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4 Steps to Rebound from Disappointments in Your Life

Updated on September 20, 2017
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Dr. Yvette Stupart is a clinical counselor and educator. She gives insights on how to experience emotional health and relational well-being.

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Dealing with disappointments is never easy, but you can find the strength you need to effectively handle your disappointments and move with your life.

These steps will help you to become more self-aware, re-evaluate your expectations, and learn from your disappointing experience, to successfully chart your course forward.

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions

As you grapple with dealing with your setback, don’t push away your feelings of disappointment. You need to keep in touch with your feelings as they form a part of who you are. You not only need to be aware of your emotions, but you must also be able to manage them at this time.

Psychologist, Daniel Goleman, developed five basic elements that define emotional intelligence. This can help you during your time of disappointment, and promote your well being. These elements include self-awareness which is knowing your emotions, and self-regulation which indicates your ability able to manage these emotions. In addition, empathy helps you to recognize and understand other people’s emotions.

As you move through the challenging situation, practice keeping touch with your emotions and managing them in your daily life. As you do, you will find that you are better able to deal with the important issues at hand, and handle your disapointments.

2. Be Open to New Perspectives

Another important step is to increase your awareness by acknowledging the role you play in the disappointing situation. By doing so, you are able to put things in a new perspective, and learn from your experiences. This will make way for you to develop coping strategies and the necessary resilience to overcome the challenges you are experiencing.

Strive for a healthy balance in the way you assess your situation. So you might ask yourself, “Were my expectations realistic?" If your answer is yes, you might need to consider what you could do differently as you move to find solutions.

Why not consider a life coach to help you to bridge the gap, and get to where you want to be? Similarly, in all of this, is is helpful to remind yourself that your disappointments will pass, that that won't last forever.

Keep pressing on despite the disappointments that you face.
Keep pressing on despite the disappointments that you face. | Source

3. Rebuild Your Self-Image and Confidence

How you see yourself will determine the way you handle your disappointments. It is likely that because of what happened you might feel badly about yourself, and this can this can prevent you from working towards personal goals. So begin by taking good care of yourself through eating healthy meals and regular exercise. Furthermore, despite your setback, maximize your talents and abilities, by intentionally making the most of your strengths.

Do things to help you to feel better about yourself. For example, change your negative thought patterns to more positive ones. You might be repeating negative messages to yourself like, “I’m a loser.” As you pay attention to these negative thought patterns, develop positive statements to replace these, an repeat them over and over to yourself.

Steps to Handle Your Disappointment

Steps to deal with Disappointment
Points to Remember
Why is this Helpful?
Acknowledge your feelings
Your emotions are a part of you.
Helps you to keep in touch with your feeling.
Be open to new perspectives
Your expectation may not been realistic
You can learn from your experience
Rebuild your self-image and confidence
Despite your setbacks you have abilities and gifts you can maximize
Building on your strengths prepares you to move forward
Draw on your inner reources to rebound
As you face feelings of inadequacy ask God for help
His resources are available to you.
Keep hope alive
Don't give up despite how difficult things get
Your disappointment won't last forever
Get involved in variety of activities
Use these opportunities reach out and help others
You gain a sense of satisfaction that encourages you
Develop a caring network
Gain support and encouragement from family and friends
Inspire you to bounce back from your disappointment
Specific Steps to Deal with Your Disappointments

Inspiration to Help You Move On from Your Disappointment

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4. Build Relationships and Ask for Help

You you will find that you are not able to handle the disappointment you experience all on your own. Why not ask God for help? He ready and waiting to help you in your times of distress. He will help you to keep your hope alive.

You will also need to develop a caring network of people who will support you as you deal with your setback. Similarly, take time to build healthy relationships, and find time for conversations and activities you enjoy.

Why not help someone in need? Involvement in various activities takes your mind off your situation, but it also encourages you, and gives you a sense of purpose.

Moving on after disappointments; it's not a sprint  but an endurance race.
Moving on after disappointments; it's not a sprint but an endurance race. | Source

The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.

— Earl of Beaconsfield

Move Ahead!

Taking the steps suggested, will help you to become more self-aware, that is, understanding your own feelings, thoughts, and motives. As you do, you develop the confidence, skills, and commitment to overcome your disappointment.

This confidence will serve as a springboard for you to move ahead to achieve the goals you set for your personal, family, and professional life.

© 2013 Yvette Stupart PhD

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 6 months ago from Jamaica

      Thanks, Mark. Yes, becoming more self-aware opens us to new perspectives and possibilities.

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      Mark Tulin 6 months ago from Santa Barbara, California

      I especially like the point of opening up to new perspectives. Indeed disappointments can open new doors. Thanks.

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Thank you. I'm so happy you find my hubs useful.

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      StricktlyDating 3 years ago from Australia

      I'm glad you are sharing your knowledge here on Hubpages. It is really interesting to read your work!

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 4 years ago from Jamaica

      Thank you PoeticPhilosophy, I will keep writing. We all face disappointment in life, we need to acknowledge our feelings, and take positive steps to deal with them.

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      PoeticPhilosophy 4 years ago from Canada

      Great read! and amazing point's. When you're aware of an emotion, anything it almost instantly stop's any feeling/sensation and also benefit's you in being aware of your present. Great, so happy to have people who to help more in the world. Keep on writing Purpose Embraced :).

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 4 years ago from Jamaica

      Thanks Happinessteacher. I agree, we need to move forward after disappointments

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      Happinessteacher 4 years ago

      Useful hub, Thanks. Only one way to go after disappointment - upwards

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 4 years ago from Jamaica

      Thanks very much, sholland10 for your welcome. I am happy you found my hub helpful.


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      Susan Holland 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      Welcome to HubPages, Purpose Embraced!

      What wonderful, realistic advice on dealing with disappointment. It matches what my mother used to tell me, "Pick yourself up, wipe yourself off, and keep going." She never allowed her kids to let the negative take over. A sense of God and self is what she instilled, and your advice goes right along with that. You have a great message with your hub!

      Again, Welcome!! :-)