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How to deal with problems in life?

Updated on November 11, 2013
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How to deal with problems in life?

One of the common complaints we hear from the people surrounded us are problems they are facing. Every day and everywhere there is problems. Many times we find it hard to stay happy. When one problem is solved, another one comes up.

People have money problems, work problems, Relationship problems, family problems, health problems..... the list goes on. And we tempt to think that people who are happy and successful are having less problem than us. Looking at the successful people we say, look, they don't have much problem. They have money they needed, they have job they love, they have good friends, they have obedient kids, they have the successful business, they have loving family etc. Everything going well with them. That is why they are happy and successful. But the reality is that the more successful you are, the more problems you have to face. More success means more challenges they have to face, more success means more risk they have to take.

The number of problems they are facing makes them more successful. In India, for leading a peaceful life, people often go to the forest or lonely places like mountains or valleys to sit there and meditate. They are called "Sadu" or "Sanyasi". They leave behind their obligation to the family or relatives. They are happy and peaceful. They are running away from life. The other group they do not have problems are the people rest in peace at graveyard! Rest every one has problems, one way or the other.

No wonder, you would be happy, if everything goes well with you.

Young and old, rich and poor, successful and unsuccessful, educated and uneducated, all have problems. The difference is the level of their problems vary from each other.  Rich and successful have big problems. Poor and unsuccessful have small problems. Still they all have problems which they can face. Successful people are successful just because they are ready to face challenges larger than normal people.

Poor are poor just because they are not ready to face challenges and problems which rich people are ready to face. That is the difference. Winning the US elections make Barack Obama very happy. As a new US president, he has to face bigger challenges. He has to do right and innovative things, otherwise he will lose his position. If he has to keep his position, he has to face new challenges. He has to be more careful about his work he does and the decisions he makes to run the country on a daily basis. Looking at him, we may say he is lucky, happy and successful. But, I think, as the US president, he has to bear more stress than he as an ordinary citizen.

You may ask "if life is loaded with full of problems then How can we find happiness in life"?"

The answer is find happiness while taking care of your problems. Deal your problems with a free mind. Learn to laugh at your problems which we face in our journey. Don't take life so seriously. We must remember the key strategy of the greatest philosopher ever lived in this world.

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? "And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?'

On the other hand we need problems. They will make us grow.

Problems are there to make us grow and learn. When you face a problem, it is an indication that we need to change our way of life or improve ourselves and change our behavior. If you are fighting with your spouse or partner, no matter whose fault it may seem to be, it is an indication that you need to change the way you behave and communicate with your spouse.

As a responsible husband or wife, if you decided to evaluate yourself and choose to take some positive actions like spending more time with your spouse, showing more love, appreciating your partner more, listening with your heart and communicating honestly, you would solve the problem and end up as a better person yourself. You would grow when you face problems.

If you have money problems, it is an indication that you need to improve the way you spend your money. You need to analyze your financial status and learn to manage your money. Learn to avoid unnecessary expenses, and learn to purchase value for money. Learn to earn money. Don't run after branded items and first class seats. By analyzing and correcting your way of spending and investing you can claim victory over your financial problems. Learn to be content with what you have. You learned from your problem. So there must be problems for the growth. It make us grow into a better person. When we grow in that level, life will take you to the another level of success. So, problems are the steps to your growth and success. It will get you into a successful business or having a love life in your relationship.

When you avoid problems or not dealing with your problems properly means you are growing downwardly.

Let me explain. When you having a small fight in your family, instead of dealing with it properly, you can run away or ignore and start blaming others. Then these problem will grow day by day, which will brake your relationship. Then you enter into another relationship hopping to lead a better life. But very soon you will find the same problem in the worst form. Then you think that the earlier life was better than this. If you ignore the knock of the life, life will come with a bat to hit you. If you avoid that also and not changing, life will hit you with something heavier than the bat and crush you. Your growth will be downward and you will grow to a worst person in life. We see such shattered and bitter persons around us. So be careful when you face problems.

When you have money problems, it is a knock from the life. If you avoid or ignore it, very soon you will become bankrupt. You know Mike Tyson earned around $ 300 million in his boxing Carrier but lost everything and filed for bankruptcy in 2003 owing to a debt of $ 27 million. There are a number of successful persons out there who lost their fortune by living a wiled life. They are successful in one area, but not successful in another area of life.

Unless you change yourself, the same problems will come in your way from every walk of your life.

If you learn and change, life will take you to another level of success.

Have you ever noticed that some people keep on experiencing the same problem in every company they are working and in every relationship they are entered into. They often fail to realize that they are the ones who creating the problem consciously or unconsciously. Instead of blaming others, they need to change them self. What they need to do is change themselves.

Solve it when it is small.

Problems starts with small arguments. Ignoring it start occasional fights. Still ignoring it, then it happens frequently and you fell into bitter fight which will end up in separation or end of the relation. See, problems also grow day by day.

Successful people know how to deal with problem when it is small. That is why they are happy and successful. They do not have much problems.

Successful people know how to manage their money when they face small money problems. Start act on it. Deal with it. Correct it.

When you have small health problem, manager your diet. Deal with it. You will become successful, healthy millionaire, with a happy relationship very soon


It is the time to look at God

Jesus told his disciples that "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” Yes there is trouble in this world. One way or the other, we all have to go through some kind of troubles. It may very from person to person, place to place, culture to culture, but all have to go through some troubles in this life.

God could have kept Joseph out of jail, kept Jeremiah from being tossed into a slimy pit, kept Daniel out of the lion’s den, kept Paul from being shipwrecked three times, and kept the three Hebrew young men from being thrown into the blazing furnace, but he didn’t. He let those problems happen, and each of those people were drawn closer to God as a result.

When we go through the troubles and problems, it draw us near to God. It help us to look at God. It help us pray earnestly to God. That is the time when we pray our honest, heart felt and authentic prayer. God is the only one who can deliver us from all of our troubles.

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      Roshan Koirala, Nepal 3 years ago

      Whatever life will go on so don't worry about future just live in today.

      You will achieve happiness, success and your bright future.

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      Daffodil 3 years ago

      Don't warry about problems ,just face it !learn to appreciate things you have and find positive aspects in everthing you can.

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      Anna 4 years ago

      All people do have problems. And this doesn't depend upon the fact, how rich or how successful they are. Different people treat problems in different way and that's the point. Sometimes we tend to exaggerate things, but the devil is not so black as he is painted. Sometimes we get extremely upset with trifles, we are constantly complaining and grievhow unlucky we are. At this time think about people, who suffer from mortal diseases or have gone through real distress.

      Learn to appreciate things you have and find positive aspects in everythig you can.

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      viji 4 years ago

      thank u for our useful comments

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      problemsproblems 4 years ago

      good article. but nothing helps in this world to deal with problems.

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      Monika 4 years ago

      Hi

      Its Great job ! A goodway to live happy and make other happy

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      Prince 4 years ago

      Thanks . Master our religion said that how to deal with problems ,big problems . This religion is islam .do you know muslims they are very good and they have good life .think about it

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      silesia 4 years ago

      Thanks all fro your good advise

      May the Lord bless this beautyful Message

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      jacobkuttyta 4 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks all for your kind visits and comments.

      May God bless you all

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      THUITA 4 years ago

      THANKS U SEEM TO HAVE A WIDE KNOWLEDGE OF THAT TOPIC. KEEP ON INSPIRING OTHERS.

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      KN 4 years ago

      thank you all very very useful

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      Alex Adam 4 years ago

      Very interesting blog post thank you for writing it I just added your blog to my favorites and will be back :) By the way this is a little off subject but I really like your blogs layout.

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      jacobkuttyta 5 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks for highlighting the mistakes.

      Also thanks for taking time to read my hubs.

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      johngreat 5 years ago

      correction: people who face problems ! sorry.

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      johngreat 5 years ago

      spelling mistakes like bare for bear etc. quite a few. avoid them. it reads well. some encouragement for people face problems...

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      anitha 5 years ago

      everything mentioned above is easy to talk, but very difficult to adopt & accept in real life

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      poornima 5 years ago

      wonderfull article.

      Thanks for sharing.

      i have self experienced really what u have written.

      Sincere prayers,immense faith in God & honest efforts makes your life journey worthwhile & more experienced

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      Manoj 5 years ago

      I am very happy with my problems because it helps to live happy life in future THANK FULL TO YOUR THOUGHTS.

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      Raghvendra Sharma 5 years ago

      Very well written article. I'll try to implement the given suggestions.

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      sri 5 years ago

      its a good advice but lets see how it works on my life

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      mayette 5 years ago

      i loved it..thanks for being an inspiration. God bless..:-)..

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      P-black 5 years ago

      Thanks very much,i realy enjoy reading it

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      satish.k 5 years ago

      Excellent message to those who struglling for life problems.

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      shamlee 5 years ago

      great reading, superb advice!

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      Rhysally 5 years ago

      i agree with you, will try to apply now to myself and see if will work..

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      saeed 5 years ago

      good advises

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      bhagdkbose 5 years ago

      gaandu

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      guy 5 years ago

      Yeah good advise; my problem is I try to do good but life sucks I try to plz my wife all the time but the more I do for her the more she wants never can be plz I'm tired what should I do

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      nory 5 years ago

      Thanks hubs...good advice!it helps me a lot

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      nory 5 years ago

      Thanks hubs...good advice!it helps me a lot

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      aren 5 years ago

      Thanks for these.... it really helped me.. speciall in my philosophy of life...

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      saeed 5 years ago

      good tips

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      sandip 5 years ago

      it was really a nice tip,,,, it can anyones life,,,

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      GOLD 5 years ago

      NICE PIECE THANKS

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      aya 5 years ago

      thank you , good advic

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      .ll 5 years ago

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      SIBIRITION 5 years ago

      We face problems to grow thus a good one there. thanks very much that is wonderful work done. happy new year and stay blessed.

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      Nazar 5 years ago

      Wow wat an inspiring words and thoughts , face the problem with guts and self confidence

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      malik 5 years ago

      thank u very much its a good one. NO PAIN NO GAIN

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      saeed2011 5 years ago

      A nice and good advice

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      Betty Bolden 5 years ago from Bucyrus Ohio

      oh life problems are all over me..thank you for this

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      KAHSAY NEGASH 5 years ago

      *NO SUCCESS WITHOUT A PROBLEM*

      THEREFORE A PROBLEM IS A BEST TEACHER

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      kahsay negash(ethiopian) 5 years ago

      that is a good advice & this makes me to be successful in my problems.And i want also to advice you to continue with your good works.

      good bye

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      isha 5 years ago

      good job

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      Suzette 6 years ago

      Totally agree...I learn more about life.

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      sweetie1 6 years ago from India

      Beautiful hub and i do agree with you that everyone has problems. Infact the day you come on this earth your problems start and don't end till you end. Though i don't beleive that sadhus don't have problems. They do have problems of food, health, clothing infact everything and on top of it they have to beg for everything. Yes they have run away from responsiblities like cowards but their problems don't end there.

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      Arpana 6 years ago

      YEs........ liFE gives us lessons to learn.

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      jose 6 years ago

      I am very impressed and to confess, I have learn so much. I pray that with this lesson learn from your article will help me deal with life problems. ofcourse i take life very serious which i believe have led to continuous stress and unhappiness i faced on a daily basis.

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      SimpleSystemWorks 6 years ago

      Interesting insights! I personally feel that understanding ourself first is the key to solving most problems in our daily life. It is the key to lead you to where your heart really belongs!

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      jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India

      Dear Noluthando,

      Whether you did right or wrong is not the question. The question is how you are dealing with the the wrong doers. Are you dealing with it? Are you making them aware that they did wrong? Do you communicate that you cannot continue with or tolerate the wrong they are doing? Deal it with a free mind. You are worthy. You have rights and obligation while in relationship. Know about it and act upon it. That is the key to lead a successful life.

      Thanks for your visit and comment

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      Noluthando 6 years ago

      what if you did not do wrong? what change do you adapt in, how do you cope with it? what reasons must you have for it to flash away.life sometimes can be unfare

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      jam 6 years ago

      it's really accommodating for those who have problems to read some article like that!!!

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      emma 6 years ago

      lot have been said... i think am in the right place at the right time..........all i can say is thank you for these good words

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      jaz 6 years ago

      really good advice....!!!!

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      jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks all

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

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      jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks all

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

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      layeni nurudeen atanda 6 years ago

      i thank u very much 4 ur advice,it is quite appreciating.my no is 08077664335.lagos nigeria.

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      Nittu 6 years ago

      Well i agree to you and your words.But I would like to add something to this.Situations get worse when u hangup yourself to small issues and keep banging your head on thinking of the reasons and asking yourself why,why, why ????? it happened."Forget" and "Forgive" are two good words we have which will let us feel quite relax .

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      denden mangubat 6 years ago from liloan, cebu, philippines

      nice hub

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      view 6 years ago

      Very practical advice, really good hub.

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      Johnyboy 7 years ago

      To answer the title question I would say "With Calm" :D

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      sudheer 7 years ago

      its something useful in one's life to develop in all respects.....

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks shihab eldeen for your kind visit and comment

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      shihab eldeen 7 years ago

      thank you for all

      I think The size of your problem defined by your efforts to convince your self that isn’t a problem

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way this week. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

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      sanjay 7 years ago

      nice tips,really very helpful

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      Sudhish 7 years ago

      Really valuable & motivating comments. I am ready to face any problem now.

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      Vaibhav 7 years ago

      Simply great advice and article to deal with all sort of problems in life. Thanks you so much Mr. Jacob for enlightening people in today's gloomy scenario, where world is saturated with problems.............! Keep up the good job.

      God Bless U.

      Regrds

      Vaibhav

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      kevintuga 7 years ago

      Excellente and interesting article, you said in a small text a important Word's How problems in life can be resolve and not be ignored .

      Thank's for HUB continue with your Good work :D

      Coment my hub's

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      Person of Interest 7 years ago from USA

      Excellent article. So much so,that I've linked to it.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      It is important to teach children at an early age, how to handle stress' and problems.

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      artlia garcia 7 years ago

      thank you for your very2x good advise.. I've learned a lot...

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      nikitha p 7 years ago from India

      Nice article

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks for your comment Fucsia.

      I think money problem can be overcome by our actions.

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      fucsia 7 years ago

      I agree with this kind of mindset, but some problems can't be resolved and sometimes can't be accepted. I think, for example, those who have money problems, real problems. There are many people in the world that can not ward off the cold, eating, sleeping in a bed. perhaps these are problems that can only be solved by the entire population, only with the help of all.

      another problem that is can't be resolved is a serious disease, although by disease we can always learn a lot.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks all

      Thanks Pollyannalana,

      Thanks lovelife999 ,

      Thanks Paul Stretton ,

      Thanks curlyqt5 ,

      Thanks gudiya ,

      Thanks Madison22,

      Thanks RUEL,

      Thanks Styling,

      Thanks kims3003

      Thank you very much for your visit and encouraging comment.

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      kims3003 7 years ago

      An extra special hub. Great writing

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      Styling 7 years ago

      First of all, the word ‘problem’ is so negative that even labeling situation as a problem we already have a problem. There’s no such thing as ‘problem’. We need to realize what we call problem is actually change of ‘set of circumstances’. Things in life are never static, everything is constantly changing. The most wonderful things in life are bound to change but good news is with ‘bad’ things too. Nothing ever stays the same. Once we accept changes as part of our life, only than we can shift our perception about ‘problems’. It’s never situation which cause suffering, it’s only our interpretation about certain situation. Let’s start with something small; try calling ‘change of circumstances’ instead ‘problems’ and see how you feel. You might suddenly realize that problems do not have the same impact on you as they used to. You might be surprised.

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      RUEL 7 years ago

      Its a great advice, just remember all people living this world have different problem, just have faith in our almighty and solution will come in the right time.

      We must enjoy our life in every moment.

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      Madison 7 years ago from NYC

      Excellent advice! Thank you for sharing them. :-)

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      gudiya 7 years ago

      Great advice, thanks for posting!

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      curlyqt5 7 years ago from Bay Area

      Nice hub! I enjoyed reading it!

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      Paul Stretton 7 years ago

      Great advice, thanks for posting!

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      Paul Stretton 7 years ago

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      lovelife999 7 years ago

      really awesome, great hub.

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      Pollyannalana 7 years ago from US

      I agree with RevLady but with you that when problems do come we need patience if our mates aren't as quick to solve or learn. Whether we want them or not problems will come and our knowledge, attitude and willingness to do the right thing will decide how bad or how often. Like learning to walk I guess, and we go on learning throughout life.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Rishfa for your comment

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      Rishfa 7 years ago

      Awesome :):) thanks for the great advice

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks stars439 and Hanna Ministries for your comment

      It's encouraging..

      Thanks once again

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      Hannah Ministries 7 years ago

      Isn't it great that we really need the problems to grow? God Bless you. I love your hubs. Became a follower.

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Good Advice. God Bless You

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks all for your visits and comments

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      Harsh Sharma 7 years ago from Mumbai,India

      Good food for thought.Its all in the mind Jacobkuttyta and a matter of taking ownership and responsibility.

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      losestomachfat 7 years ago from Australia

      Some top shelf hubs, very useful information for everyone!

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      Nate Kelley 7 years ago

      Very good thoughts and ideas... Keep up the good hubs

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      Hussains 7 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nice article, great advice.

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      losestomachfat 7 years ago from Australia

      I think its essential for someone to accept the facts that problems will always present themselves in your life, and by accepting this I think your fundamental attitude tends to change into, ok how can I better tackle, cope and provide potential solutions for future problems.

      I think what makes small or even mediocre problems huge disasters is denial and a common tendency to sweep things under the carpet so the problems is unseen.

      But any great problem solver will tell you that in doing this you create the potential of a problem evolving into a full blown train wreck.

      Great hub!

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      Capci 7 years ago

      thanx for ur good advice...

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      Loralie Lyndon 7 years ago from USA

      Excellent hub! Thanks for the great advice.

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      Peg Cole 7 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      You've got some great advice here, Jacobkuttyta. Problems are truly a fact of life whether we're rich or poor. It's how we choose to deal with our problems that defines us. Some complain, others look for a way to solve.

      We've been assured, "Seek and ye shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you." We must look for our answers.

      Great hub. I look forward to reading your others.