- Mental Health
How to be street smart: Being street smart is a way of life
Why do you need to learn how to be street smart? Because there's more to life than having fancy degrees and years of education. This article strips bare some of the basic things you need to remember to survive and succeed in all walks of life whether it is a classroom, college dorm, workplace, relationship or simply while taking a walk down the street, by being street smart. Men, women, guys, girls, couples, children and the elderly – Gender no bar and age no bar, everyone is free to take tips.
Note: Everyone knows not to venture out in the streets of a bad neighborhood. Everyone knows not to get into unnecessary fist fights. Everyone knows that they must keep their valuables and other personal belongings closely guarded. These are day to day tips and not what we're here for primarily, however we will brush up on them at the end of this article.
For now, let's pick up some of the basic emotional, psychological and behavioral lessons of life and incorporate them into our own. For each tip, there is no magic wand that Princesswithapen can wave to make you street smart instantly. You will need to actively implement them in your daily routine and make them a part and parcel of your overall personality and way of life. While you may not get a gold medal or a fancy certificate for learning these tips, you may save yourself from harm, financial loss, injury or even death.
1) Stop being nice all the time
While being nice to people around you is a good thing, being nice all the time is a trait or a habit that can come back and bite you in the behind. Why? It's quite simple. There is always someone who is lurking around the corner to take advantage of your niceness. Any overtly nice school kid will tell you how his niceness made him let go of his lunch box every second day to please the school bully. Any overtly nice professional will tell you how they are putting in long hours at work just because they want to please their bosses. Any friend will tell you how others took advantage and got him/her to drive them around town all the time. You get the point, don't you?
What you can do to be street smart: Don't stop being nice to people. Just stop thinking that being nice to everyone you meet is an obligation. It is okay if you come out to be rude, once in a while. Stop carrying that fake smile around town and you'll be fine.
2) Carry a confident posture
If someone tells you that body language is the be all and end all of a first impression, believe them. And the most important element of projecting a good body language is a great posture. Carrying a confident posture will project you as a strong and levelheaded personality. Now no one wants to mess around with a strong personality, don't you think?
What you can do to be street smart: Start by keeping a straight back and walking with a zing in your step. Stop slouching and walk with your head held up high. A confident posture will get you places, literally.
3) Speak properly and manage your conversations well
No, you don't need to train to be a fantastic orator like Mr. Obama himself, but you should learn how to speak properly. Being street smart is all about navigating through the sticky corners of life and managing conversations is one of them. How many times are we all faced with having a conversation or argument with an annoying friend or an arrogant boss? You must learn how to remain calm and work your way through a messy conversation to have your way with people.
What you can do to be street smart: Being practical, we all know that you are not going to become a star converser overnight. Start by speaking loudly, clearly and not talking too fast. Think before you speak and remember - Once the words come out of your mouth, they can't be taken back.
4) Stop trusting everyone around you
The most vital element of the mindset of a person who is street smart is that they refrain from trusting the motives of everyone around them. In day to day life, especially when you are in a good mood, it is very easy to get carried away and believe that everyone around you means well for you. In reality, chances of that happening are very slim. The 21st century is all about winning the rat race and everyone is out to make a buck, the good way or the bad way. And if making a buck involves betray your trust, you better start believing that even your most trusted associates will not blink an eyelid before doing so. Yes, we all are aware that trust is one of the basic foundations on which relationships and humanity in general functions. But don't take trust for granted.
What you can do to be street smart: To become street smart, start questioning the motives of people you meet. Don't be overtly judgmental or suspicious, but be aware and don't start trusting someone too soon.
5) Don't be afraid to say no
The best of us fall into the trap of not being able to say no, when it matters the most. Regret, is one of the worst feelings and not saying no at the right time can immerse you into a pool of gloom later on. While you may think "Oh what if I sound too rude", well, too bad. If you don't learn to say no today, you will regret it tomorrow. Learning how to be street smart is all about pushing the boundaries and maintaining a fine balance between giving others what they want while protecting your own interests.
What you can do to be street smart: If you are in a situation you don't want to be in or you are being coerced into doing something you don't want to do, simply put your foot down and say no.
6) Learn to hide your emotions
You really don't need to be a rocket scientist to know that the things you say are not the only indicators of your emotional condition. From the way you walk and talk to the way you behave, your expressions and your body language are going to reveal how you feel, just like how an open book would lay bare the script to a reader. In this case, a person out to con you may very well be the reader while you may be the open book.
What you can do to be street smart: Learn how to hide your emotions and practice on a daily basis. Don't get nervous easily and try to be calm even in the most nerve wracking situations. Yes, it is easier said than done. But if Kim Kardashian can be a household name, you can learn how to hide your emotions and become street smart.
7) Learn to trust and accept your gut feeling
"The thought crossed my mind. But I didn't do it. Although I wish I had. Life would've been different" This thought is a classic example of what happens when we refuse to trust our gut instinct. If you are in a street corner and you see a few not-so-friendly guys hanging out and your heart tells you to bolt out of there, bolt out. The last thing you want is to regret not bolting out while you are sitting in a wheelchair because of an unprovoked attack on that street corner.
What you can do to be street smart: Learn to trust and accept your gut feeling. While that may seem risky in the start, you will soon develop a habit of having the right gut feeling most of the time.
8) Be very wary of people who are just too friendly
A guy may thank his stars if he bumps into an overtly friendly beautiful girl at a pub. A girl may think that today was written in the heavens above if she happens to meet a single billionaire who wants to take her to Paris for a dinner date. While these make for picture perfect moments, the reality of life is that they are generally anything but picture perfect. People who are too friendly towards you may have malicious intentions. Watch out!
What you can do to be street smart: If a random stranger or a not-so-close acquaintance seems to be overtly friendly or just too nice, be on your guard. Always remember, there are no free lunches in life. And if someone is making an offer which seems too good to be true, it probably isn't.
9) Remember your skills and talents and use them where necessary
Are you a black belt in Karate? Have you taken kickboxing lessons? Do you have an outstanding IQ? Do you have splendid oratory skills? Are you a literary genius? Do you have a natural knack for making sales? Do you have any other skill that can help you in a situation of distress or simply get an upper hand during an argument or discussion? If you do, use your skill at every single opportunity you get in life. People who are street smart are not unique nor are them made from a different material from outer space. All they do is utilize their skills, talents and abilities to the fullest and to their advantage. And no prizes for guessing here, you should do the same too.
What you can do to be street smart: Whether it is pinning a work colleague down in an argument with your out of the world knowledge or pinning a would be attacker down with your out of the world karate skills, use your skill to gain the upper hand in every corner and at every moment in life.
Day to day tips on being street smart
- Avoid venturing into unsafe neighborhoods even if it means a longer commute
- Be aware of your personal belongings when you step out of the house
- If an argument or confrontation is not worth the hassle, move on
- Always hold on tightly to your valuables
- Don't be afraid to raise an alarm
- Remember the places and people you can go to if you need help
- Most importantly, start putting into practice the psychological side of learning how to be street smart that we discussed earlier – After all, practice makes perfect!