Living with someone who is going through the menopause: how to cope
The menopause occurs in woman form the ages of 40 onwards. Mostly woman in their 50's will first experience the onset symptoms of the menopause.
When the body decides it is time for a woman to have the menopause, they will experience:
- Mood Swings
- Hot Flashes
- Night Sweats
- Weight Gain.
Many women might decide to try to combat these symptoms and relies on HRT treatment to help them through it. There are other alternative treatments also available to women who do not want to go down the route of medications to help them overcome their symptoms.
A doctor can give a diagnosis to a woman if she experiences those symptoms if she is unsure if she is experiencing the Menopause.
When a woman is experiencing the menopause it is not only her who is living through the symptoms but her family too. While she is experiencing the physical and mental symptoms, her family is also experiencing the mental symtoms of her living with her behaviour.
How do the family of a woman coping with the menopause live with this live with her when she is going through it? The woman will be the ones living through the symptoms, but the people in her family will also have to live with her and the change that will occur in her behaviour.
Many times the woman will take her frustrations out of her family members like her husband and children.
Behaviour of woman going through the menopause
What to expect of your wife or mother when she is going through the menopause. Many symptoms will vary depending on type of woman and whether when is taking something for her symptoms or not.
- Yelling will become a frequent occurrence. Every time she has a bad day, she will take it out on the person nearest her.
- Everything will now annoy her. Nothing you say to defend yourself will be accepted.
- For no reason at all you will either be ignored or nagged for no reason whatsoever.
- If you are asked to do something and you do not do it straight away, she will start arguing with you about it.
- If you confront her when she has calmed down about her behaviour she will plead ignorance and deny that she has done anything to hurt your feeling.
- Some woman will deny many years later that they had no symptoms of the menopause, even though their children will tell you differently.
How the family can cope with someone living through the menopause
If you live with someone who is going through the menopause there are some tips you need to learn how to cope and live in some form of harmony. They might work sometimes but be aware that you must keep them to yourself.
- If you share a car with your wife/ mother, ensure that you keep the tank of the car filled with fuel.
- Stay calm and learn to start ignoring things. This is hard and also the toughest thing to do. When someone starts arguing with you, your first thing is to start arguing too. But it is vital that you start becoming ignorant. You cannot reason with someone who is unreasonable. They will not listen to you. Either leaves the room or the house if you need to if they follow after you.
- If you do not live at home with your mother, then only visit on the weekends. Not only are you reducing the amount of hostility you will have to experience. If you can organise to meet in public, this further reduces the likelihood of you getting into arguments.
- If you can reason with her, try to get her to seek treatment either from the doctor or some form alternative treatment.
- Try to remember the good times. Eventually your wife/ mother will get over these symptoms. It might take a year, but they will gradually stop occurring.
- If you can stay positive and remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you will be able to get through it.
This hub was not written to offend anyone. Living through the menopause is tough and not something that is easy for any woman. I am trying to tell the story of the people who have to live with the behaviour of the person who is having the menopause.