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How to raise a child with your eyes closed
This was just during a coming and going rain. When you can see for miles and miles rain is there but not here.
The art of seeing with your eyes "closed".
Hey a big howdy first and a bit of respect for those who cannot see with their eyes. I have no idea what it would be like to be blind. I have a sister nearly going blind and we talk about it, but I think that is not really the same as being blind. What little I know about blindness includes that other senses are piqued. Now that is a good thing I suppose, although again, I do not know. Anyhow, major kudos to those who make it in this world, geared toward sight, without it and a big thank you to those who assist them including the animals.
Imagine that, if we take away sight then our other senses are compensating and become more intense. And I think we have to include that other sense in this. That master of all senses intuition. They actually do a good job on intuition here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intuition
For our purposes by intuition we mean some actual sense that is part mind and part ethereal. Of course the ethereal here really means something we cannot perfectly explain with science- yet. Philosophy would have us believe in a higher level of consciousness. But you can see where we are going with this.
I suppose raising a child is really just to put these concepts in context because this notion applies to all things life. We watch children like hawks watch a field mouse. We are constantly ready, willing and able to swoop in at any minute. We see them with our eyes and judge and react accordingly. How appropriate. But suppose we did not concentrate on the eyes so much that we did not use our other senses. Who among us has not been busy in one place and have told the person talking to speak up that we were paying attention just busy with our hands. I like the speaker function on a phone -- I know that many do not. Some people actually need you to look at them when they speak or they get all bothered, probably insecurity. Phones are the best though for seeing the concept that sight is something we just take for granted. I love to watch someone "speak with their hands" while they are on the phone. It really is funny if you think about it. Ah yes back to the senses when we turn one off we get heightened in the others. I listen to my 5 year old a whole lot. Oh no not just the nurturing listen to what he is saying but for the grunts and muttering and of course for a crash of something. When I cannot look right at him my hearing goes all hyper sensitive.
Isn't this a cool thing to think about?
Have you ever gone outside in the rain and closed your eyes and looked up and just felt the rain instead of watching it. Do it please. Hey they should have the
That is a flash flood in back of my son and a very good friend.
So how do we raise a child with our eyes "closed".
I routinely kiss my son on the forehead at night. Yes I love him and it is affectionate as I say goodnight. But just as much it is to gauge his temperature. That simple loving touch tells me he is OK. Or on two occasions has told me without him saying anything that he was not OK but running a temp. Early indicators of a sore throat once and an ear infection once. No sight, no hearing simply the touch.
Of course if you see my picture I have no need to tell you that my nose knows many things. At one time in my son's development I was able to predict when a big poo poo was coming. No need to elaborate on that one. Thank goodness for potty training.
The spice content of foods is critical in keeping a healthy happy child. Too much sugar is bad. Too much spicy hot is bad. Certainly to much salt is bad. So I am the little tyke king's personal food taster.
Oh good now we are done with the five senses and can move on to the sixth sense where the stuff gets really interesting.
You could smell autumn in the air and feel the fallen leaves beneath your feet.
Isn't this cool. Last night we had a big rain right at bedtime. Wow is that great. My son told me he heard the thunder and the lightening. Perhaps he did we wil
There is a husband and wife. The man was born and raised high on a mountain at over 7,000 feet where 200 inches of snow fell a year and temperatures frequently dropped below 0. The wife was born and raised in a low delta area with temperatures often above 100 nearly year round with tons of rain. The moved to and live in a coastal desert. Temperatures range from chilly to over 100 degrees. They do not run an automatic thermostat in their ranch style home. They do it by feel. Even with the wide variance of normalcy between them they are comfortable with the temperature. One would surmise that they also had real feelings for each other. Maybe that is not an innate, intuitional thing. Or maybe it is. They both without looking at a thermometer know how to keep their young child warm or cool. They do it with their eyes closed.
Maybe that gives too much of a tactile notion. Do you know when you are in danger without it being apparent? We suppose some do and some do not. Do you pretty much always know what direction is North? Some do and some don't. But do you know when a significant other is hungry without them saying so? If you don't then this hub is for you.
Empathy is more developed in some than in others. Notice in this vein we say "developed". As though we can train ourselves to have empathy or choose to ignore it. You can feel what your child needs with your eyes closed. But some people choose to ignore that in favor of only relying on the other five senses. One could chalk that up to having a linear scientific mind verses a less empirical bent.
I would suggest that you do not do that. I suggest that you get in touch with your "gut". You do not need to go all Willy Wonkers. You just need to try a little.
Now there is a warning here. You will feel your child or another's happiness and joy more. But you will also feel their distress more.
I suppose this is just something to think about. If you want to learn more about the mechanics, first just try giving it a go using your own intuition as to how to proceed. Chances are real good you already know how, you just did not make it a priority.
Hey go hug somebody with your mind today.