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How to like yourself- Essence of good living!

Updated on November 9, 2013

‘The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” –Steve Maraboli

I like myself very much and this makes me happy and satisfied. I think I am a good human being and quiet a likeable person.

Do you like yourself? This self analysis about yourself is very important for you to evolve into a good human being.

‘You yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, deserve your love and affection- Buddha

Why you should like yourself

  • You face life with satisfaction
  • Satisfaction is necessary for your day to day happiness.
  • You are energetic
  • You do things with a positive mindset.

People with low opinion about themselves

Have you seen some people? They always sport a glum look in their face and make their life and those around them miserable. Such people do not enjoy any happiness in their life as they have such low opinion about themselves.

Have a credible image

You should always have a credible image about yourself. You have many good qualities and so be the first person to acknowledge it. When you recognize your good points, it becomes easy for you to chisel your character as a self confident person. If you have a low opinion about yourself, you withdraw into a gloomy shell where no air of happiness can penetrate.

To err is human

Have you committed some mistake? Do feel miserable and depressed about it? As the old saying goes ‘to err is human’. Everyone makes mistakes and there is nothing wrong about it. It is the continuous making of mistakes and not being guilty about it that makes you a person hated by all.

Ask forgiveness

When you make mistakes, do not keep thinking about it and degrade yourself as though you have committed a crime. Have you deliberately hurt someone and feel you are at fault? Then do not hesitate to apologize and ask forgiveness. Asking forgiveness is a quality not many possess. When you ask forgiveness your mind becomes light and the guilty thought is off your shoulder to make you feel good about yourself.

Cultivate assertiveness

Sometimes the success of your friends and colleagues make you feel low about yourself. You watch your colleagues and friends being confident and assertive and feel you are no match to them and the result is a sense of inferiority complex. When your colleagues can be assertive, why can’t you be? Assertiveness can be cultivated nd you are able to interact with others with self assurance.

Be well groomed

Do not dress shabbily and present a picture of utter dejection, with wavering eyes, stooped shoulders and pulled down lips. You will not like yourself when you see your reflection in the mirror. Your eyes should not waver and you should look straight into the eyes of the person you are speaking to.

Straighten your shoulders and walk erect. Dress within your budget, but with exclusive taste. It is wrong notion that you will look good only when you wear costly clothes; it is the way you carry yourself that matters.

My experience

When I was facing hardships in my life, I became very particular about the way I dressed. Even when my husband was very sick, I never let go my appearance as I did not want the pity of anyone. If I sported a disheveled look, people would utter words of self gratifying consolation which would hurt me. My sorrow was mine and it was I who has to deal with it. When I dealt with it authoritatively my confidence level boosted up and I became my own admirer and I remain so to this date.

“In your own life it's important to know how spectacular you are.” –Steve Maraboli

Trust yourself

Trust yourself infinitely and believe that you were born to win. Small or consistent failures should not daunt you. Whenever you achieve something, congratulate yourself as you really deserve it. Train your mind to think positively about yourself and when you start liking yourself, you will feel that your life is worth living and you deserve the best in life and you are sure to get it.

© 2012 mathira


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      Kate McBride 5 years ago from Donegal Ireland

      There are many gems of wisdom in this hub.I learned a lot from it. Voted it up and useful. Thanks

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      ilknur 5 years ago from turkey

      at first you should like yourself and you will like others. whatever characteristics we have, we suppose to accept ourselves as we are. as long as man wish and endeavor,nothing is impossible.

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      Dr Pooja 5 years ago

      I don't know how you read my brain today . I have felt low coz of a friend so long that today I decided I will let her not disturb me and concentrate on my good and bad to evolve as a human are right we have duty to ourselves first and foremost.

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      mathira 5 years ago from chennai

      Thank you ALUR. You are right when you say that there should be an honest approach while analysing yourself.

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      ALUR 5 years ago from USA

      I have to admit one of the most difficult hurdles in my life has been to actually "like" myself. Though I am blessed on many levels there remains disengagement with youth and life and things that have passed. I am however reminded that the core of liking yourself does need to be an honest approach: like the good, the bad and ugly with honesty.

      Thanks for your article.

      You're welcome to read/rate my hubs as well:)

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      mathira 5 years ago from chennai

      I just want emphasis that only when you have a good opinion of yourself , you can evolve into a better person. Anyone can see through artificiality and there is nothing artificial in liking yourself, Rajan. Anyway thank you for your opinion.

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      Disillusioned 5 years ago from Kerala, India

      Your emphasis on positive thinking has its roots in the western world. I would rather make a neutral assessment of myself rather than painting myself all white and feel artificially confident. People can easily see through artificiality.