- Mental Health
Becoming A Better Person
At the start of every New Year, most of us promise ourselves that this year we will work on self improvement and add some good features to our personalities in order to become a better person. I have observed there are some people who even vow to themselves that no matter what happens they will show up their best and by end of the year people will notice them as a better and a more reformed person.
We all know personality is a combination of many traits both positive and negative .Each person carries within him or herself an attitude, a behavior of different kind and approach. Some appear to be very reformed and well balanced while there are many who really need to do some work on their self improvement. The question is how to build up a personality which can help us improve not only ourselves but also contribute good feeling to the environment around us. This article will definitely explain to you some of the best ways to bring marked improvement in your personality helping you become a better person.
OBSERVE YOUR NEGATIVE TRAITS:
The very first thing on your way to self improvement is to focus on the negative traits you possess. This is one of the most important things without which you cannot move ahead well with self improving objective. You have to observe the negative features which you carry within yourself. Features like anger, impatience, intolerance, selfishness, egoism etc are the ones which should be worked on and removed from your life. I myself have really been working on the impatience I carry. Patience mostly has been not my virtue and is in my own self improving list. I have kept it as my top priority and have always looked forward to improve this bothering feature of my personality. And with continuous efforts over the years I myself now feel that I have really improved with regard to staying impatient .Similarly you can also seek your own negative personality traits and work on them to make a marked improvement in your personality.
FOCUS ON GROWTH:
By “growth” I do not mean the physical growth in height rather on raising your personal heights in both thinking and working. Discover your objective and know what exactly you desire to do. Be open to change and stay growth oriented so that you can work well on self improvement program. The more you grow; there is a brighter chance of becoming a better person.
HAVING ROLE MODELS HELP:
There are many people in our lives whom we come across, not only in our personal lives but also on a wider scale all around the world. From family members to friends, from leaders to celebrities we get impressed by many of them. Their ideas, their notions, their physical appearances, anything can impress us much. In self improvement goal, you should seek for such role models and try to add to your personalities whatever impresses you much. For instance Oprah, I really like her philosophy about the self help and her ideas about motivating yourself are some which I will always like to add to my personality. Similar is the thing you can do with whoever impresses you with their compassion, humbleness, intelligence, or anything you like , add those traits to your personality on your road of becoming a better person.
YOU CAN BE A MENTOR:
It is not only about adding something to your personality but you can also be a source of inspiration to others. You can set certain goals and standards for other people around you by staying as a good example to others. I am not saying that you should become what you are not but in fact you can improve in becoming a better person by making sure you have the quality and features which others can look up to and get inspired from. Setting good examples for others in a way helps you to act that are acceptable and encouraged by others also.
BE A BETTER PERSON IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:
Whether you are a parent, a son or a daughter, a sibling, husband or a wife or even a friend, whatever is the relationship you have with people around you, try to make it a good one. Appreciate your relations with others, give them proper time and whatever expectations they have from you, try to fulfill them in the best way possible . Giving out your hundred percent is not possible but at least you should try to stay good and make others happy around you. Always remember if you expect other people to behave well with you,fulfill your demand and your desires, then you should also act in the same way which you need from others. Relationships are all about give and take and you should learn this art in order to make yourself a better person.
"Be the type of person
you want to meet"
BECOME A BETTER MEMBER OF YOUR SOCIETY:
Becoming a better person is not only restricted to your relationships. You should also contribute well to your society and the community you live in. Developing qualities like honesty, being clean, and helping out the people around you will give you an immense satisfaction of positivity. You will feel that you have in actual done something what is good for you in your way of becoming a good person.
IMPROVE ON YOUR SKILLS:
Whatever skills you possess, work on them more. Learn something new about them. There is always a room for improvement. You can strengthen your skills by improving on the knowledge you already have. You might have seen many people who are always eager to learn about things and add new techniques to whatever they do. People like sportsmen, no matter how famous they are, still work hard to break world records or even sometimes make their own records stronger. This is exactly what you need to do and work your way up to whatever knowledge or a particular skill you have, improve on it.
Accepting your differences with others, showing tolerance and flexibility is also an important task to achieve your way of becoming a better person. In the world of today, we all are increasingly seening this feature very much lacking or at times totally missing. You must try to add this particular attribute of tolerance to your personality if you desire not only for yourself to be better but also make this world a improved place to live and survive for others. Always keep this thing in mind that rigidity in something never helps rather flexibility or adaptability to something is which matters.
Keeping your mind and thoughts clear is something which is very significant also. Always do what you think is not only right for yourself but also for the others. Keep your intentions good and leave all the selfishness aside. Show your concern and care for the people around you. In doing so, stand up for what is right and don’t go with something which you think can harm others in a negative way. In becoming a better person you really need to be considerate and thoughtful for others as well.
Always remember those who are responsible individuals are the ones who touch the heights of great success. You have to understand your responsibility towards each and everything around you. From your personal relationships to the your interaction with the society or the world around you, keep it in mind that you have certain features to look for and act as a normal , courteous, understanding, and a wise person. You have to learn to comprehend things form others perspective. Put yourself in their shoes and see what and how they feel at certain times. Show your reactions according to that and understand the responsibility you owe to others.
Whatever you do, do it with confidence. Your confidence is the key to success in anything you do. Never take a “no you cannot do that feeling”. Stay away from naysayers who put you down and always do whatever you think and feel yourself is right by trusting your own abilities. In short, have faith in your own self. Make excellence your target and try to do things in the best possible way.
In your way of being a better person, a very important thing to keep in mind is that you do not have to make a big deal out of it. All you have to do is to try to make improvements with whatever comes your way and just do it in the best way you can. Change your approach towards things and you will see good things, peace of heart, mind, and a lot of admiration flowing towards your way. Just by making simple efforts you can bring a marked improvement in yourself and will become a better person who is well admired and much appreciated by others.
© 2012 Saadia A