zeal.
‘Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that fear has no power and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free’. - Jim Morrison
Fear is nothing but your imagination of how things might happen. Look at your reflection in your mirror. Smile at your reflection, it smiles back. Frown at your reflection, it frowns back. It is the same with your fear also. If you give undue importance to your fear, it clings to you and fetters your progress to a standstill. On the other hand shove it aside and it melts down to nothingness. It is all in your hands. If you have to fear something it is your conscience, nothing else.