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How to raise a child with your eyes closed

Updated on December 12, 2015

This was just during a coming and going rain. When you can see for miles and miles rain is there but not here.

Petrichor hung heavy in the air as  I took this picture. When I look at it now I can still smell it.
Petrichor hung heavy in the air as I took this picture. When I look at it now I can still smell it. | Source

The art of seeing with your eyes "closed".

Hey a big howdy first and a bit of respect for those who cannot see with their eyes. I have no idea what it would be like to be blind. I have a sister nearly going blind and we talk about it, but I think that is not really the same as being blind. What little I know about blindness includes that other senses are piqued. Now that is a good thing I suppose, although again, I do not know. Anyhow, major kudos to those who make it in this world, geared toward sight, without it and a big thank you to those who assist them including the animals.

Imagine that, if we take away sight then our other senses are compensating and become more intense. And I think we have to include that other sense in this. That master of all senses intuition. They actually do a good job on intuition here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intuition

For our purposes by intuition we mean some actual sense that is part mind and part ethereal. Of course the ethereal here really means something we cannot perfectly explain with science- yet. Philosophy would have us believe in a higher level of consciousness. But you can see where we are going with this.

I suppose raising a child is really just to put these concepts in context because this notion applies to all things life. We watch children like hawks watch a field mouse. We are constantly ready, willing and able to swoop in at any minute. We see them with our eyes and judge and react accordingly. How appropriate. But suppose we did not concentrate on the eyes so much that we did not use our other senses. Who among us has not been busy in one place and have told the person talking to speak up that we were paying attention just busy with our hands. I like the speaker function on a phone -- I know that many do not. Some people actually need you to look at them when they speak or they get all bothered, probably insecurity. Phones are the best though for seeing the concept that sight is something we just take for granted. I love to watch someone "speak with their hands" while they are on the phone. It really is funny if you think about it. Ah yes back to the senses when we turn one off we get heightened in the others. I listen to my 5 year old a whole lot. Oh no not just the nurturing listen to what he is saying but for the grunts and muttering and of course for a crash of something. When I cannot look right at him my hearing goes all hyper sensitive.

Isn't this a cool thing to think about?

Have you ever gone outside in the rain and closed your eyes and looked up and just felt the rain instead of watching it. Do it please. Hey they should have the

That is a flash flood in back of my son and a very good friend.

Hiking out of this canyon after the flood made every step on a rock tentative because the flood had loosened everything up, We hike by intuition and a whole bunch of luck.
Hiking out of this canyon after the flood made every step on a rock tentative because the flood had loosened everything up, We hike by intuition and a whole bunch of luck. | Source

So how do we raise a child with our eyes "closed".

I routinely kiss my son on the forehead at night. Yes I love him and it is affectionate as I say goodnight. But just as much it is to gauge his temperature. That simple loving touch tells me he is OK. Or on two occasions has told me without him saying anything that he was not OK but running a temp. Early indicators of a sore throat once and an ear infection once. No sight, no hearing simply the touch.

Of course if you see my picture I have no need to tell you that my nose knows many things. At one time in my son's development I was able to predict when a big poo poo was coming. No need to elaborate on that one. Thank goodness for potty training.

The spice content of foods is critical in keeping a healthy happy child. Too much sugar is bad. Too much spicy hot is bad. Certainly to much salt is bad. So I am the little tyke king's personal food taster.

Oh good now we are done with the five senses and can move on to the sixth sense where the stuff gets really interesting.

You could smell autumn in the air and feel the fallen leaves beneath your feet.

It was a day of a memorial service for my wonderful mom. I could sense her there with us.
It was a day of a memorial service for my wonderful mom. I could sense her there with us. | Source

Isn't this cool. Last night we had a big rain right at bedtime. Wow is that great. My son told me he heard the thunder and the lightening. Perhaps he did we wil

There is a husband and wife. The man was born and raised high on a mountain at over 7,000 feet where 200 inches of snow fell a year and temperatures frequently dropped below 0. The wife was born and raised in a low delta area with temperatures often above 100 nearly year round with tons of rain. The moved to and live in a coastal desert. Temperatures range from chilly to over 100 degrees. They do not run an automatic thermostat in their ranch style home. They do it by feel. Even with the wide variance of normalcy between them they are comfortable with the temperature. One would surmise that they also had real feelings for each other. Maybe that is not an innate, intuitional thing. Or maybe it is. They both without looking at a thermometer know how to keep their young child warm or cool. They do it with their eyes closed.

Maybe that gives too much of a tactile notion. Do you know when you are in danger without it being apparent? We suppose some do and some do not. Do you pretty much always know what direction is North? Some do and some don't. But do you know when a significant other is hungry without them saying so? If you don't then this hub is for you.

Empathy is more developed in some than in others. Notice in this vein we say "developed". As though we can train ourselves to have empathy or choose to ignore it. You can feel what your child needs with your eyes closed. But some people choose to ignore that in favor of only relying on the other five senses. One could chalk that up to having a linear scientific mind verses a less empirical bent.

I would suggest that you do not do that. I suggest that you get in touch with your "gut". You do not need to go all Willy Wonkers. You just need to try a little.

Now there is a warning here. You will feel your child or another's happiness and joy more. But you will also feel their distress more.

I suppose this is just something to think about. If you want to learn more about the mechanics, first just try giving it a go using your own intuition as to how to proceed. Chances are real good you already know how, you just did not make it a priority.

Hey go hug somebody with your mind today.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 16 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I was taught in nursing training to have empathy but not sympathy. I found that very difficult to do, especially when one of your patient's died. We were also taught to use all our sense's, especially seeing and touching. The hearing sense came in vividly when someone was having suicidal thoughts. ( phyco. ward ) I guess we use all our sense's when we raise a child, sometimes words were not necessary. I like that, " Hug somebody with your mind today. "

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      whonunuwho 16 months ago from United States

      As a former teacher of kids in special needs classes, I learned to utilize all my senses because many in the classes learned best by visual, hearing, or kinesthetic means. Some used all their senses. I learned a lot from them and hoped that they got the true understanding each one deserved from me. Thanks for this precious sharing and we all can use special ways in which to better our children's lives. whonu

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I love the message here....I raised a kid by throwing darts at a dartboard and hey, he turned out okay. :) Seriously, you are right on!

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Ruby, I was raised in a very medical family. My dad was a great diagnostician. Long before CT Scans and the like. He taught us to relate what we felt inside, it has served me quite well. Children need our feelings more than our instruction.

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Whonu, teachers must have all senses on alert. I call my son's teacher a holistic teacher because she combines so much of herself with each student. Writing this helped me to get a handle on it.

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, I run by the principle of no big deals. My wife runs on "everything is a big deal" somehow it all works out alright -- so far. Darts makes sense to me.

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      Dana Tate 16 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      It's funny the other day I saw a blind person crossing the street and I thought- " We depend too much on our ability to see while blind people depend on hearing and intuition. Some people depend so much on their eyesight they can barely hear. One of my biggest pet-peeve is when I am talking to someone and they turn to me and say "huh" I want to bash their head in. Just kidding- No I'm really not.

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana,

      I have great grievance about "Overuse of Phone". But I have to admit that I like to see folks fully engulfed in listening. I just wish they would not do it while driving.

      Fun that divide between listening and hearing. Thank you for coming by and dropping a note. I really appreciate your support.

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      Denise W Anderson 16 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Just yesterday, I had a gut feeling that I should go with my husband. He was traveling for a church assignment to a city over an hour away. There was a dense fog over the area and I was concerned for his safety. I felt that if it were his time to go, I would want to be with him! We had several close calls, and some disappointment that may have been devastating for him had he been alone. As it was, we both made it home safely! I believe that there is really something to this "sixth sense" business!

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Denise, we always consider it a blessing when you visit. I think our "need" to accompany others is not just a purpose but a gift to ourselves and the other. The concept of "just being there" is not just a cliche' it is inside us. That sixth sense helps us hear that wonderful voice that is joined with God's.

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      Frank Atanacio 16 months ago from Shelton

      Eric what a very interesting Hub... I understand the concept but never gave any stock to it.. hmmm maybe, just maybe I should :)

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      Eric Dierker 16 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hello again Frank, as the primary caretaker of my 5 year old I put way too much thought into it. Thank you for giving it a read and commenting.

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