- Quality of Life & Wellness
How to overcome problems in life? Easy ways!
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines- Robert.H.Schuller
Do you fear life as waves of misfortune strike you?
Do you feel your life worthless?
I always take a third party view of my life and it makes me see all my problems in its proper perspective. When problems plague you, you feel depressed and dejected. There seems no way out of your problems and you lose all hope and think you are destined to suffer.
I was one of you, not so long ago. Problems after problems plagued me and I thought that my life will always be a struggle to overcome them.‘Will I ever see dawn’, my heart would beg and my depressed mind would say, ‘you are born to suffer’.
Mine was a nightmarish life of debts, financial debacle, and above all the sickness of my husband. My days were spent in borrowing money for my husband’s treatment and even now I can sense the cringing feeling I had when I had to persistently borrow money for my husband’s treatment. I wallowed in self pity and thought I was targeted by god to show his wrath.
I thought my problems would never end
I viewed my life as a dismal failure as I was an active participant of my problems and so did not see any hope. I felt I was losing my sanity and the death of my husband aggravated my depressive outlook towards life. My gloomy attitude made my daughter feel the emotional vacuum of a fatherless existence and she always had a lost look in her face.
i could not bear to see my usually cheerful daughter looking sad and depressed. 'No i will not let her feel the loss' I mentally geared myself up.I gathered all my inner strength and I became a third party analyzer of my life.'This too shall pass' I told myself. This changed my life in such a way that I have become courageous and raring to face any problem in my life.
Be the writer of your own life
When you are a participant of your sufferings, your mind sees only the negative side and your vision are blurred that you cannot look further. Imagine you are a writer and you are writing the story of your own life. You write about your suffering and since you are the creator of your story, you know you have to write about how you overcame your sufferings. There will be no readers if you keep writing only about your sufferings and do not write about how you solved your problems.
There is joy round the corner
When there is a problem, there is a solution. When there is suffering, there is joy round the corner. When you deviate from your problems, it stays to torture you. When you go towards your problem, you see lot of ways to overcome it.
Nothing is permanent in this world and everything rushes to past tense and likewise your problems also will fly away to become a past. Your mental attitude should be full of optimism so that you become spirited to tackle any problems you may face.
If it is financial problems you are facing, you should analyze where you went wrong and look for loopholes through which your money is draining. You can cut down your expenditure and there are many ways wherein you can enhance your earnings. If it is family problems you are undergoing, you need to nurture your relationship. It is not the problems that actually destroy your happiness; it is your inactivity in dealing with it that aggravates your problem.
Problems are lessons
Problems actually make you a new person. When you look at your problems as lessons to make you a better person, you emerge victorious and achieve great heights of success. When you look at problems as some demon out to destroy you, you are sucked into the quicksand of defeat. Do not make a mountain of your problems as you will need the tricks of a talented mountaineer to overcome your problems and not many possess it. Treat your problems as a small hurdle and you will leap over it to race towards the winning post.
© 2012 mathira